have u ever cut?

[Succubus]

no you can get a new life...
you leave your old life in the past, all your hatred n unhappiness
and you start afresh with new friends new family, a new life.

you can do that in a first world country

OK no. Yes you can get new friends and technically speaking what people call a "new life" as in changing the way you life your life. But you can't always escape your past. What is there isn't easy to forget. It's not just the past that causes people to self-harm, or hatred in fact. Some people do it and they don't even know why. Don't assume it's ******* easy to change what has happened.

"Hey I'll just forget my abusive background, hey I'll just forget I got bullied, hey I'll just forget that my family doesn't love me". For the sake of it please read into this!

[Cerys]

so @oli; if you got physically and mentally abused every day for 14 years, tormented, harrassed, beaten up and so on, you'd just be able to forget about it just like that and go somewhere else...
i really doubt it tbh.

[Succubus]

Then don't cut!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

A person who self-harms is likely to have gone through very difficult, painful experiences as a child or young adult. At the time, they probably had no one they could confide in, so didn't receive the support and the emotional outlet they needed to deal with it. The experience might have involved physical violence, emotional abuse, or sexual abuse. They might have been neglected, separated from someone they loved, been bullied, harassed, assaulted, isolated, put under intolerable pressure, made homeless, sent into care, into hospital or to other institutions.

Ah yes, lets forget the reasons why people self-harm, lets forget people have triggers. lets forget people have gone through intolerable experiences. Honestly, stop bloody saying "then don't cut" when you probably have no idea how it is in the first place.

But sometimes, ordinary life is just so difficult that self-harm is the only way to cope with it.

[oli]

yes, i wouldn't remember all the bad things i would simply shut them out like i do now, i dont cut i just get angry @ every1 on habbo

if ur abused for 14 years, and you get a new loving family, you're going to forget all ur past sadness and you're going to learn 2 love ur new family

[IzzyUhh]

Oli, you are closed minded in a sake.
Many people deal with self harm and going back to your first statements of 'Their all idiots'
1) You have no idea what theyre going through, even though weve said many examples to you
2) There is alot of other ways to self harm other than cutting
3) Once you do it, Its hard to stop. I Dont want to admit anything but it is hard.
4) Open your mind up a little, you never know who could be hiding cuts or dark thoughts.

[Succubus]

yes, i wouldn't remember all the bad things i would simply shut them out like i do now, i dont cut i just get angry @ every1 on habbo

if ur abused for 14 years, and you get a new loving family, you're going to forget all ur past sadness and you're going to learn 2 love ur new family

You're not going to forget something like that. My friend was abused for years. She still talks about it till present day because it saddens her. It's not easy. Stop thinking because something good happens to someone it automatically makes someone happy because it doesn't.

[oli]

You're not going to forget something like that. My friend was abused for years. She still talks about it till present day because it saddens her. It's not easy. Stop thinking because something good happens to someone it automatically makes someone happy because it doesn't.

if you're going to dwell on the past whats the point on living in the present, its a gift afterall

[IzzyUhh]

In year 7, i got bullied and teased, and im ok i spose with the guy now, but everytime he makes a SIMPLE remark to me, it sparks a nerve in me and i can just burst into tears, and that was only littlE, Imagine some big things some people

---------- Post added 06-09-2013 at 08:14 PM ----------

Um.. You cant just forget it. Its hard. Mentally scarred...? Stuff that brought you happiness stays in your mind does it not?! So things that Caused most of youre sadness for a majority of your life WILL Stay for the MAJORITY of your life!

[Succubus]

if you're going to dwell on the past whats the point on living in the present, its a gift afterall

Oh for **** sake. It's not always the past which causes people to self harm. People dwell on the past because more than likely they might have not got closure.

Recent research focusing on young people suggests that 10 per cent of 15 to 16 year olds have self-harmed, usually by cutting themselves, and that girls are far more likely to self-harm than boys. The most common reason is 'to find relief from a terrible situation'. Young people are often under great pressure within their families, from school and among their peers. Many young people report having friends who they know to also self-harm.
The research suggests that young people who self-harm are much more likely to have low self-esteem, to be depressed and anxious. They seem to be facing more problems in life, but may be less good at coping with them. They may retreat into themselves, feeling angry, blaming themselves, tending to drink and smoke too much and to use more recreational drugs. They confide in fewer friends, and tend not to talk to their parents or other adults, or to ask for the help they need.

Not everyone can be as confident as you, OK? People are different and you have to accept that and take that into account. Stop thinking that it's just the past that causes thing. Consider that sometimes it can be mental health reasons, stress, drugs. It's horrible trying to confide in someone.

[oli]

everyone should just be me
happy and proud of who they are
determined to live a happy life even if theirs is ****