Pressured to Smoke.

[a:p]

Lately about five of my friends have started to smoke and they think it's the latest, most coolest thing and they've asked me several times to do it and pressuring me. I wish they'd stop and stop asking me to do cos I get scared when they're smoking around me because my clothes stink and my mum is getting suspicious and I know she wouldn't believe me if I said I didn't cos I smell terrible and I cough a lot. I want to stop going near them but we've been friends for such a long time!

[Rizla]

Don't be such a *** and talk to your mates. You don't want to smoke? Don't, but don't blow your mates of because they're smoking. Trust me, if you smoked, the smell would be alot stronger.

Ostinato (Super Moderator) Please do not avoid the filter.

[Ostinato]

First of all, do your best to show them the following post, and it might open there eyes to a few things:-

http://www.habboxforum.com/showpost.php?p=2216427&postcount=9

If they ask you to smoke again, just tell them you don't want to because it's disgusting and if they say anything to you about it, just say 'No thanks, I'd rather not reek of cigarette's all my life.'

If and when they start smoking around you, just walk away from them.

Something like smoking isn't worth fallen out over, as at the end of the day you can't force anyone to do it, and likewise you cant force anyone to stop. You need to accept that's just something they chose to do, but you don't need to accept it around you.

Explain this to them your cool with them smoking, as long as they respect your wishes to keep it away from you. :]

[Rizla]

Er.. *REMOVED*? I didn't avoid the filter.

Nixt (Forum Moderator) Please do not use inappropriate language.

[uber]

just ask them politley if they can't smoke around you, or you could walk away when they are smoking.

Off topic: I bet if a normal member had a sig like Ostinato it would get removed in like 5 mins of us adding it.

[a:p]

It's not easy to talk to them, I've tried but they just laughed. I always say no but it's really hard.

[shenk.]

[FONT="Courier New"]
http://www.habboxforum.com/showpost.php?p=2216427&postcount=9FONT]

That really would never of stopped me... I know what it's doing to me - personally i think it's worth it as smoking calms me down. And your gona die anyway...

Smoking will make ME live longer than if I didn't

And don't Bull **** me that it wont because i know it dose and will.

[Azza]

if you told um b4 jsut tell them to [insert swear] off and u dont wanna smoke ^^
cos they shudnt try 2 make u if u dont want to and they rnt that good friends if they rn't respecting your choice of not smoking and if u dont wanna stink of it just go away from them when they smoke ^^

[Mentor]

Meh, most people go threw a phase when the smoke, its realy just becuse of weekness of charicter, i never have and never will, pretty much everyone i know has at one point though, personaly i think breathing in chalk is a cheeper way to get lung cancer "/

[shenk.]

Meh, most people go threw a phase when the smoke, its realy just becuse of weekness of charicter, i never have and never will, pretty much everyone i know has at one point though, personaly i think breathing in chalk is a cheeper way to get lung cancer "/

... What? :s this made no sence.

[scubadiva]

Ask them not to smoke around you. If they say no, walk away. They are probably not as good friends as you think they are if they refuse to stop smoking while you're around them. If you don't like smelling of smoke, just walk away. It's that easy.

[shenk.]

Ask them not to smoke around you. If they say no, walk away. They are probably not as good friends as you think they are if they refuse to stop smoking while you're around them. If you don't like smelling of smoke, just walk away. It's that easy.

Think of you best best best friends. - would you "just" walk away?

[Rizla]

IF DEY SMOKE!!!!

[itz jer m8]

I really dont know why they would have started smoking in the first place.

[Sazzle]

they dont seem like very good friends tbh. cant you just tell your mum that its not you smoking anyway?

[shenk.]

I really dont know why they would have started smoking in the first place.

Lots of reasons

[Mentor]

Lots of reasons

Other than stupidity?

[itz jer m8]

Lots of reasons
name some that arent stupid.

[MsTanya]

itl pass babes, alot of people go through the whole smoking phrase

[Dan2nd]

I think smoking is the most horrible and smelly habbit on Earth alough it dosn't bother me when my mateas are doing it around me if your friends keep asking you to try it just give them a big fat no if they keep asking you tell them its bothering you and if their good mates they will stop it.

If you don't want to be around them when their smoking you can't really expect them all to drop what their doing just for you thats what I learnt Lol so you either have to just put up with it or go and chat with some other non smoking friends

[shenk.]

name some that arent stupid.

Okay...

1.) It calms you down - If you have survier stress problems it helps.
2.) It takes away surtain types of pain.
3.) It makes you feal better about your life
4.) It makes you feal better as a person.

