Popping the cherry: Is virginity something to be proud of or ashamed of?

[Phil]

I feel really upset reading half these comments, like I feel like I wont lose it as I only want to lose it with someone I love, not to be in the 'cool crowd' or just for the experiance

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You shouldn't feel upset at all. If anything, you should feel proud! I respect you for waiting for the person you love a lot more than the people who just throw it away because they think it's the cool thing to do. I don't think the age you lose it at is something to be ashamed of if you're older than average. Everyone should hold out for who they feel is the right person. I'm 20 now and only lost my v-card a few months ago to my girlfriend who I have been going out with for over two years. I couldn't care less that I was 20 when losing it even though some of my friends lost it at like 16. It doesn't make me a loser and you definitely should do it to be in the "cool crowd", it'd make you a fool.

Hold out for that person you love and you will be much happier, you will have a more pleasant experience with someone who loves and cares about you.

[0pposit3]

Aw thats sweet

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[Zak]

It's certainly not something to be ashamed of. I certainly wouldn't look down on anyone that was still a virgin in their 20s.. At the end of the day that's their decision and people should respect that.

I don't think society is helping. I'm sure in schools now many children think it's cool to talk about sex or think about doing it underage which is silly. I'm sure internet porn doesn't help either. Regardless I didn't really grow up with it being "in fashion" and I hadn't really watched any porn but I still managed to lose mine at a reasonable age.

[God]

Well if both parties concent to intercource then popping the cherry isn't bad. It's someones personal life and it shouldn't really matter. Just like if your Gay/str8/bi/lez. OO Btw since loss of virginity is defined by vaginal intercource then are gays are technically virgins??

[peteyt]

What it really comes down to is you. If you feel your ready to have sex then have sex but if your not then don't. Only you should decide when your ready not a partner or friends down to peer pressure.

If your a virgin because you haven't met the one or even because you simply haven't been lucky, why worry? As they say there's someone for everyone just don't rush in it for the sake of it if your unsure if your actually ready and if your not a virgin good for you.

[[Jay]]

Personality I believe there's nothing to be ashamed off if you haven't lost your virginity, matter fact I believe its a great thing. Virginity is something to be proud of and is something that you should really be ready for. Losing it at a young age does not work for the majority of people because they often don't choose the right person and usually break up with them. I do believe that losing your virginity should be with someone special. Virginity is talked down a lot in today's society and I feel not enough importance is placed on it.

Also I feel that virginity is more of an issue with males these days then females. I believe a lot more pressure is placed on males by society to lose their virginity young and be experienced which is stupid. I do not believe females will judge you if you are a virgin so do not feel pressured in anyway.


These are some interesting statistics taken from the BBC advice website:
According to a survey of sexually active young people ages 12 to 17*

• 63% of sexually active adolescents reported wishing they had waited longer before becoming sexually active.
• 78% of all adolescents surveyed believed adolescents should not be sexually active.
• 89% of those surveyed would advise their own brother, sister or friend not to have sex until at least after finishing secondary school.

[Kardan]

Well if both parties concent to intercource then popping the cherry isn't bad. It's someones personal life and it shouldn't really matter. Just like if your Gay/str8/bi/lez. OO Btw since loss of virginity is defined by vaginal intercource then are gays are technically virgins??

Just because both parties consent doesn't make it right, I think it's worth pointing that out.

[Vodafone]

Ive noticed on habbo americans seem to be a lot quicker to lose their Vs. However I think its rather trashy and a sign of low standards if you're quick to lose your virginity.

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[da363bomb]

I personally feel if you lose it with the right person then it is fine, such as if you have been with the girl/boy for ages then it is something to enhance your relationship and bring you together more. I don't think you should just randomly lose it to a stranger who you really don't know.

Overall the only way i believe people should lose it, is if they have been in a relationship and it has been like 4/5 months.