Polygamy - thoughts?

[Red]

Watched something on the centennial park mormans who practice it and just thought it was really weird. Having to take it in turns to be with their husband, the women having no choice of what next woman is next to join their family. I'd prob be jealous and have low self esteem.

[Judas]

Watched something on the centennial park mormans who practice it and just thought it was really weird. Having to take it in turns to be with their husband, the women having no choice of what next woman is next to join their family. I'd prob be jealous and have low self esteem.

That just seems unfair. Were the women happy though? It just kinda seems in situations like that one, that the man is the king and the women have to serve him, in a way.

[Red]

That just seems unfair. Were the women happy though? It just kinda seems in situations like that one, that the man is the king and the women have to serve him, in a way.

They admitted to sometimes getting jealous etc. Another family had so many children, her sister wives had to work to support them, so the first wife ended up having to look after the 18 kids on her own. awful lmao and I guess. The women could only have one husband but the men have multiple wives.

[Kyle]

I think a lot of people are polyamarous to an extent until they find a connection with 1 of the many they are attached to to be stronger than the rest. a lot of dating happens for example where one individual goes on a number of dates with different people over a short period of time and effectively picks their favourite(s). obviously not as equal as a polyamorous relationship would suggest but same basic concept and for the most part both parties are aware of the process of selection that is going on.

as for polygamy, from what I remember polygyny is more to do with ownership of women whereas polyandry stems from kinship where a wife will take multiple husbands to ensure proper care of her child(ren) and often these will be men from same family. polygyny obviously has some practical ideas around it tho. for example masai of kenya i visited who took multiple wives and had children with all of them seemingly to produce as many offspring as possible that would carry on name of them and their tribe.

polygamy is just a strange cultural practise to me that seems too deep rooted in some cultures to move on from and is centred on patriarchal possession. for men it is about having as man kids as humanly possible and having access to the means to sate their sexual desires and for women it is about dressing a woman up as a dominant force only to have her join a family full of males and effectively become their play thing.

monogamous relationship for me all day long pls. not saying it isn't possible for an individual to have a strong relationship with more than 1 person just think it is impractical for me cos of the inevitable jealousy that will emerge when 1 party is not devoting their full attention to the other.

[-:Undertaker:-]

No I wouldn't go along with it and I look on it with distaste.

[Zelda]

i have never properly understood monogamy personally and always thought that if someone loved two people, then they should be able to be in a relationship with both of them, i think i have my dad to blame for introducing me to why multiple relationships isn't necessarily a bad thing tbh.

personally, i used to think i personally wouldn't have been able to do it, but more lately i've considered the fact a lot more, and played a situation where these 2 guys i fancy both ask me out around the same time, and it's sorta come to light to me that i probably would date both of them at the same time IF they were both ok with that.

[buttons]

why are people so against others lifestyles and happiness sigh
u can't say one will ALWAYS be jealous of the other(s), u can't speak for someone's feelings or generalise. it's not as though monogamous relationships are without their faults. it's fine to be against it for your own situation but to say its unacceptable for all isn't really fair, taking away someone's right to love who they want is ridiculous, it's the same as taking away homosexuals right to marriage.
for me personally despite the fact i think it's possible to love more than one, i would choose one, i believe choosing to love is as important as the feeling itself. i like the sound of monogamous relationships and that's my preference