All the pros happen to be mental and all the cons are physical.

Whats worse though:

Suicide at 12
or
Lung cancer at 60?

[Bugsey6]

There's other non harmful ways of relieving stress etc instead of commit suicide at 12.

[Azza]

Okay...



Suicide at 12
or
Lung cancer at 60?

That isnt the only choice O_o
You can get help about w/e prob without doing ether
Or you can go not as far and selfharm as some ppl do but isnt advised


It makes you feal better about your life

Until people who dont smoke and are your friends walk away from u and dislike being with you due to the smell etc. ^^

[united-champ]

The only thing u can do is To ask ur mates to stop it,
It will kill them if they dont.
You want to live.
not die at 20.

[Azza]

The only thing u can do is To ask ur mates to stop it,
It will kill them if they dont.
You want to live.
not die at 20.

dieing at 20 wud really determine on how much is smoked a day and what exactly is being smoked ^^
anyway kill um eventually + making ppl passive smoke isnt nice asit cud kill them and basicly not offically murdering them ^^

[Mentor]

Okay...

1.) It calms you down - If you have survier stress problems it helps.
No it doesnt, it only calms the stress caused by haveing a nicotean addiction... so when your smokeing you are at the stress levels of a non smoker the rest of the time theres alot more stress.


2.) It takes away surtain types of pain.
No it doesnt

3.) It makes you feal better about your life
4.) It makes you feal better as a person.

Those arnt even worth responding to they rank so highly on the bull**** meter...


All the pros happen to be mental and all the cons are physical.

even thats untrue, all the pros are fictonal, the cons are both phisical and mental "/



Whats worse though:

Suicide at 12
or
Lung cancer at 60?
Well for the non-******ed id suggest a long life, which doesnt include ether "/

Nixt (Forum Moderator) Please do not avoid the forum filter.

[itz jer m8]

Okay...

1.) It calms you down - If you have survier stress problems it helps.
2.) It takes away surtain types of pain.
3.) It makes you feal better about your life
4.) It makes you feal better as a person.

All the pros happen to be mental and all the cons are physical.

Whats worse though:

Suicide at 12
or
Lung cancer at 60?
theres such things that relive people other than smoking.

[shenk.]

No it doesnt, it only calms the stress caused by haveing a nicotean addiction... so when your smokeing you are at the stress levels of a non smoker the rest of the time theres alot more stress.

Listen okay... I've tryed to take my life 5 times... since i started smoking only once have i tryed. There might be different ****ing ways but smokings good for me so shut up.



No it doesnt

Yes it dose -.-'


Those arnt even worth responding to they rank so highly on the bull**** meter...
Not bull**** as its ****ing true, DON'T TALK ABOUT **** YOU DON'T KNOW FFS!


even thats untrue, all the pros are fictonal, the cons are both phisical and mental "/
This is slightly true. -.-'



Well for the non-******ed id suggest a long life, which doesnt include ether "/

Im talking of my own experiences. I tryed to take my life at 7 infact =\

[:Hazel]

Be honest with them. Explain the situation and say it makes you feel ill and you would appreciate it if they didn't so it around you. I was pressured into smoking for a about a year when I was 13 because my mates did. In truth I don't think any of us really liked it but we did it to be cool. :rolleyes: Don't make the same mistake I did, you have to tell them your feelings before you end up doing it yourself or your Mum suspects something.

[Swastika]

First of all, do your best to show them the following post, and it might open there eyes to a few things:-

http://www.habboxforum.com/showpost.php?p=2216427&postcount=9

If they ask you to smoke again, just tell them you don't want to because it's disgusting and if they say anything to you about it, just say 'No thanks, I'd rather not reek of cigarette's all my life.'

If and when they start smoking around you, just walk away from them.

Something like smoking isn't worth fallen out over, as at the end of the day you can't force anyone to do it, and likewise you cant force anyone to stop. You need to accept that's just something they chose to do, but you don't need to accept it around you.

Explain this to them your cool with them smoking, as long as they respect your wishes to keep it away from you. :]
Worst post ive seen from you.
Dont say "I dont want to reek of ciggies all my life", your friends will just walk away from you and most likely not want to be your mate.
Maybe you should test a ciggerete before decieding(sp?) if you dont or do like it.

[chilloutrich]

dude, when they smoke, just dont hang out with them. if they are outside the smell of the smoke on your clothes wont be as bad. If they are real friends they wouldnt pressurise you into something you didnt wanna do. However, you could just have one toke to shut them up and then you can decide whether or not you like it and want to continue it bla bla :)

[Mentor]

Listen okay... I've tryed to take my life 5 times... since i started smoking only once have i tryed. There might be different ****ing ways but smokings good for me so shut up.

