Young Relationships

[Browney]

I'm 15 and I genuinely think I love my girlfriend. I'm not saying it cause everyone else is all lovey or paired up but I think I really do love her. Who knows, maybe my attitude will change and when I'm 20 I'll look back and think "That was just lust." But for now, I'm pretty much smitten.

Also, as much as I love her I don't think I would take a bullet for her. I'd love to say I would but when put in the situation I'm not so sure.

[edible]

I've only been in love twice, with my current boyfriend I'm smitten! I love him, I really do - I would probably risk my life for him because he makes me happy, I could go on forever about how much I love him.
And when I was 15, I was with this lad for nearly a year - I was in love I think. But right now, I'm definetely in love !!
Although I agree on the bit about under 13's not knowing what love is, most of them have relationships with the latest "in" people, etc.

[The Professor]

I think your age ranges are way out. Anyone under 11 is unlikely to experience anything that could be approximated to love and, as a child, shouldn't even be thinking about it. That much, I agree with.

But at 12, as people start puberty, they begin to start noticing people of the opposite sex (or same sex as the case may be). In immature people (usually the people you see in the high street on a Friday night drunk and smoking some sort of substance) this feeling is usually expressed as lust/infatuation/whatever and, as you've said, go for people because "theyre fit" or whatever. This will probably last a good couple of years, and people like this are usually proud at the amount of boyfriends/girlfriends they've had, which proves that none of the feelings were beyond skin-deep.

But, the more mature younger people actually realise that there is no point worrying about it, and will be quite happy to wait until they meet someone they really want to be with. Unfortunately, because of the way society has turned out, you're considered "sad" and "cant get a girlfriend" if this is the case, but it is untrue, they have just matured early.

Either way, by around 14/15, most if not all people have a basic understanding of the difference between "love" and "infatuation," hence you being able to marry at 16.

[JackHb]

Hello,

I get contacted a lot by a few people I know who're quite young... so young infact that I consider it quite stupid for them to have such feelings.

The feelings I am typing about are the, so called, love feelings.

Now I have been the same age as them and I know EXACTLY what it is people of 12 to 17 feel... it's not love it's lust.

Anyway, the people I am talking about (Names will not be included) are, in a lot of people's opinion, too young to even think about love.
They are ages 10 to 12.
At those ages these people should still be going out on the stereo typical bike ride with friends or be out playing football or something... not standing around all squeekily voiced on a street corner shouting ''LEIKE OMG111 ME DEPWEZZED COS ME GO NO GURL!11''
YOU'RE 10 FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!

If any one on here is like that then I have news for you:
you have the next 70 to 80 years to think about a love life.

Think about THAT!... you do not need to be wasting people's time complaining about not having a girl friend when you quite clearly haven't even started puberty!.

So go enjoy Christmas like anyone of that age and go enjoy time out playing footy or riding bikes or whatever... do NOT come to people saying you think you're ugly simply because you cannot get a girl... it's really really REALLY annoying.

12 to 17? So once its your 18th Birthday, you can immediately feel love?
Just because you never felt love at that age, doesn't mean everyone else won't.

And they don't need to be wasting peoples time complainin about not having a girl friend? Well your wasting people's time complaing about them complaing not having a girlfriend, so it's just as bad!

They shouldn't worry about having relationships, there looks etc, but they do. When they are older they will be at it like rabbits.
I had my first relationship when i was like 11 so I know I was thinking about sex etc at that time as I did a few things with that person (Not sex), if we weren't thinking about stuff at that age then we wouldn't have gone further than talking so footy and bike rides were out of the window years ago

[Virgin Mary]

I think it's wrong to tell mature people what they're feeling. Younger kids just do it for fun, like when you dress up in your parent's clothes or whatever. I think young kids like to imitate what adults do and pretending they're in a proper relationship is an example of this.

[DjZoc]

I totally agree with everything you said, except you should of increased the ages to 10-15 because most people inbetween there think they are in love, but really they have no idea what it is.

[Krusty]

ah
i disagree when people say you cant be in love if your a certain age (under 16) you can experience love at any age
when your like 15 and you say you want to spend the rest of ur life with someone is a bit stupid

[GTA-Andy]

This topic is full of people giving set years for when love can be experienced which I find absurd, if you are a mature senible person love can be possible at 13/14, it's rare but it's true. I agree that 97% of realtionships at that age are just lust or jealousy, but it can happen. I feel safe to say right now at 15 that I'm in love, I held myself back, I've never had a girlfriend until now, I waited for love not lust.

[Jamesy]

I agree with GTA. Although love before puberty I find a bit hard to believe as you are not developt physically or mentally for it yet.

[bubble79]

I don't think there's a set tiem for love but its not one of those things you could experience properly I'd have thought before puberty. I think I was in love when I was about 14-15 because I had those feelings about my boyfriend that meant that I watned to be with him all the time, I was completely and utterly happy in a way I never have been before when I was with him and somehow I was no longer really ambitious as I notrmally was but I just watned to settle down and have children when I got older. Sadly it didn't last as things happened but I still think that love can happen any time once you start expereiencing feelings for people.