Personality VS Looks

[today]

i wouldnt go out with an ugly person...

I'm not sure many would, some will!

[The Professor]

If I were being philosophical (which I often am) I'd have to say that beauty is a matter of perception and therefore looks are irrelavent. To elaborate, if you meet a person that isn't necessarily the prettiest person in the world but you get on really well with them and feel comfortable with them, you will start to find them more attractive. Case studies are ample in this thread: RedStratocas and mr.parasol' posts being good examples. If you meet a person who you think is fit and get on with them, so be it. If you meet a less fit person and get on with them, you'll start to think they're more fit over time. Its all a matter of perception

To give a simple answer: personality. I could never go out with a barbie doll

[Jaiisun]

The first thing you see when you meet somebody is their looks and sub-consciously you decide whether you like, or dislike, the way they look. Somebody good looking is good to be seen with.

However, when you get to know somebody, their personality allows you to decipher common interests, common dislikes etc. - somebody with a good personality will keep you happy in the long-term.

I think that:
If you go for somebody solely for their looks - you'll be insecure and won't last.
If you go for somebody solely for their personality - you're a better person than I am, but you may become very conscious of whether people are staring at your partner, or people making fun may get to you.
If you combine both, you get the best of both worlds.

Personally, I have been lucky enough to find a gorgeous girlfriend with the most amazing personality. However, since we met on Habbo, it was her personality I came across first, before i'd seen her.

;].
Jay x

PS. I'm not e-dating, we realised we live close!

[Virgin Mary]

It's not a case of vs, you essentially need both to have a lasting relationship. Attraction is subconscious and based on evolution, survival of the fittest and all that as well as social influence (e.g. beauty is connected to wealth in most places).

[camera]

Q1: yes
Q2: he can just f off
Q3: no. but if im looking for a bf (which im nt), looks count. just look presentable enough is fine.

if i had to choose, personality will be it.

[Recursion]

Usually the dumber ones are the ones who focus on looks tbh.

Personality over looks, but some people are lucky and get the middle

[Rich.Boy]

Id say personality but obviously you are gonna have to base on looks first before you actually get to know their personality.

[NIKKEE]

Obviously you have to be attracted to the person in a way otherwise it's just a friendship.
The other thing with that is if someones good looking you'll give them a chance and then if their personality is rubbish you can forget about them whereas if it's someone not so good looking many won't even give them a chance to find out if they've got a nice or rotten personality.

But personally I go for who I find good looking, which isn't always everyones taste.
Who's to say who's good looking anyway? For me it's not the typical good looking guy, and I like funny guys. Usually if I don't really find a guy good looking and then they're personality shines through and they make me laugh something in me makes me start to fancy them. But then again, I always give people a chance when I meet them.

[Antallica]

To be honest, i wouldnt go out with an ugly person.