Yes, obviously one single persons opinion outweighs the entire medical community and litraly millions of cases included in the reasearch which lead to the answer...


Yes it dose -.-'
no more than any other plasebo.. exsept this one comes free with cancer...


Not bull**** as its ****ing true, DON'T TALK ABOUT **** YOU DON'T KNOW FFS!
Im not talking about somthing i dont know, but from the proportion of swear words to the actual points youve made id say you dont "/


Im talking of my own experiences. I tryed to take my life at 7 infact =\
Your exsperince is worthless if your trying to say if smokeing has an influence on you, since your already under any influnce caused hence to you it would just be your normal state "/ Smokeing for you would relive stress since your already addicted. But that stress is additional to what you would have now if you wernt addicted to nicoteen "/
Any Sousideal tendancys have little to do with wether smokeing is a good or bad thing, unless you want to go along the phycolgial lines of it simply being a very slow and exsperince suside your subconsuily undertakeing, although personly that ideas kinda a load a bull**** "/

[shenk.]

Yes, obviously one single persons opinion outweighs the entire medical community and litraly millions of cases included in the reasearch which lead to the answer...


no more than any other plasebo.. exsept this one comes free with cancer...


Im not talking about somthing i dont know, but from the proportion of swear words to the actual points youve made id say you dont "/


Your exsperince is worthless if your trying to say if smokeing has an influence on you, since your already under any influnce caused hence to you it would just be your normal state "/ Smokeing for you would relive stress since your already addicted. But that stress is additional to what you would have now if you wernt addicted to nicoteen "/
Any Sousideal tendancys have little to do with wether smokeing is a good or bad thing, unless you want to go along the phycolgial lines of it simply being a very slow and exsperince suside your subconsuily undertakeing, although personly that ideas kinda a load a bull**** "/

-.-' You don't have a clue. Please don't try and tell ME what I have expericenced... How the **** would you know?

Also, I haven't been trying to promote it - It just happens to be the only thing other then drinking that stops me hating myself. Kay?

Please stop with these stupid responses .... It is just stupid now =\

[sarey]

Anyway... back on the subject;



Lately about five of my friends have started to smoke and they think it's the latest, most coolest thing and they've asked me several times to do it and pressuring me. I wish they'd stop and stop asking me to do cos I get scared when they're smoking around me because my clothes stink and my mum is getting suspicious and I know she wouldn't believe me if I said I didn't cos I smell terrible and I cough a lot. I want to stop going near them but we've been friends for such a long time!

Just tell them; 'I dont want to smoke, if you want to smoke, thats your choice, but dont offer me one since i choose to NOT smoke, i still want to be your friends, but the smoke offers have to stop!'

Be firm with them, and whilst they smoke, just wait for them elsewhere, or make some new friends, and hang with them for a bit.

Not particulary good at advice here, but thats what i would do in this situation. :)

EDIT:
Also, my sister smokes, shes older than me, and shes offered me to smoke before, but i told her id prefer not to thanks.

You just have to be firm, then they will get the message sooner or later to stop offering you and pressurizing you into smoking. :)

[=:Elliot:=]

As -illusions said you haver to be firm with them if they are your friends they will respect your desision. Just tell them you dont wish to smoke if they want to you have no problem with them doing aslong as its not around you

if they continue to to some around you and ask you to smoke - just go to your mum she should trust you if she is your mother just tell her whats going on :)

anyway i hope this helps

[^.^]

just tell them " i dont smoke and wont smoke " and pressure them into answering why they smoke ive heard some pretty funny answers :)

[a:p]

I've been trying to avoid most of them when they smoke, it's been okay but sometimes it's kind of difficult. I've told them that they're affecting their health and they could die younger and they can still stop but they just laughed and said they'd stop soon. My best mate, we've been friends since primary school and she said she'll stop when she loses half a stone and it's really helped because she's been less tempted to eat and just has a ciggie instead. I know I've went on about I want them to stop but it's seemed so tempting because I can tell the difference of weight on her. People on the board probably think I'm a whining hypocrite but the situation is much different than how I can explain on a message board.

[Caution]

Well, they're not very good mates if they're preassuring you(No offence)
They think they're big for smoking , but your the bigger person if you avoid it.

[Herman]

You should ask them not to smoke around you instead of avoiding them. If they're true friends, they would respect the fact that you chose not to smoke and do not want to be around people who smoke. Don't let them pull you in though, no matter what. Smoking causes alot of harm to you.

