Sleeping with someone before marriage?

[Mentor]

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MY standards.

Of course, we are all entitled to our own individiual opinions and as I actually said in my post I'm happy o listen to everyones point of views and arguments against my own beliefs, but in this case I personally believe that it's good to wait until you find someone who you feel as your soul mate to have sex with, and that it's quite pointless just going out to have sex with anyone.

Yet if the point is to have sex, then that point is both there and being forfilled. Everything has a point.

The reasons condoms were created is obviously very mis-understood. It was so woman wouldn't end up pregnant, if the time in their life etc. wasn't perhaps rellevant for them to do so - not so you could just go out and sleep with 10 girls in one night.

Well according to catholism, Condoms are evil, since they kill potental children, Sex is ONLY for haveing children and nothing else.
So thats a pretty have children or no sex approach.

Now, looking at the facts, the condom was developed not for contraceptive reasons, But insted to stop VD. now if you are sleeping with one person, this isnt realy needed is it....

You are entitled to your opinion, and I respect that - but personally I have my own morals and standards which unfortunately, make me disagree with a lot you believe in, so lets just agree to disagree. ;p

You can disagree on standards, but the facts remain solid. You haveing diffent morals to someone, does NOT mean they do not have moralls, which is the part of your comment i mainly responded to. And i think your the one in denial about the orignal reasons for the condom.

[Rizla]

you could just go out and sleep with 10 girls in one night.

I'd love to meet somebody who could do that :p

[Colin-Roberts]

I'd love to meet somebody who could do that :p

lol i agree with ryan i'd love to do that just for the sake of doing it

[JT-Fan]

Lol it seems everyone has totally differet viewss!

[GJay]

Well do you belive you should wait until you are married to sleep with your partner or you do think it's okay to sleep with someone before marriage?

I originally thought it was repulsive and an unnaturaly process. But when I met my first boyfriend, all that went out of the window (he was incredibly fit ). anywho, I was 15 at the time so I wouldn't have been able to go anywhere near him.

but when I met Karl, we were both happy to, after discussing whether it would be a good idea or not. But as I had a feeling of unnaturalness, the first time was the most painful feeling i'd ever had...so it felt terribly unatural.

No regrets though

I think it's got everything to do with your current relationship and wether you would be happier not to have sex with your current partner or to wait. I originally wanted to wait, but things change and attitudes change.

The decision is made at some point and it all makes complete sense.

[omgabear]

37 to 6.

I like our odds.

[iluvben]

i would never cope waiting that long.

[FlyingJesus]

Me and my fiancee first slept together after 2 years together, and we haven't stopped since

Surely that's a record, how do you keep it up for so long?

Onto the topic at hand:

So you think if you just go out and hook up with some random and have pointless sex before marriage, it's alright? If so - then you can't have very many standards and morals in your life.

Although I personally wouldn't go out and sleep with anyone, I don't see why it should be condemned. "Standards" refer to how you view your partners, you could easily know several good-looking girls with great personalities before you get married, your standards certainly wouldn't get in the way there. "Morals" are different for every person, yours revolve around your faith which is fair enough, but someone having different morals to you is not the same as having no morals.

Personally, I am a catholic by religion, therefore I am supposed to believe that the whole sex before marriage thing is condemned

The Christian ideal of no sex before marriage doesn't actually go as such.. simply that you should only be with one woman in your lifetime (unless your partner dies), as opposed to the Old Testament style of polygamy. People just phrase it as "no sex before marriage" because once married you're not meant to go around having sex with other people anyway.

but as a Catholic, I'm also willing to listen to other people's points of views and challenge my beliefs

You must be the first Christian I've ever spoken to who's willing to challenge their beliefs ^_^

I think if you lose your virginity to someone who you believe is your soulmate, and who you trully love but perhaps your not able to marry them yet due to circumstances you are in, eg. age, parents, where you live etc. - then it's alright

As above about meeting several such people. It's possible, even if unlikely.

but I'm not really into this whole 'going out and getting whatever you can' nonsence

Nor I, but that's just preference rather than morals.

it's quite pointless just going out to have sex with anyone

From the "are you a virgin?" thread I know that you've experienced sex yourself, and so know that as well as being something which many people (yourself and yours truly included) think of as a bonding moment between you and a loved one, is also about seven hells of a lot of fun. My standards/morals on this subject pretty much match what you've said of yours, but I can easily understand why someone would want to get as much as they could of it.

[velvet]

I clicked the wrong one, supposed to vote no.
I don't think it's wrong, as Ostinato mensioned, sometimes you can't get married due to age and stuff. I think if your with someone who you love and trust, you don't need to be married to prove that, and if you want to have sex with that person, if your both okay with it and understand the consiquences and risks, then fine. :]

[Ostinato]

Surely that's a record, how do you keep it up for so long?

Onto the topic at hand:




Although I personally wouldn't go out and sleep with anyone, I don't see why it should be condemned. "Standards" refer to how you view your partners, you could easily know several good-looking girls with great personalities before you get married, your standards certainly wouldn't get in the way there. "Morals" are different for every person, yours revolve around your faith which is fair enough, but someone having different morals to you is not the same as having no morals.



The Christian ideal of no sex before marriage doesn't actually go as such.. simply that you should only be with one woman in your lifetime (unless your partner dies), as opposed to the Old Testament style of polygamy. People just phrase it as "no sex before marriage" because once married you're not meant to go around having sex with other people anyway.



You must be the first Christian I've ever spoken to who's willing to challenge their beliefs ^_^



As above about meeting several such people. It's possible, even if unlikely.



Nor I, but that's just preference rather than morals.



From the "are you a virgin?" thread I know that you've experienced sex yourself, and so know that as well as being something which many people (yourself and yours truly included) think of as a bonding moment between you and a loved one, is also about seven hells of a lot of fun. My standards/morals on this subject pretty much match what you've said of yours, but I can easily understand why someone would want to get as much as they could of it.

What I said about morals and standards, now looking back at it, was quite harsh and I do take it back.

Lol Flying, I am more than willing to challenge my beliefs and believe that's an important part of life. If your only willing to believe what you think is correct, then I feel that your not going to get far in life, as you really do need to listen to other peoples points of views and opinions on things etc. I do not at all believe everything the Bible preaches, and everything I am supposed to as a Catholic. I believe the majority of it, yes, but I have my own opinions ab beliefs on some of the stuff.

Lol I agree with you, I do understand why people would want to go out and do it for the sake of it, cause it's great fun and you of course get a lot of plesure out of it - but I don't really agree with the whole idea of it, as I am a strong believer that sex should be between 2 people who love each other, and at that moment in time believe they are soulmates.