how do you heel a broken heart?

[Victimized]

Favourite Music:
panic! at the disco, system of a down, trivium, ramones, placebo, sugarcult, fall out boy, mcfly, the white stripes, siouxie and the banshees, the faces, the kinks, queen, guns n roses, the academy is, test icicles, foo fighters, rage against the machine, a perfect circle, nirvana, my chemical romance, jimmy eat world, korn, the strokes, the killers, led zeppelin, black sabbath, flogging molly, maximo park, arctic monkeys, phantom planet, green day, blink 182, weezer, no doubt, MAXIMO PARK!!!

Dislikes:
People who never give me a chance to explain, and ignore me, or people who make me cry, though most people I know have managed that.

Sure you aren't Some fairly decent bands in that list, but too many bad ones cancel them out for me...

If it's any consellation, pretty much all those bands are on mp3 player and i am far from emo, if only i could post a picture.

[edible]

Aetheist? You "hate" Jesus Christ and you're an aetheist? :rolleyes: Also, as for the "trust" part, why even put it then?

Nikkee, take a look, he was defending you, I didn't randomly insult him

I've been getting called emo, because of something.. By Bang Bang, i know it's only a joke. Cos im not emo. And RyanP, i like panic! at the disco, i like dark and bright colours, I like quite a few of them bands that you posted about. And she's certainly not emo. McFly are certainly not emo music anyway

Anyway on topic.
I know this is rather mean of me to say and im sorry, but you are quite clingy, try talking to him..

yeah lycan.. though, dont tell him about this, i dont want to make him mad or anything
ages ago, and i just keep pushing him and pushing him and pushing him and well no wonder, i mean ffs yesterday he said he wanted to be a bit more social and i went totally psycho and was all 'I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU!'so, like about once a week i 'dump him' like say somethhing like, fine we're not going out anymore, and i tell him i hate him alot, and i mean, its a surprise he hasnt dumped me
and i really really don't need anyone to tell me it's my own fault right now, because i don't know why i get so mad, maybe its for attention but i don't know, all i know is that i love him but ive hurt him so much and now im just so heart broken
and before you ask
yes
i've told him how i feel, and i just cant stop crying, its hard to breathe and i need him so so SO MUCH

You dumped him each week ? Then sorry but thats such a crud relationship, your probably going through like stress ? Hormones ?
Do you know him in real life ? Otherwise if your crying over a habbo thats seriously pathetic in my own personal opinion. But i suggest, cooling down, apoligizing, and unblocking him on msn. And talking cool to eachother.
See if he likes you. But dont try and look desperate for him back or clingy.
Just be formal and ask him :
Would you ever be with me again ?
Do you hate me guts ?
Do you love me still ?
Do you want me back ?

Any question at all.

Good luck

Vicks

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Sorry for double post, mod please delete this post.

[jordybumz!]

It's your own fault. If you tell a guy you hate him it's pretty obvious he's not gonna stick around.

[NIKKEE]

I've been getting called emo, because of something.. By Bang Bang, i know it's only a joke. Cos im not emo. And RyanP, i like panic! at the disco, i like dark and bright colours, I like quite a few of them bands that you posted about. And she's certainly not emo. McFly are certainly not emo music anyway

Anyway on topic.
I know this is rather mean of me to say and im sorry, but you are quite clingy, try talking to him..

You dumped him each week ? Then sorry but thats such a crud relationship, your probably going through like stress ? Hormones ?
Do you know him in real life ? Otherwise if your crying over a habbo thats seriously pathetic in my own personal opinion. But i suggest, cooling down, apoligizing, and unblocking him on msn. And talking cool to eachother.
See if he likes you. But dont try and look desperate for him back or clingy.
Just be formal and ask him :
Would you ever be with me again ?
Do you hate me guts ?
Do you love me still ?
Do you want me back ?

Any question at all.

Good luck

Vicks

no i dont know him off habbo, i cant help seeming desperate though, its not that im desperate, its because i love him and dont want to lose him!

and try talking to him? i already have... loads...

but thanks, ill try to ask him those

btw, i never blocked him
oh
and he wasn't defending me

[sarey]

no i dont know him off habbo, i cant help seeming desperate though, its not that im desperate, its because i love him and dont want to lose him!

and try talking to him? i already have... loads...

but thanks, ill try to ask him those

Seriously, vicki is a good adviser.

