how do you heel a broken heart?

[NIKKEE]

Sometimes you just gotta cut the rope and let it drop.
It looks like hes moving on, but then again, he could be covering it up, the feelings for you. When he said he wanted to be more social, he probably then wanted more space, he didnt mean to offend you by the looks of it, or anything like that, and i know you havent been talking to your mates because you've been with him, which is selfish that now he wants to socialize more, when you have been avoiding your friends for him.
Maybe when things have settled down, ask him firmly, not shouting or yelling, but ask him;
Are we over, for real?
If he says yes, accept it, dont get angry, just say Ok, because if he says yes, it means it really is over, hard to believe, but sometimes the truth hurts.
If he says he doesnt know, give him some more time, and ask him later on, if he says no, then ask if he will get back with you, if not, thats ok, like i said, the truth hurts.
Try letting things settle down for a while, start speaking to your friends again, explain whats happened, and why you've been avoiding them, if they know, tell them your sorry, ect ect.
Im really sorry for whats happened Nikki, i hope things get easier for you.

P.S. I swear you were on my msn list

you are on my list, but you're never on, although, neither am i
the socialising thing, god i dont know, i just thought he was happy with me
but if he wants to socialise then its fine, its up to him
seriously some of you guys are making me out to feel like such a ******* (flyingjesus... ill just ignore your 'advice')
id do anything just to have him, but now hes probably reading what everyones said and realised just how much i suck
i honestly dont think he would ever want to go back out with me, like you know, after hes decided he doesnt want to, though i do have the teensiest TEENSIEST bit of hope
i feel like hes treating me like he doesnt even know me and i hate it
and seriously i wish people would stop telling me its just 'hormones' i mean ffs, i do actually love him, not THINK i do

[FlyingJesus]

the socialising thing, god i dont know, i just thought he was happy with me

He can be happy with you and want to socialise, I'm sure you see more people than just him. If not, get a friend.

but if he wants to socialise then its fine, its up to him

Apparently it's not, if you shout and scream at him about it he'll feel like he actually can't do anything, and you'll just make him miserable.

seriously some of you guys are making me out to feel like such a ******* (flyingjesus... ill just ignore your 'advice')

Way to avoid the real issue. You're more stupid than I thought if you won't even take criticism and advice, and somehow you manage to score a few more stupid points for being sarcy about what I said. If you read it, you'll realise that all the points I mentioned are true and/or useful.

id do anything just to have him, but now hes probably reading what everyones said and realised just how much i suck
i honestly dont think he would ever want to go back out with me, like you know, after hes decided he doesnt want to, though i do have the teensiest TEENSIEST bit of hope

There is no hope for you. You seem to fail to realise that although you say you love him, you do everything to make him unhappy. You shout at him, you stop him from seeing his friends or meeting new people, you dump him every few days (rejection is one of the worst feelings ever), and you refuse to admit that you need to change. Yes, it's how you are, but that doesn't make it right, and he obviously doesn't want to be with "who you are", because it would make any man feel like utter crap. You have to change, or you're going to be lonely for the rest of your life.

i feel like hes treating me like he doesnt even know me and i hate it

I wouldn't want to know you if I was him either.

and seriously i wish people would stop telling me its just 'hormones' i mean ffs, i do actually love him, not THINK i do

Whatever you say, it's hormones. All emotions are to do with hormones, you can't argue with science (unless you're a facist). Also learn to read, I never said you didn't love him, I said you didn't need him, and he clearly can do a lot better without you, because I'm sure he feels terrible every time you shout at him, every time you break up with him, and every time you show how much you don't trust him by not letting him see other people. He's finally got free, all you ever did was try to cage him.

