^ Goths 'more likely to self harm' ^

[sarey]

I prefer not to expose my reasons.
Sometimes i just giveup hiding, but when my mum or sister sees they dont sy anythin since they know i need it.
If its deep ill go hosp.
But yeah.. not all attention seek. So mm.

[punk_rock_rachy]

lawl. Well thats the reasons that I did it for. I should think many other people have them reasons too.

But I think I still do it from time to time.

When I am hysterically crying.

I never remember.

Because of something..

But I have scars on my wrists and arms.

So I probably do.

But I wear sweat bands and everything.

I don't feel the need to do it anymore because my life got better.

I just wish that if people really feel the need to do it

Do it for REAL reasons (Not saying any of you don't)

=)

[sarey]

Well.. selfharm always has real reasons;
-Guilt
-Anger
-Pain
-Upsetness
-Addicted
-No reason at all, just see a razor and do it cause your so attatched too it
-Hurting inside so much you need a realease
-Or.. like you said crave attention, BECAUSE.. eithet they dont get enough, need to feel loved/cared about, or too be noticed.
Attention seeking isnt exactly a good way throughout cutting yourself or abusing yourself physically, nor mentally. But, if your doing it for attention, i advice doing it a different, safer, fun way on doing so. But most selfharmers dont. From experience... but i know attention seeking is;
Showing cuts like literley too people, telling about their cuts/scars/burns, being dramatic and manipulating people / threatening them by using your selfharm ie; Ill cut myself if you dont do this and that.
But every selfharmer has a real reason, like i said up their, its a real reason. Craving attention everynow and then is perfectly normal, but doing it by cutting yourself is kinda dangerous and could become addictive.

[punk_rock_rachy]

Fair Enough. I agree.

I have a friend. She cuts herself. She doesn't go around showing everyone like my other friend does. But she doesn't exactly hide it either. She doesn't have all that bad a family. She has two parents that love her. Her mum might be a bit strict but not too bad. She thinks she is ugly. Thats about it. She thinks she can't get a bf. I think this boy she used to see is whats making her self harm again. But I'm not sure. She has lots of mates that love her and she can talk to them. So why does she still feel the need to self harm. I'm not being opinionated I am just wondering now.

Im confused =S

[BL!NKEY]

Craving attention everynow and then is perfectly normal, but doing it by cutting yourself is kinda dangerous and could become addictive.

But if you are feeling sad or angry and have a reason it is a good idea to release your emotions by cuting yourself?

I dont understand why it would help yourself by cutting your wrist? The only thing that I can see that would come out of it is having people come up to you and go "wow" I cant believe you did that you must have a bad life and I should be nicer to you and notice you more.

I dont know much about this subject because no one I know is going through it but that was just my outsiders opinion.

[sarey]

A selfharmer is secretive about their real feelings and hide it to prevent anyone fussing over it, or to prevent anything done too it.
Cutting can let go of some feelings, she may feel numb, she may feel she needs to be punished.. but thing is.. if shes selfharmed for ahwile, she could be addicted, so why not ask her if shes okay lately, and everything.
The happiest person in this world, could be the miserablest person too.

EDIT:
Blinky, some people are as i said addicted too it, and someone said earlier, you cant understand it, the relief, the senses, and emotions afterwards, if you havent cut at all. Its just something selfharmers can only understand, since their doing it too themselfs.
I dont particulry agree with that saying people come up too u ect ect, because i used to and still do get bullied having someone found out about me doing it, its horrible being bullied because of something your addicted too and hate yet cant bare without it. This will help:
Most people think it's distugusting. Why in the world would anyone want to cut themselves on purpose? Are we sick? Maybe. But it's about feeling better. The most important thing to remember is that cutting is not a suicide attempt. Self-Injury and suicide are two very, very different things. Self-Injury is often what people do to keep themselves from suicide. Self-Injury is a quick fix. It's a coping method. And although it may not be the best coping method, it's still what gets us through.


Reasons why people self-injure:

1. It's chemical. Cutting releases endorphins in the brain. Those endorphins are adreanaline, which makes you feel better.

2. It puts you in control of your pain. You are causing the pain, and you can stop the pain.

3. It allows emotional pain to become physical. Not only does this make it easier to heal, it allows your feeling to become something tangible.

4. It makes you feel stronger.

5. Control, Control, CONTROL. Cutting makes me feel stronger. It puts me in control. No matter how my life seems to be spinning out of control, I am suddenly grounded. It clears my mind.

6. Eases tension.

7. It allows others to see your pain.

8. It reminds you that you're alive. Sometimes I forget, and everything feels numb. The blood reminds me I am here.

9. It vents anger. Sometimes I am just so angry at myself, the world, whoever, and I feel I'm just going to explode if I don't let it out.

[punk_rock_rachy]

But if you are feeling sad or angry and have a reason it is a good idea to release your emotions by cuting yourself?

I dont understand why it would help yourself by cutting your wrist? The only thing that I can see that would come out of it is having people come up to you and go "wow" I cant believe you did that you must have a bad life and I should be nicer to you and notice you more.

I dont know much about this subject because no one I know is going through it but that was just my outsiders opinion.

Exactly. =)

[punk_rock_rachy]

Yeah I know.

I'm good at hiding my feelings.

I do ask her. I ask her all the time.

But I don't think I can handle it y'know?

She always in her name and she is always just "alright". Or "sh!te" and it gets to me. I love her and I am worried about her but I think she is seeing a doctor. I just feel akward. I dont know how to deal with it. I'd rather not. I just wanna have fun while Im young. But I can't when one of my best mates is feeling down all the time :|

[sarey]

So help her. Confront her. :/ I would. Btw read my edit.

[punk_rock_rachy]

How do you read the edit? lawl. Sowweee I dont come here often

Yeah I have. It's not helping
I tell her that I will always be here for her
And that i love her

But

I dunno...

I'm not a doctor so....

xxx