Anyway heres my long post:

yeah, how do you heal a broken heart?

Mines been broken alot, but hey im still alive.

but i dont want to! i just want him back because i love him

Of course you love him, otherwise you wouldnt be posting, but if hes split with you, then its obvious he doesnt anymore. I used to push at my ex(s), but im that way anyway, i used too always push, but then came the day that they actually did leave me, and that was the day i realiesed he did love me, and wanted me, but i just pushed him away, and was very paranoid.

yeah lycan.. though, dont tell him about this, i dont want to make him mad or anything
so, like about once a week i 'dump him' like say somethhing like, fine we're not going out anymore, and i tell him i hate him alot, and i mean, its a surprise he hasnt dumped me ages ago, and i just keep pushing him and pushing him and pushing him and well no wonder, i mean ffs yesterday he said he wanted to be a bit more social and i went totally psycho and was all 'I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU!'
and i really really don't need anyone to tell me it's my own fault right now, because i don't know why i get so mad, maybe its for attention but i don't know, all i know is that i love him but ive hurt him so much and now im just so heart broken
and before you ask
yes
i've told him how i feel, and i just cant stop crying, its hard to breathe and i need him so so SO MUCH

Its OK too be clingy, i was clingy with my ex ages ago, but sometimes they need space, too much time together can be .. suffocating should i put it, which is why he wanted to be a bit more social. Maybe your so locked up in love with him, you sometimes dont know what your saying because your feelings for him were/and still are deep.

oh my god, ive just realised hes taken away the - nicole always in my heart and thoughts- thingie he had in his whatever you call it
oh god
he really really really isn't going to take me back is he?!?!
WHAT AM I GOING TO DO?! i had planned my whole life around him
he IS my whole life...

You will find another lad in your life, its just passing through the stages after you split with someone you love deeply. Maybe he needs some time to think, or some space to chill for a bit, if he ever does get back with you, you have to be more calmer and dont push him away, let him socialize, give him space, thats if you ever do get back together, he may still think about you, wishing he never split with you, you never know, he could be hiding his true feelings for you.

Yes, it's for attention, as everything about you so far says "EMO!". Frankly, I feel no sympathy for you, you're one of those clingy girls who ring at about 3 in the morning and go mad when you talk to someone else.

Excuse me, after your heart is broken, yes id consider yourself being depressed for awhile. :/ Shes not emo, your pathetic for labelling her. Shesshh. :/

[NIKKEE]

thanks
although, i did 'dump' him but never meant it!!! i just said it, he went um ok...
and i went um ok we're not going out anymore
but i just said it because i was mad! argh...
i just really hate it when he says um ok, like im stupid, ok?
so i dont think that means its obvious he doesnt love me
but i HATE the fact it would be everything wasted, all the things we done, its as if hes not gonna think about the good times, and just remember the fact im a psychotic *****
but if my mum says i dont just do it to him, then surely he can see its a problem and not that im deliberately trying to hurt him...
and absolutely NONE of this is his fault, i dont blame, not one tiny bit, but i just wish he would understand...
i just feels like my insides are being ripped up, i never slept last night, just like i never the night before, well the night before i was crying most of the night, and last night i felt sick and went to the living room and watched baywatch...
i know i shoudl give him space, but, he always WANTS me around...
he never ever said he wanted space, but now he wants to be more social and i got mad at that because ive barely seen my friends because i love him and want to stay with him and now who can i turn to if he doesnt want me, its like... use and abuse really, as soon as he leaves i go back to them, and the fact is, i dont WANT to go see them, im much happier with chris
and the last time i did it, he said that if i did it again he would just leave, and i always thought he would be here you know... just be there to love me and call me gorgeous and be my boyfriend, the guy i love and hep me through things and hes the one i tell my problems to! i just cant imagine him not being here! god damnit...

