Is it acceptable to date someone younger than you?

**lawrawrrr** · 06-08-2013, 01:28 PM

maturity plays a lot into it as well, especially when you're between 15-25: boys usually mature later and that's why girls are usually attracted to older men, at this age anyway. I find that, in my relationships where the guy has been older by at least 2 years (most of them), I found it easier than with people closer to my age, because I matured quite early and men... tend to take a while. I know far too many 20 year olds who still act like 14 year olds. Even with friends, I've always kept friends who are considerably older than me better than of the same age/younger.

Obviously there are some exceptions, and some younger people are more mature than you'd expect for that age!

wixard · 06-08-2013, 01:38 PM

ok i'm gonna answer this seriously now

i've never had a problem with age, when i was 16/17 there was this barman who was about 25/26 and we had the most amazing connection ever, i really really fancied him and we would ask specifically to work together and we just got on REALLY WELL. so that would have been about an 8-9 year age gap but if you can connect with someone on some sort of emotional/intellectual level then i don't see why age should even have to come into it. obviously if they're below the legal age of consent it's gonna be complicated and it wouldn't be socially acceptable and i can understand that. we never pursued it or anything because of WHAT PEOPLE WOULD THINK, which is a shame.

i think people make age gaps out to be bigger than they are, i've been with someone 5 years younger than me and i've been with someone 7 years older than me and it doesn't really make a difference, if there was no such thing as age YOU PROBABLY WOULDN'T EVEN NOTICE. anyway if they're both over the legal age of consent than DATE AND **** WHOEVER THE HELL YOU WANT

Catchy · 06-08-2013, 01:45 PM

Originally Posted by wixard

ok i'm gonna answer this seriously now

i've never had a problem with age, when i was 16/17 there was this barman who was about 25/26 and we had the most amazing connection ever, i really really fancied him and we would ask specifically to work together and we just got on REALLY WELL. so that would have been about an 8-9 year age gap but if you can connect with someone on some sort of emotional/intellectual level then i don't see why age should even have to come into it. obviously if they're below the legal age of consent it's gonna be complicated and it wouldn't be socially acceptable and i can understand that. we never pursued it or anything because of WHAT PEOPLE WOULD THINK, which is a shame.

i think people make age gaps out to be bigger than they are, i've been with someone 5 years younger than me and i've been with someone 7 years older than me and it doesn't really make a difference, if there was no such thing as age YOU PROBABLY WOULDN'T EVEN NOTICE. anyway if they're both over the legal age of consent than DATE AND **** WHOEVER THE HELL YOU WANT

WE CERTAINLY KNOW YOU WOULDN'T NOTICE LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!

wixard · 06-08-2013, 02:21 PM

Originally Posted by Catchy

WE CERTAINLY KNOW YOU WOULDN'T NOTICE LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!

shut up YOU ARE JUST AS BAD WITH YOUR OLD MEN!?!?!??!!?!?!

Catchy · 06-08-2013, 02:22 PM

Originally Posted by wixard

shut up YOU ARE JUST AS BAD WITH YOUR OLD MEN!?!?!??!!?!?!

LMFAO swiftly moving on (H)

ON TOPIC: its ok if they're all overage!!

Jack! · 07-08-2013, 01:09 AM

Swings and roundabouts.

I think social convention pushes pretty much this whole subject manor.

For instance, If you see a girl dating a younger guy (For arguments sake lets say She's 19 and the guy is 16) nobody bats an eyelid, however if you flip that so the guy is 19 and the girl is 16, suddenly its a much bigger issue.

I know peer pressure can play a lot into young relationships, and social convention again doesn't help (In society now, its considered normal for 12 year olds to be dating, am I the only one who thinks that is horribly wrong?) Obviously there needs to be the legal side of things but, at the same time if you want to be with someone, why should anyone else have a say? But I only think that applies to... mature teenagers I think is the best way of describing it, obviously everyone matures differently, but you should do things when you feel ready.

I didn't have my first girlfriend till I was 16, and she was 15, it lasted about a month, and the circumstances surrounding that and my current relationship are linked, I'll cut it short and say simply I liked someone, they weren't sure, I think I wanted to make her jealous (We were basically best friends) so I went out with this other girl, we broke up about a month later when it became obvious to me she was a **** and I needed to get out.

Two months later, I made it out of the "friendzone" and we are still together now, I think knowing someone before a relationship can help a LOT, we knew each other for a good year before we got together and I think it helped a lot, and when you are 13/14 you don't know this, you don't have the experience to make good judgements.

I'm not saying everyone is the same, but I don't think at a young age, you should be dating people that are older then you by a year, at the maximum, Obviously once you mature you can make that decision for yourself and at the end of the day, age is just a number, but don't abuse it.

IN SUMMARY

Younger then 16? Don't date older people.
Older then 17? Date who the hell you want, its your life, you live and learn.

Sorry for ranting x