[NIKKEE]

argh when did i say i didnt want to change???
i just dont appreciate being called an idiot, flyingjesus
its not like i act like this with other guys, and i DONT stop him from seing his friends, he gets bloody mad at me if i say i want to do something with mine
and yeah i know he can be happy with me and want to socialise, it was just a well a 'spur of the moment thing' when he said it i jusy got mad
OK?!
and um trying to cage him? hes free now? ***... you dont even KNOW whats fully happening, III don't even know, and when did i say that you said i dont love him?
i could be talking about anyone who posted on the thread, fool
and ive got to change or ill be lonely for the rest of my life?
thanks... but yeah, he probably would be alot happier without me

[Rizla]

Ok, I said there were good bands in that list, but there are some dodgy ones, and some, without a doubt, emo ones (panic! at the disco, fall out boy, my chemical romance)

Excuse me, after your heart is broken, yes id consider yourself being depressed for awhile. :/ Shes not emo, your pathetic for labelling her. Shesshh. :/

I never said she was emo for being depressed about breaking up with her boyfriend, I just said she was emo

Also, the fact you ignored the best advice posted in this thread so far proves that this thread is just attention seeking, or you really are just an idiot.

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hen did i say that you said i dont love him?

i do actually love him, not THINK i do

[NIKKEE]

Ok, I said there were good bands in that list, but there are some dodgy ones, and some, without a doubt, emo ones (panic! at the disco, fall out boy, my chemical romance)

I never said she was emo for being depressed about breaking up with her boyfriend, I just said she was emo

Also, the fact you ignored the best advice posted in this thread so far proves that this thread is just attention seeking, or you really are just an idiot.

what was the best advice posted on the thread so far?
flyingjesus
no im not attention seeking, i want help, but it seems that girls are just nicer about it...

and seriously,
are you still going on about the emo thing?



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hen did i say that you said i dont love him?

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i do actually love him, not THINK i do


thats still not saying that HE said it

[Rizla]

Somebody said something, so I provided evidence. I'm happy to let it go now. If you aren't attention seeking, why didn't you post the story and ask for advice in the first post? "How do you heel a broken heart?" isn't asking for advice, it sounds like a Pink song or something.

[NIKKEE]

Somebody said something, so I provided evidence. I'm happy to let it go now. If you aren't attention seeking, why didn't you post the story and ask for advice in the first post? "How do you heel a broken heart?" isn't asking for advice, it sounds like a Pink song or something.

lol, you made me snort, pink song...
well SORRY, i wasn't thinking

[FlyingJesus]

argh when did i say i didnt want to change???

Well you said that you wished he'd just accept how you are, which doesn't indicate a want for change.

and yeah i know he can be happy with me and want to socialise, it was just a well a 'spur of the moment thing' when he said it i jusy got mad
OK?!

You need anger management. I'm not saying that as an insult, I'm totally serious. You need some sort of professional counselling.

could be talking about anyone who posted on the thread, fool

Err just had a quick look through the thread, no-one thus far has claimed that you don't love the guy.

and ive got to change or ill be lonely for the rest of my life?

Well I don't know anyone who'd want to be with someone who screams "I HATE YOU" at them..

what was the best advice posted on the thread so far?
flyingjesus

Yup.

no im not attention seeking, i want help, but it seems that girls are just nicer about it...

Girls may well be "nicer", but they're not quite so right. I, on the other hand, am always right, but because of that I tend to border on the harsh side of things, especially when people can't accept the truth.

[Rizla]

See? Best advice so far Definately better than "sellotape"

[NIKKEE]

no i meant, i wish he would understand that i HAVE a problem, i never once said i wish he would accept me for how i am

and yeah, my stepdad, and my mum have both said i need anger management lol, thats actually strange you said that...

and ive told him id change, i promised i would, maybe we just need some sort of break... but then not being with him is just awful...

but i know i should give him space, i will give him space, i just feel like my summers been ruined you know... because at christmas holidays i was dumped aswell, but i never loved the guy you know, but it did make the holiday crap, and now the summer holidays, i feel, are just completely ruined and i just cant help thinking that...

i mean, how long would a break be for? a week, a month?! i mean how long for gods sake, because i just know i wouldnt be able to bear it