Help me... Please

[348GTS]

I still don't belive you.

GO ******* DIE NO ONE GIVES A **** ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK




Sorry about your girlfriend man, I really hope you find something good about this experience. Life is all about experience, so try and learn from it.

[Cwmbran]

I give you my sincere condolences. I'd like to apologise for not posting sooner but have been busy and only saw the thread now you brought it to my attention.

I'd like to say I have a lot of respect for you for having the guts to post here about it. It seems you have tried all the things you can think of to help you get over this grief and hopefully posting here for some friendly advice might be useful to you.

Out of my own experience the only thing I can tell you that is gonna help you get over it - is time. Trust me. Right now you will be feeling so bad and as though everything just isn't worth it etc. It is completely understandable as when you do lose someone it is completely natural to mourn and go through several stages of grief as you clearly are. All I can say though, is that from my own personal experience time really does help.

No-one is ever expecting you to just one day wake up and forget about your girlfriend and no longer love her. I know that close people to, me such as one of my best friends, who I have lost are always going to mean something special and have a place in my heart. I think about them every single day of my life in one way or another.

At the moment I presume it's all still pretty fresh on your mind and it still will be for the next couple of weeks. There is no denying at all that your going to face a difficult struggle over the next few days and weeks. However, if you can overcome it, it really will make you a much stronger and better person and will also prepare you for just about anything life can throw at you.

As it is still quite fresh to you the pain and hurt is going to be at it's maximum right now - hence all your crying and upset. It is completely normal and understandable so don't worry about it. Even if you think your way of grief is a bit strange or anything - just don't worry as everyone really does cope with things like this in their own way.

There is also no point punishing yourself and making it even worse by thinking of things over and over and wishing you where there. Unfortunately what's done is done and you can no longer change that. Therefore, rather than beating yourself up over the past and what you could have done - you should focus on what you can do now to help you get over your grief but ensure you always have a place for your girlfriend.

I definitely recommend, like suggested by MAD and others, perhaps making a wee shrine or something... It really is helpful even to just have a wee box of stuff to help provoke your memories and help remember your girlfriend. Just stuff like photos of you and her together, just her etc.

You will probably be able to see your girlfriend before she is buried/cremated in her coffin and say a proper goodbye. Just think about some stuff you maybe wanna say to her, as although she is not here in lifeform to hear it - I promise you just letting out stuff thatyou've got to say and reassuring her that you will always love her will make you feel better.

I really do hope you get through this mate and I promise you - if you do it seriously will help develop you as a person and make you a much stronger guy. If you ever need someone to talk to I really do suggest going to your parents, friends, family friends, neighbours or even phoning up a help line such as childline. Also, I am always here for a chat if you ever wanna drop me a wee PM and can hook you up with some numbers for confidential chat and help lines.

Thank you for your reply, I had to read it about 3 times to take it all in.
I don't really know what to say anymore so I'm going to try and keep it short.

I will make something to remember her by, it's the little things that you remember most and things that you had planned to do being canceled.
We were joking one day about them paper chain people that you make and she was telling me how she couldn't make them and I was going to help her make some, and singing was a big part of her life and the piano. She challenged me to a singing contest where we were going to get all our friends together I'm just upset now that we didn't have the time to do them things together.

I tried ringing her mother today to talk about her and if she had any plans for the funeral, and she would pick up then hang up straight away so I'm going to try and get round to her house to see if shes ok.

I've got a load of stuff to say about her at her funeral spouse it's just my way of preparing to let her go as much as I don't want too.

I would like to thank everybody for the support they are giving me even the little comments are helping, and just getting to talk about her is really helping me through this, thank you all.

Sorry about your girlfriend man, I really hope you find something good about this experience. Life is all about experience, so try and learn from it.

I have already in a way, not to take your life for granted and to treat the people you love with the utmost respect and make sure they know that you love them.

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I know nothing will bring her back, and I really did not expect so many replies from this many people.
Good luck to you.

no, good luck to you

[Earthquake]

I'm just saying ''HENCHE THE 19 -REPS'' That you don't really come on your computer when someones died and tell people about it, its quite sad. Yea I
dont give a toss what you lot think

[Cwmbran]

no, good luck to you

Thanks.

I'm just saying ''HENCHE THE 19 -REPS'' That you don't really come on your computer when someones died and tell people about it, its quite sad. Yea I
dont give a toss what you lot think

Do you think that's the first thing I did?
What do you think I thought at the time? "Oh no my girlfriends dead lets post it on the internet."

You are really sick minded to think that anyone would do suck a thing, as I said in the very FIRST post of this thread "I'm not looking for attention, you guys are my last resort."

So yeh if you don't want to believe me fine with that, I hope you go through the pain I have had to go through you heartless piece of ****.

[Earthquake]

Thanks.



Do you think that's the first thing I did?
What do you think I thought at the time? "Oh no my girlfriends dead lets post it on the internet."

You are really sick minded to think that anyone would do suck a thing, as I said in the very FIRST post of this thread "I'm not looking for attention, you guys are my last resort."

So yeh if you don't want to believe me fine with that, I hope you go through the pain I have had to go through you heartless piece of ****.

Oh go talk to people you actully know then internet buddys you loser, do something more respectful then sit on the computer all day

[Cwmbran]

Oh go talk to people you actully know then internet buddys you loser, do something more respectful then sit on the computer all day

Do something more respectful than sit on the computer all day?
Are you saying you know me, because I can guarantee you that you don't.

You have no idea what I' am going through, and for your information I have been on the phone most of the day ringing family and friends.

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Oh go talk to people you actully know then internet buddys you loser, do something more respectful then sit on the computer all day

You can talk about ******* repspect you **** faced ******. YOU THINK HES LIENG ABOUT THE WHOLE THING!

sorry to hear about your loss Hope you start to feel better soon.

[Cwmbran]

sorry to hear about your loss Hope you start to feel better soon.

Well I'm starting to feel a bit better now, it's just getting used to her not being here.

[Earthquake]

Oh go out you loser, I know your lieing, jsut like 30% of all your posts, Why
don't you go get a new gf to cheer yourself up, First you tell me your 14 on habbo then you come here claiming to be 17 pfft, And if this is all true, why don't you go help out the family then sit on your *** all day trying to get yourself some sympathy, your just a ''bf'' nothing more then that, She probally was cheating on you anyway.