[sarey]

I've been trying to avoid most of them when they smoke, it's been okay but sometimes it's kind of difficult. I've told them that they're affecting their health and they could die younger and they can still stop but they just laughed and said they'd stop soon. My best mate, we've been friends since primary school and she said she'll stop when she loses half a stone and it's really helped because she's been less tempted to eat and just has a ciggie instead. I know I've went on about I want them to stop but it's seemed so tempting because I can tell the difference of weight on her. People on the board probably think I'm a whining hypocrite but the situation is much different than how I can explain on a message board.

I dont think your a whining hypocrite, i seriously dont.

Just stay away from your friends when they smoke, and speak to your friends about why they started and if they need any help to stop. Smoking is highly life risking, especially for teenagers, since they are still growing, smoking can damage that and damage more than just that, ie; teeth.

For the moment, stay away from them, when they have calmed down, try saying to them you'd like them to stop, and encourage them if they do try, if not, say you will always be there for them if they reconsider.

Smoking is very addictive, and the younger you start, the more difficult it is to stop once your older and wiser.

Take care of yourself too though, dont let them pressure you into smoking,

Illusions.:)

[Desjardens]

Nobodys stopping anyone from smoking, just think of what the effects of sucking on deadly chemicals does to your health.

I dont and will never smoke for the record.

[a:p]

I told them that when they smoke I won't hang around with them at the time. They were kinda trying to act hard, but I just rolled my eyes and they said alright. Still, I don't want my friends to have cancer.

[JackHb]

STOP before you get addicted.
I use to smoke, some days i would smoke 20 a day, when doing my gcse's i would smoke around 20 in 2 hours, its disgusting, i have now quit. But i do smoke when i am drinking and someitmes when i am in college as i get stressed.
Or the odd bit of canabis (lol every other word for it is cencored) now and again.

[Geek]

STOP before you get addicted.
I use to smoke, some days i would smoke 20 a day, when doing my gcse's i would smoke around 20 in 2 hours, its disgusting, i have now quit. But i do smoke when i am drinking and someitmes when i am in college as i get stressed.
Or the odd bit of canabis (lol every other word for it is cencored) now and again.

Lol, you gave up but still do it, how illogical =] Skunk and all that rubbish is horrible it tastes rank.

[JackHb]

Lol, you gave up but still do it, how illogical =] Skunk and all that rubbish is horrible it tastes rank.

I gave up smoking properly, like everyday. Now it's just when stressed.
I much prefer the taste of **** than i do of canabis but i will still smoke it as its gooood stuff

[nets]

Oops, wrong thread.

[shenk.]

I gave up smoking properly, like everyday. Now it's just when stressed.
I much prefer the taste of **** than i do of canabis but i will still smoke it as its gooood stuff

tuttut Jack.

lol... i prefer the taste of canabis personally - and it's less harsh lol - ever done a bacci-bong? owch is all i can say x]

same with shoties lol

[bi!!y]

all my friends smoked for ages and ages and i never started smoking

so just dont start

i started smoking when i got a new job.. i wish i hadent...

[Markness.]

I Buy The Odd 20 Deck But Im Not A Heavy Smoker, I'd Say I Bought A Pack Every Week, And Then Got Some Dube At The Weekend =]

[Janeisntpleased]

one of my best friends smokes and since i'm around her a lot, i get the same problem as you. i just tell her to hold her cigarette away from me or tell her to go away while she smokes.

works for me.

[Bef]

Meh, most people go threw a phase when the smoke, its realy just becuse of weekness of charicter, i never have and never will, pretty much everyone i know has at one point though, personaly i think breathing in chalk is a cheeper way to get lung cancer "/

Lmao <333


And if the only thing you don't like about your mate's is that they smoke then don't ditch them. However, people do grow apart, if your really not having fun with them anymore then maybe hang out with some other friends a bit more.
End of the day, if you smoke then thats your decision, peer pressure has a bit to do with it but nobody can MAKE you do anything, if you dont want them smoking round you tell them that, maybe they can go in another room or sumit. Meh, smokings silly but it aint your place to lecture your mates about it, tbh thats just going to cause trouble.

[:::DAREDEVIL:::]

They shouldnt think smoking is cool, If smoking is cool I guess dieing is cool to? Just talk to your friends about it and tell them you dont want to smoke and to stop pressuring you. If your mom asks about the smoke just say you walked past someone that was smoking or just dont hang out with your friends as much when they smoke

[Fonejacker]

Kick them?

[hindu]

it's your health. tbh, they're not really great mates if they're pressuring you into smoking.

[Flumples]

it tastes like breathing a bonfire in :)