nobodys perfect.

[Kieran]

I've never really understand the reason for people selfharming. My mum's a head of year and part of her job is child protection. She tells me how if one girl does it... her friends start doing it. I just don't get it!?

[e5]

Read Buttons' posts.

I've never really understand the reason for people selfharming. My mum's a head of year and part of her job is child protection. She tells me how if one girl does it... her friends start doing it. I just don't get it!?

[Kieran]

Read Buttons' posts.

To me, that still doesn't explain the mentality behind it.

[buttons]

To me, that still doesn't explain the mentality behind it.

i don't know how to explain it other than "there are many different reasons. not everything fits all." in your case it's probably monkey see monkey do. we wouldn't self-harm with a razor blade unless we knew that's what other people do to ease the pain, we would find other ways. we wouldn't know to drink alcohol for confidence unless someone told us about it. it's learnt. i learnt self-harm from someone whilst i was at school, tried it to see if it made me feel better and it didnt, then remembered it later and this time it did.

uh don't brand every self-harmer under the category of teenage girls copying each other. it's simply not true. and as Stephen said, it's not only cutting yourself. do you ever get drunk when you're stressed/angry? can you understand people who do? that's how i can explain my situation, its a way of getting relief from a stressful situation BUT other people do it for other reasons. people do it to feel something, people do it to punish their bodies feeling as though they deserve it.

is there any point me going on, are you really hoping to understand? or will i just leave now because im not going in-depth and writing about something personal anymore just to be told its stupid, pointless and wrong by people who aren't even willing to understand and still want to bash others.

[sex]

brave is standing up in front of a school and teaching people about your experience with self-harm
brave isn't going behind a computer and posting on a forum where not many people know you or can see your face as you tell them about it

not sure why I got -repped because I'm talking about the people replying saying it's brave, not hating on the op for making the thread

Although I do think that posting pictures of the aftermath of that form of self-harm isn't needed because it just adds to the stereotype that all self-harmers cut

yeah because if they are doing it in the first place they will really have the confidence to get it in-front of an entire school to tell people what they did. its a lot easier to post things online and tell people about your story.

[mrwoooooooo]

So many self hammers on hxf omg. Maybe Habbo causes depression

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[e5]

Self hammers? Despite your mis-spelling of the word, I don't think your post is appropriate.

So many self hammers on hxf omg. Maybe Habbo causes depression

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[Empired]

Ok I have some questions as I've never self-harmed and, although I understand why other people do it, I can't get my head around one thing: are you not afraid of the pain? I would be terrified about how much it would hurt although I'm not sure why. Sometimes I feel I'd rather walk out in front of a car (hypothetical ok!!) than cut or something because it would be easier for people to understand me.

Not sure why, but I feel like I'd want other people to understand that I'm struggling with life (therefore involving them by jumping in front of a car) rather than secretly cutting. Because then NO ONE WOULD EVER KNOW so it would never get better?? I assume me thinking like this just means I'm not depressed, meaning I can't understand how a depressed person would think.

Also, if my mum found out I was cutting she would kill me :L Is this partly why self-harmers keep it to themselves? Because they are afraid people will be angry at them?

[Stephen]

Self hammers? Despite your mis-spelling of the word, I don't think your post is appropriate.

you could be both by hammering nails into the wall with your head

[mrwoooooooo]

Self hammers? Despite your mis-spelling of the word, I don't think your post is appropriate.

Edited by Matts (Forum Super Moderator): Please don't post pointlessly.