[sarey]

thanks
although, i did 'dump' him but never meant it!!! i just said it, he went um ok...
and i went um ok we're not going out anymore
but i just said it because i was mad! argh...
i just really hate it when he says um ok, like im stupid, ok?
so i dont think that means its obvious he doesnt love me
but i HATE the fact it would be everything wasted, all the things we done, its as if hes not gonna think about the good times, and just remember the fact im a psychotic *****
but if my mum says i dont just do it to him, then surely he can see its a problem and not that im deliberately trying to hurt him...
and absolutely NONE of this is his fault, i dont blame, not one tiny bit, but i just wish he would understand...
i just feels like my insides are being ripped up, i never slept last night, just like i never the night before, well the night before i was crying most of the night, and last night i felt sick and went to the living room and watched baywatch...
i know i shoudl give him space, but, he always WANTS me around...
he never ever said he wanted space, but now he wants to be more social and i got mad at that because ive barely seen my friends because i love him and want to stay with him and now who can i turn to if he doesnt want me, its like... use and abuse really, as soon as he leaves i go back to them, and the fact is, i dont WANT to go see them, im much happier with chris
and the last time i did it, he said that if i did it again he would just leave, and i always thought he would be here you know... just be there to love me and call me gorgeous and be my boyfriend, the guy i love and hep me through things and hes the one i tell my problems to! i just cant imagine him not being here! god damnit...

Sometimes you just gotta cut the rope and let it drop.
It looks like hes moving on, but then again, he could be covering it up, the feelings for you. When he said he wanted to be more social, he probably then wanted more space, he didnt mean to offend you by the looks of it, or anything like that, and i know you havent been talking to your mates because you've been with him, which is selfish that now he wants to socialize more, when you have been avoiding your friends for him.
Maybe when things have settled down, ask him firmly, not shouting or yelling, but ask him;
Are we over, for real?
If he says yes, accept it, dont get angry, just say Ok, because if he says yes, it means it really is over, hard to believe, but sometimes the truth hurts.
If he says he doesnt know, give him some more time, and ask him later on, if he says no, then ask if he will get back with you, if not, thats ok, like i said, the truth hurts.
Try letting things settle down for a while, start speaking to your friends again, explain whats happened, and why you've been avoiding them, if they know, tell them your sorry, ect ect.
Im really sorry for whats happened Nikki, i hope things get easier for you.

P.S. I swear you were on my msn list

[FlyingJesus]

yeah lycan.. though, dont tell him about this, i dont want to make him mad or anything

You say that, knowing that he's on the forum..

so, like about once a week i 'dump him' like say somethhing like, fine we're not going out anymore, and i tell him i hate him alot, and i mean, its a surprise he hasnt dumped me ages ago, and i just keep pushing him and pushing him and pushing him and well no wonder, i mean ffs yesterday he said he wanted to be a bit more social and i went totally psycho and was all 'I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU!'

I think a big part of the problem is that you're an idiot. If you keep dumping someone and telling them you hate them, that's not really incentive for them to want a relationship with you. Also, from the social thing it seems like you keep him from doing stuff, that's not good either.

and i really really don't need anyone to tell me it's my own fault right now, because i don't know why i get so mad, maybe its for attention but i don't know, all i know is that i love him but ive hurt him so much and now im just so heart broken

Sorry love but the truth's the truth, it's all your fault.

i've told him how i feel, and i just cant stop crying, its hard to breathe and i need him so so SO MUCH

No, you don't need him, you just think you do because you're used to having him around, and also because your teenage hormones are probably a bit dodgy (a lot dodgy actually, what with all the shouting and hate). Try some of the following:

• Not shouting abuse at him.
• Not breaking up with him just because you don't get your way.
• Not playing him on a guilt trip by making threads on a forum that he goes on and will probably read.
• Letting the poor guy off his leash once in a while.
• Get counselling.

Or, if all else fails:

• Letting it go.

[sarey]

You say that, knowing that he's on the forum..



I think a big part of the problem is that you're an idiot. If you keep dumping someone and telling them you hate them, that's not really incentive for them to want a relationship with you. Also, from the social thing it seems like you keep him from doing stuff, that's not good either.



Sorry love but the truth's the truth, it's all your fault.



No, you don't need him, you just think you do because you're used to having him around, and also because your teenage hormones are probably a bit dodgy (a lot dodgy actually, what with all the shouting and hate). Try some of the following:

• Not shouting abuse at him.
• Not breaking up with him just because you don't get your way.
• Not playing him on a guilt trip by making threads on a forum that he goes on and will probably read.
• Letting the poor guy off his leash once in a while.
• Get counselling.

Or, if all else fails:

• Letting it go.

YES LISTEN TO HIM!
I agree on it all!