are you in a relationship?

[Emmz]

Nopee :/ Im kinda giving up haha

[Nemo]

Whyever not? Monogamy makes very little sense in reality - do you have a limited amount of love to give or something?

init. And speaking from a survival sense, it makes sense to 'spread the seed'. However saying that, I think i'll stick with monogamy.

[jasey]

I am not in one and I want one very badly! I need a good man, though, to take care of me.

[Zak]

So you both see each other people and you're both find with that?...

I chose not to get tied down in another relationship after being in them for five years straight.

and yes we do and I'm fine with that! We both obviously find it hard at times, but that just shows we care about each other. Most people don't think this type of relationship works understandably but we've been like this for a year now and our love is stronger than ever I think. It just makes me appreciate her a lot more, these girls won't do anything for me and well I don't get that connection with them that I do with her.

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Whyever not? Monogamy makes very little sense in reality - do you have a limited amount of love to give or something?

i completely understand that but it doesn't make sense from a girls view, a girl wants to have one man all to herself in order to support a baby but how is that possible when a guy (i'm not generalizing i'm taking it from an evolutionary point of view ¬.¬) wants to have sex with multiple girls?


& @zak if those girls do nothing for you and you don't feel a connection why are you with them :S

[Neversoft]

i completely understand that but it doesn't make sense from a girls view, a girl wants to have one man all to herself in order to support a baby but how is that possible when a guy (i'm not generalizing i'm taking it from an evolutionary point of view ¬.¬) wants to have sex with multiple girls?

You are generalising and are rather sexist to be honest. Just because I'm a man it doesn't mean I can't commit to a relationship. Personally I would say I'm actually more dependant than any girl I've ever met. You're being very shallow.

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You are generalising and are rather sexist to be honest. Just because I'm a man it doesn't mean I can't commit to a relationship. Personally I would say I'm actually more dependant than any girl I've ever met. You're being very shallow.

i would say from an unconscious level typical men DO want to spread their seed. it doesn't mean they can't commit or that they'll cheat i haven't said that all.. research points to the fact men are genetically wired to do so? it makes sense but im not saying men are like that forever when evidently they aren't if you look at families and couples who have been together for a long time. i simply don't believe that any man that i will meet will ever be happy in a monogamous relationshipand i am definitely okay if people want to prove me wrong

[Nemo]

i would say from an unconscious level typical men DO want to spread their seed. it doesn't mean they can't commit or that they'll cheat i haven't said that all.. research points to the fact men are genetically wired to do so? it makes sense but im not saying men are like that forever when evidently they aren't if you look at families and couples who have been together for a long time. i simply don't believe that any man that i will meet will ever be happy in a monogamous relationshipand i am definitely okay if people want to prove me wrong

bare stealin ma words.

'n' that's really depressing lol. People can be happy in all types of relationships, and from what i've seen of other countries, culture plays a large role in whether a male is satisfied or not in a monogamous relationship. Obviously our culture has wired us to believe the monogamous relationships are right, and so people are more comfortable and feel happier (and satisfied) in one. That's what I think at least.

As for Zak, I don't think she's looking at him as a life time partner, and if she ever does then i'm sure they'd stop their open relationship dealio. I personally can't see it working in a normal family situation.

[FlyingJesus]

a girl wants to have one man all to herself in order to support a baby but how is that possible when a guy (i'm not generalizing i'm taking it from an evolutionary point of view ¬.¬) wants to have sex with multiple girls?

Well for starters sex =/= expenditure by necessity so it is entirely possible to provide for one person whilst sleeping with another, but regardless of that it's extremely sexist to assume that a man ought to be the main/sole provider for a family in a race (not even society, humans as a complete entity have come far enough now) that no longer faces the danger of extinction should our young and those able to produce more (ie: women and children) be placed in danger. While the view you're putting forth may be true it's massively selfish and perpetuates the idea of the disposable male, again something we should have outgrown

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bare stealin ma words.

'n' that's really depressing lol. People can be happy in all types of relationships, and from what i've seen of other countries, culture plays a large role in whether a male is satisfied or not in a monogamous relationship. Obviously our culture has wired us to believe the monogamous relationships are right, and so people are more comfortable and feel happier (and satisfied) in one. That's what I think at least.

As for Zak, I don't think she's looking at him as a life time partner, and if she ever does then i'm sure they'd stop their open relationship dealio. I personally can't see it working in a normal family situation.

what words lol and yes it's depressing, be thankful you don't actually think in the way i do.

Well for starters sex =/= expenditure by necessity so it is entirely possible to provide for one person whilst sleeping with another, but regardless of that it's extremely sexist to assume that a man ought to be the main/sole provider for a family in a race (not even society, humans as a complete entity have come far enough now) that no longer faces the danger of extinction should our young and those able to produce more (ie: women and children) be placed in danger. While the view you're putting forth may be true it's massively selfish and perpetuates the idea of the disposable male, again something we should have outgrown

erm yeah i know its possible to provide for one person whilst sleeping with another but i wouldn't want to be 'the other girl' or the one being cheated on. i didn't mean i want a guy just to be able to be supported, i mean i want a guy to like me and only me so yes i'm selfish, i thought all humans were? & i don't like the thought of getting other girls pregnant. i don't know how to explain. i don't mean to be sexist but i don't see males being SEEN as the main provider changing any time soon... and to me it makes perfect sense, i personally wouldn't want to have a partner that earns less money than me and i was under the impression that males wouldn't be happy with females earning more than them either but again its just what i think. no idea what you're talking about with disposable male so i had a google n sounds like my perfect book lol


at the end of the day you can all enjoy your love and marriages while i'll be a bitter old hag who wont fall in love in order to avoid the inevitable heartbreak. which totally contradicts my first post in here wah wah i guess i want to believe in happy endings but i dont.