Bullying

[Shar]

I do think about it a lot, and hopefully one day I will, but right now I have so many bills and stuff to pay, that I need to keep my job to pay them all! I wish it was as easy as just going to college/uni now etc, but I guess I've chosen the harder route and chickened out and so now I need to face the consequences haha. My car costs me a lot too. Ever since I was really young I dreamed of being a teacher, was always my dream and I even turned my bedroom into a lifelike classroom, complete with a massive whiteboard the school let me have, projector, proper school desks, filing cabinets, draws etc. Made so many lesson plans, was a proper sad child Had all my family up there 'teaching' them, and well yeah I look back and cringe haha.

Would love to achieve that dream some day, its just not the easiest of professions to get into I guess, involves lots of time and money, and I'm kind of stuck in this position now since I have so many outgoings

It's never too late Martin, I hope you pursue your dream some time soon

[FlyingJesus]

The opportunity will be there waiting for you Martin even if you're not ready for it right now - I myself had 3 years of doing absolutely nothing not even being able to work (though god knows I wanted to) and then I finally with a bit of help was able to get myself back into college and now uni where I like to think I'm flourishing. Our problems aren't quite the same but the principle and consequences are similar enough for me to be able to tell you that there will always be a place for you on the path you'd rather be walking, and that help is always there if you really look for it and try to let it work

[Martin]

Thanks guys I guess who knows what could happen really haha. So many unexpected things happened last year, things I would never have dreamed would happen and so I believe that life is what you make it really, but also some nice surprises can pop up along the way. Its a bit tricky right now since I'm kind of stuck paying off my car for a couple more years, as well as other bills, and I'm not full time at work so yeah but I guess there are other routes and alternatives too which I will definitely look into one day. I didn't spend all that time making my own classroom for nothing!! but yeah, it really is a dream of mine.

The opportunity will be there waiting for you Martin even if you're not ready for it right now - I myself had 3 years of doing absolutely nothing not even being able to work (though god knows I wanted to) and then I finally with a bit of help was able to get myself back into college and now uni where I like to think I'm flourishing. Our problems aren't quite the same but the principle and consequences are similar enough for me to be able to tell you that there will always be a place for you on the path you'd rather be walking, and that help is always there if you really look for it and try to let it work

Aww thats such a nice story, I'm so glad you got help, were able to get back into things and you are enjoying Uni! I think you have to have a lot of motivation for something to happen and if you put enough determination into it, it will happen. I'm going to give it another couple of years perhaps, get myself sorted and then really look into following that dream path

[Charz777]

Well, I've been bullied countless times over the years for being intelligent and ginger. Got bullied in Year 7 by some guys throwing rocks at me, in Year 8 some guy threw a 2p at my head and cracked my head open and in Year 12, some Year 13s decided to create a facebook group to get me and my girlfriend banned from the sixth form common room for being ugly. Had about 190 people signed up (including teachers) by the time it got taken down. So yeah, I'm used to it, doesn't phase me anymore...

We weren't common room hated for being ugly, it's because we were kissing and people thought it was gross/were jealous!

Got bullied by some girl when I was in year 3, she was in year 6. It was like she forced me into being her friend and she was quite butch and tomboy-y and dominating. Sort of weird. Remember being scared ****less. At the same time I thought it was cool that someone 3 years older was forcing me to be their friend. Deluded child...

[Rozi]

hmm I've never had like a 'bullying campaign' against me, but girls can be very very ******.

In primary school we had like a 3 girl group and we were super close knit, so sometimes we'd deliberately exclude people, like ignore them, tell them to go away etc which is super cruel. I'd like to think it's because one of my friends used to be very dominating, but I obviously played some part in it. I was (and am a little (although I really try to control it)) very good at manipulating people to change their views on others, which is something I regret.

I also never ever used to speak up about things that made me uncomfortable. There was a girl who was just a bit of a *****, and after months of her making snide comments I decided to leave my group of friends (who are/were still very focused on loyalty, a concept I feel is ridiculous) and making friends with a girl called Cameo. I still remember exactly what she said cause I wrote it down aha; "Rosie, who do you hate the most", "I don't hate anyone....", "That's because you're weak haha" (seriously wtf....). So yeah basically I was great friends with this girl for like 3 months and they used to follow us round and go "mine, mine, mine" from finding nemo, which doesn't even make sense. But I started getting bored of her, and then just dropped her and went back to my friends (who I actually hadn't talked to in this time, it was super awkward because my old friend's mum used to give me a lot of lifts). They then started bullying her, like following her around the playground and saying horrible things, but I didn't say anything about it she ended up leaving the school - also partly because her dad had this massive beef with this other girls dad. but yeah I feel awful about that. OK THANKS GOT THAT OFF MY CHEST.

[Cerys]

Yep, I've been bullied too many times. In primary it was because I was a teachers daughter so apparantly I deserved people being rude to me for it. Then it moved onto calling me a rabbit as I had/have 'oversized' front teeth. 8 years on I still get the occaionl reminder of that name. Honestly, I've blocked out most primary memories
Then I moved onto the joys of highschool... how fun. I get comments on my weight and looks which has made me lose all self confidence or whatever it is. And as most of you know... this has led me to lie about who I am to perhaps be accepted, clearly going a bit over the top in some cases.
Then we get to my english teacher! Not really sure if she should be a teacher. She makes frequent comments on how I have a, according to her, severe mental disorder and how I should be banned from her classroom. Luckily she's on maternity leave atm (poor baby ;_.

Would go into more detail but im on a tablet so typing is soo slow and gives many errors in spelling etc.