Is it best to tell parents about being Gay/Bisexual/Lesbian?

[Darren]

Just a question people,

Is it better to tell parents or not? I have seen a thread that put this question on my mind.

I am debating the point of this thread as my mum and family are some what 'Homophobic' and I am affraid would not understand, am I right to not tell them?

But Generally, is it better to hide from Parents or Family your sexuality?

[Mitch4?]

It's generally better to tell them, but not in all cases.

If your bisexual and not 100% you want to tell them, personally i wouldn't because they don't need to know who you are with, unless of course you start to fall in love with them then yeah, it's better to tell them.
But if your gay/lesbian, they may have aspirations for you like children and what not, the longer you leave them the bigger the hopes they'll have. So in the long run it's better to tell them sooner than later so they don't feel you've betreayed them for a long part of your life.

[Asher]

Of course it's not. If you do you'll be sheilding your parents away forever, and that includes your love life. It's so much better to be open, trust me.

[Virgin Mary]

Who said you need to tell them? They'll know if and when you get a boyfriend.

[benjamin]

they're gunna find out sooner or later no matter what happens.
just tell them when you feel ready.

[Technologic]

I vision myself stolling in with some guy and being like yeah he's my boyfriend

[GommeInc]

Hmmm, parents you could tell and close friends, but being open to everyones looks to me to cause a problem. People will look at you like a novelty, rather than a normal friend. That's what it was like to my friends, when 2 of which were a lesbian couple.

[lew!]

put how much they love you to the test.

[benjamin]

yeah one of my best mate sees me as more of a novelty.
all he says is stuff like "i'm really glad you're my mate, i always wanted a gay mate", i don't think he means it but it's pretty degrading.
once we were on the bus home and everyone was staying at mine, and one of the girls wasnt allowed and he goes "don't worry, tel your mum hes a *** and then she'll let you stay", i was like :///////
Hmmm, parents you could tell and close friends, but being open to everyones looks to me to cause a problem. People will look at you like a novelty, rather than a normal friend. That's what it was like to my friends, when 2 of which were a lesbian couple.

[leah]

I think that you should deffinately tell your parents,
Maybe not other members of their family just yet if they are homophobic.
Honesty is the best policy and all that.. ;]

[buttons]

only if ur gay and really sure of it rly, u can't even be bisexual here without people thinking your a queer, so dunno, like if you have a relationship with someone of the same sex you should tell your parents, yeh.

[Cryptoo]

i would say not, ther's a high chance they'll take it wrongly.
unless your 18+

[fitcovboy]

It is hard to say as we don't know your age, but if your 18+ and 100% sure of your sexuality then yes of course, or else you are going to be leading a double life. You will probably find that over time they will pick up on it anyway.

[StripedTiger]

Pfft since my parents thought i was bisexual (I havnt bothered telling them that im not yet roflmao) they've been the same. It's only my stepdad that changed. He seems to think hes cool having a gay step-daughter? I dont know why but he started broadcating it :l so i dont actually know who thinks im what anymore lolol so thats one thing you gotta think about first.

if you think they are slightly homophobic, dont tell them until you plan on settling down with someone of the same gender? really its your life and its not much of their business. i find it creepy when parents talk about sex n whatever else tbh. So i generally dont talk about such subjects around them, nor do i participatein them.

so really, if you dont mind your parents telling their friends n family, if they are like that, or dont mind them asking you questions, talking about your love life and anything else they wanna talk about to make you uncomfortable or shy, then yeah go ahead :P

[Muppet]

I think if your parents/guardians don't have anything against it, you should come out.

[Arch]

dont come out unless your 18 and if u do say that ur bi because lots could change