need serious help boy troubles!!

[lilvix2k7]

heya
ryt..
theres this boy in my year whos had an obsession with me for quite a while and hes asked me out lots of times but ive always said no as im higher up in school than him if u know what i mean and my mates will take the pee! Ive never liked him, but in the past few weekz something has happened to i me, i cant stop thinking about him he's the sweetest boy i have ever met and he was born on the same day as me which is kinda freaky but what shall i do ?? if i go out with him i will lose my mates :( plz help

[Mentor]

If your mates are gona stop being your friend just becuse you go out with someone, its not much of a loss.

[3420]

They still could be young, as some people are still imature... I've had the same problem... Well.. in a long term relationship.. but you know what I mean..
I just ignored my mates there just pathetic ¬¬

[Glitter]

tbh they don't sound like very good mates if they turn there nose up at different "statuses" I'd go with the boy, and let your supposed to be friends realise there mistakes.

[Ostinato]

heya
ryt..
theres this boy in my year whos had an obsession with me for quite a while and hes asked me out lots of times but ive always said no as im higher up in school than him if u know what i mean and my mates will take the pee! Ive never liked him, but in the past few weekz something has happened to i me, i cant stop thinking about him he's the sweetest boy i have ever met and he was born on the same day as me which is kinda freaky but what shall i do ?? if i go out with him i will lose my mates :( plz help

First of all, for you to try and class yourself as somewhat better than this buy just because of the people you go around with - then you must be pretty naive yourself. Not everything is about status and class in this world you know. I understand you are at school and that you could receive some namecalling etc. from friend's - but who cares? If you like this boy and he is going to make you happy, then why not give that the proper chance it deserves just because your so paranoid about what others are going to think? It's your life - not theirs.

If you are going to worry about what your friends, and other people, are going to think every time you want to get in a relationship or make some kind of decision - your not going to have much of an independant life at all. Stand up for yourself and go for it. If your friends say things, just ignore it. Tell them he makes your happy and you like being with him. If they continue then it's pretty obvious they arn't real friends at all - as they should support you and be pleased that you have found a person you enjoy being with.

Try and be a bit less materialistic in the sense of "I'm better than you because I hang about with so and so". That type of attitude will get you know where in this world, and it's simply arrogant.

[Animate]

if i go out with him i will lose my mates

So, what you're trying to say is that before you make a PERSONAL decision you need to run it by a bunch of friends?

Jesus kid, god forbid you get into a REAL relationship.

[FlyingJesus]

If this kid's a loser then it's likely that you only like him because he's been persistant, and the attention has rubbed off on you and made you have some sort of feelings for him. Maybe give him a blowie in the toilets or something and he'll be happy, then you can move on and get a boi who's a bit cooler. Forget what people are saying about status, status is everything.

[CustomHabbo]

If this kid's a loser then it's likely that you only like him because he's been persistant, and the attention has rubbed off on you and made you have some sort of feelings for him. Maybe give him a blowie in the toilets or something and he'll be happy, then you can move on and get a boi who's a bit cooler. Forget what people are saying about status, status is everything.

Lmao but somehow the scool will find out about the "little blowie" and make it worse.

This happened with somebody at my school just recently. She went out with this gross fat kid and the whole school knew within a min and everybody was talking about it. She lost some friends but proboly only until they break up.

[Djcafc.]

If your mates are gona stop being your friend just becuse you go out with someone, its not much of a loss.

very true if they only like you for who you go out with then what kind of mates are they and if you like him thats all that matters

[FlyingJesus]

if they only like you for who you go out with then what kind of mates are they

Caring ones, who don't want their friend to be doing a spack.

[Smurtz]

The thing is, they'll probably still like you if you go out with him. They might just have a laugh about him now and again.

[lilvix2k7]

woah cheers ppl
u have helped my state of mind at the moment i will try and think about it over night
and thanx ppl + rep ~x~

[-Soph-]

if you like him, they go for it, not everyone has to be your age, yeah it might seem like an age gap, but who cares?

forget about your friends, if their going to take the pee out of you for going out with him, then trust me, they are terrible friends.
you should find friends who will respect you for what you want, and not what they want :)

[:Hazel]

You will find out who your true friends are if you do decide to go out with this lad. I think you should if you like him, classes in school and being "higher up" should have nothing to do with it. If you like him go for it & your true friends will stick by you. If they dump you for going out with him then they are NOT real mates.

[Typoh.]

Everyones clear'd it up mostly but here same agen i used too go out with a girl 1 year younger then me :S and people took the mick out of that, after a couple of days everyone didn't mind.. when i kissed her it got round my year group lasted about one day.. just go with your mind if they don't like you then there not your mates? go with your heart :)

[joshuar]

I am going out with someone in the year below and I haven't received any problem from anyone about it, but I understand it's different for a girl to go out with a younger boy, it is normally the other way around.

But yeah, if you think you feel something special for him then go for it, but make sure you actually think "This could work".

[F32]

I think; you should do whatever the hell you think is best.

If you judge everything by popularity then you really are sad.

@Josh: I think she mean popularity 'higher up' rather than age.

[lilvix2k7]

yea adam u are rite there
but one thing im txtin him and hes txtin me
hes not gd lookin or anyfin but i liked him cos he woz sweet and gentle
but now hes bin sendin me message sayin send dirty pics ov u etc etc and that he ***** over me. It has really put me off :(

[Krusty]

my mate is goin out with a boy who isnt as high up in the school as she is.. people take the pee in a friendly not mean sort of way. and i do. even tho she is my best mate.. people wil get used to it. expect to get a bit of stick for it the first week or so coz ppl wil take time getin used to seein u 2 together.. =]
x

[DJ-Vimto]

yea adam u are rite there
but one thing im txtin him and hes txtin me
hes not gd lookin or anyfin but i liked him cos he woz sweet and gentle
but now hes bin sendin me message sayin send dirty pics ov u etc etc and that he ***** over me. It has really put me off :(


if you dont feel comfortable with it, tell him! if he's as caring as you make him out to be he'll understand. though you might want to reconsider if he keeps persisting.

just dont give in to it, god knows who'll end up seeing those pics if you send them to him.... they could end up going round the whole school

[Bef]

Tell your friends where they can shove there status's. If you like him and he likes you go for it. Don't be pathetic and not get with someone u like just cos u think ur "mates" will laugh.
End of the day, your young, there young. Don't mean you HAVE to be immature.
Tell them ur doing wat u want to do not wat they want u to do.
If there genuine people theyl respect you for it and if there not then they aint worth your time.

[e5.]

If your mates laugh and fall out with you because of who you go out with then they are not really your friends, I understand its quite embarrasing :p but its life ;)