He said he loves me :|

[Glen Coco]

I'm trying to look ''Hard'' because I expressed that I'd rather smoke cannabis then cigarettes? Now tell me in that sentence where does it state that I'm trying to say that I'm ''Hard'' I'm 20 years old, not 14.



I'm not saying that sex isn't norm, its the most natural act in the world, but when it comes to a virgin, it should be a little more mature then just having sex after two weeks and 3-4 weeks of knowing them. Theres been girls I've slept with after knowing them for two hours but their not virgins

OH SO IT'S OK FOR YOU TO SLEEP WITH GIRL AFTER 2 HOURS AND HAVE A KID AT 20 BUT SHE CAN'T LOSE HER VIRGINITY WHEN SHE WISHES TO?
ok, i understand now.

[FlyingJesus]

Virginity means literally nothing in real terms, it's just got a stigma about it because of outdated social roles from a time before contraception. That aside, most people have been sexually active in some way long before PiV sex (if they're straight). Oral sex, manual sex, anal sex, and wherever else you might put bits of each other are still sex, hence the name, the only link between PiV and "purity" of any kind is the risk of pregnancy which in the educated First World these days shouldn't be a huge issue

[DamienMarj]

OH SO IT'S OK FOR YOU TO SLEEP WITH GIRL AFTER 2 HOURS AND HAVE A KID AT 20 BUT SHE CAN'T LOSE HER VIRGINITY WHEN SHE WISHES TO?
ok, i understand now.

I work for my child and partner to eat every night. When I am working I am away from home even up to two weeks to make sure my family have the nice things in life! And the circuimstances are ALOT different from someone telling someone they love eachother after 6 weeks of knowing them, two weeks of a relationship. ive known my partner since I was 6, been with her for three years but you could say ive been with her for 5 years!

[Glen Coco]

I work for my child and partner to eat every night. When I am working I am away from home even up to two weeks to make sure my family have the nice things in life! And the circuimstances are ALOT different from someone telling someone they love eachother after 6 weeks of knowing them, two weeks of a relationship. ive known my partner since I was 6, been with her for three years but you could say ive been with her for 5 years!

she's old enough to do what she wants, she's older than you and only just lost her virginity yet you're trying to judge her. you have no right. she wanted advice on what to do but all you've done is slate him and her for decisions that can't be changed and are perfectly normal in today's society.
can i just add that you say that you've been with your partner for 3 years (or 5 ) which would make you 15/17 years old. you then say you've slept with girl after 2 hours. so are you saying you cheated on her or you lost your virginity at a young age?

[Zak]

She has the right to do what she wants with her body but he is entitled to his opinion

[Charz777]

But I do like him :/ He is the best thing that has happened to me in a while. I'm just scared it's going too quick that's all. He hasn't done anything wrong, I'm not going to leave him for caring for me :/

Your reaction to people's opinions shows a serious lack of maturity. If you don't want to get the response you don't want to hear, then simply don't ask... As for thinking he's 'the best thing that's happened to you in a while' after just two weeks. Well, that just adds emphasis to the immaturity if you ask me.

Funny how you think just because its the 21st Century and your trying to say sex is a norm between young people. what are you, some kind of cheap *****?

This ^^ People who want to jump right into bed for whatever reasons (Whether they think they're in love, or they want to be well-liked or they're just a *REMOVED*) always say that 'Hey, it's the 21st century, stop living in the past! Blah blah, I'm free to sleep with who I want.' Well, yes, you are, but that doesn't make it morally right. And yes, that's just my opinion but it just makes the person look cheap. So, too bad on them I guess. That's the consequence of jumping into the sack after 14 days.

It isn't the norm to just sleep with people. Try getting to know the person first, which fyi isn't something that happens in a matter of weeks.

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[Glen Coco]

Your reaction to people's opinions shows a serious lack of maturity. If you don't want to get the response you don't want to hear, then simply don't ask... As for thinking he's 'the best thing that's happened to you in a while' after just two weeks. Well, that just adds emphasis to the immaturity if you ask me.



This ^^ People who want to jump right into bed for whatever reasons (Whether they think they're in love, or they want to be well-liked or they're just a *REMOVED*) always say that 'Hey, it's the 21st century, stop living in the past! Blah blah, I'm free to sleep with who I want.' Well, yes, you are, but that doesn't make it morally right. And yes, that's just my opinion but it just makes the person look cheap. So, too bad on them I guess. That's the consequence of jumping into the sack after 14 days.

It isn't the norm to just sleep with people. Try getting to know the person first, which fyi isn't something that happens in a matter of weeks.

i understand what you're saying but, sadly, it ha become a norm to have sex early on in relationships and 2 weeks now adays is actually quite a long time for some; yet this doesn't automatically make someone 'cheap' or a '****'.
personally, i wouldn't, i waited 4 months with my boyfriend (we were both virgins so that may have made a difference) but i think it's a lot different if both partys aren't virgins.
i think it's wrong trying to completely blame the lad though, if she didn't want to have sex with him then he most likely would have mentioned it and if it was consensual who is anyone to judge? they arent harming anyone else

[Charz777]

i understand what you're saying but, sadly, it ha become a norm to have sex early on in relationships and 2 weeks now adays is actually quite a long time for some; yet this doesn't automatically make someone 'cheap' or a '****'.
personally, i wouldn't, i waited 4 months with my boyfriend (we were both virgins so that may have made a difference) but i think it's a lot different if both partys aren't virgins.
i think it's wrong trying to completely blame the lad though, if she didn't want to have sex with him then he most likely would have mentioned it and if it was consensual who is anyone to judge? they arent harming anyone else

No, they aren't harming anyone. But I get the impression that they are being very immature about the entire thing. She 'gave up' her virginity to someone she was with for 2 weeks! Me and my boyfriend waited 9 months (but, as you say, probably different when you are both virgins as we were). However, if there is someone who isn't a virgin, he likely led her into it, because anyone who is a virgin will be hesitant at their first time, and especially considering she hardly knows this guy. Again, back to maturity and her main question, to think that he loves her is beyond immature. It sounds like a nice line to keep her in the sack.

[Glen Coco]

No, they aren't harming anyone. But I get the impression that they are being very immature about the entire thing. She 'gave up' her virginity to someone she was with for 2 weeks! Me and my boyfriend waited 9 months (but, as you say, probably different when you are both virgins as we were). However, if there is someone who isn't a virgin, he likely led her into it, because anyone who is a virgin will be hesitant at their first time, and especially considering she hardly knows this guy. Again, back to maturity and her main question, to think that he loves her is beyond immature. It sounds like a nice line to keep her in the sack.

but from another view, he may actually believe that he does love her. when someone has never felt 'love' before it can be hard to recognise that with just liking someone a lot. without her going into detail about her sex life and relationship, and probably with that information, it's impossible to judge accurately

[Samantha]

I work for my child and partner to eat every night. When I am working I am away from home even up to two weeks to make sure my family have the nice things in life! And the circuimstances are ALOT different from someone telling someone they love eachother after 6 weeks of knowing them, two weeks of a relationship. ive known my partner since I was 6, been with her for three years but you could say ive been with her for 5 years!

I thought she knew him longer than 6 weeks? Unless you don't mean her.

Also, before your long relationship did you have many girlfriends as if you didn't how would you know what girls want? I agree with @Glen Coco; with the age thing, 21 is great compared to some people and I remember in my maths class when I was about 15, only 6 out of what 20 of us were virgins? Society has changed.