stalker?

[Abbie.]

Theres this boy ive known since I was 8.. hes 2 years younger than me, and has problems, hes a bit weird; exentric nearly since his mum died. He gets bullied badly, and doesnt know how to deal with people basically.

Hes sorta obbessed with me.. i dont know why lol.. maybe because i felt sorry for him, and was the only person who actually said 'hello, how're you?' :p

He waits for me outside the common room, and i have too run past him

He asks my friends things about me, like what i eat etc

It really freaks me out now, today in the library in school, he came up and started talking about me to hannah pretending it wasnt me he was talking about, and yeh..

'IVE REALLY TICKED HER OFF :( SHE HATES ME, I FEEL LIKE THE HUNCHBACK OF NOTREDAME AND I CANT TELL HER I LIKE HER BECAUSE IM A WEIRDO'

hannah: 'why does she hate you?'

'i talked about father ted too much' :S :S


o yeah, and he said im the only reason he goes to school.....


and he used to post things in my letter box, and got me an easter egg :s

and i cant tell him to leave me alone, he might like do something stupid


what should i do?

[:Edzy]

This one is a toughy.

My freind was in the same position with a boy who has autism, basically don't run away but make it subtly obvious that you're not interested. Be blunt when talking to him so he gets bored. But as for the doing something stupid bit. He's obviously troubled and i think you should talk to a teacher about your discomfort or if they have a Learning Support Assistant that would be better.

I'm not sure if i totally understand the situation

Good Luck!

[myke]

He probably feels like you're the only one that likes him, I feel sorry for him; you should try and help him make friends, then he'll leave you alone.

Good luck ;)

[Abbie.]

He probably feels like you're the only one that likes him, I feel sorry for him; you should try and help him make friends, then he'll leave you alone.

Good luck ;)

you dont understand, if i actually talked to him, he'd follow me about more and think i fancy him :(.....

[myke]

Abbie, I know it's probably hard, but put yourself in his situation, it doesn't mean he fancies you; he probably feels secure around you?

[Abbie.]

he goes around telling people he fances me

he has the biggest crush on me ;\

all he talks about is me infact :(.

[Niall!]

he goes around telling people he fances me

he has the biggest crush on me ;\

all he talks about is me infact :(.

Not a stalker, an infatuation.

[myke]

You should be flattered then, not calling him a stalker, it sorta probably would put him down even more if he knew you were saying/thinking this...

[Abbie.]

You should be flattered then, not calling him a stalker, it sorta probably would put him down even more if he knew you were saying/thinking this...

well if someone followed you about constatly, posted things in your letter box would you be flattered?

[DarrenToogood]

He clearly likes you and you should help him...

Stop running, just act normal towards him and he will act normal back.

[Decode]

Tell him you dont like him, but be friends with him :)

[Ashley 12344]

*REMOVED*

I'm guessing your not very old, meaning this kid is even younger. You said he has 'problems', so you gotta except some form of abnormality.

You shouldn't even have to ask. In no way is he stalking you. He might have quite a strong 'crush' but thats about as far as it goes. You complain about him giving you an Easter egg, thats a gift fgs. If he was sat in the tree outside your bedroom window I'd understand your concern.

Edited by Thaddeus (Forum Moderator): Please don't be rude.

[BlueEyedSarah]

you dont understand, if i actually talked to him, he'd follow me about more and think i fancy him :(.....
Why do you keep running from him? That just makes you look silly in my opinion. I think you should just talk to him, tell him you hear roumers about him having a crush on you and you would just like to confirm if its true or not and let him know you do not want to get he's hopes up and you do not feel ready for a relationship right now with anyone. If he wants to be friends that should be fine - I see nothing wrong with that, but its up to you. You can choose your friends...

[Abbie.]

u really dont understand his problems though


gah nevermind none of you get it

thanks anyway.

[lewis-moody]

I understand,

your totally scared..
DNT BE

act normal around him,

I have a freinds whos like him

I laid it down

Sure he wasnt too happy but yeah

were best mates no and if i dont like what hes doing ill tell him

He stops

so yeah


But act casual;)

[Abbie.]

i do act casual

lol, infact when he followed me to my bus stop, i told him his hair was nice rofl

hes like 6'4, i think thats what makes me think hes even more scary lol

[Ashley 12344]

How old is he?
Just to give me a better idea of circumstances. A 17 year old like this is a lot worse than a 12 year old, which would be quite understandable.

[Abbie.]

15.. i think

[Mrs.Lampard]

I know how you feel.
There used to be this boy in my primary school and he used to follow me out the gates after school and because i used to live across the road from the school he would knock my letter box all the while. When we was in school he would follow me round and act all silly around me which he thought was cool. when we was sitting down in class he would try to sit next to me, in the end i had to make my mom go into the school to talk to the teachers about it, so they moved me to the other side of the classroom which didn't work. Secondary school comes, he ends up going to the same school as me '/ And in the same tutor, how great. Then he used to go round school telling everyone he liked me and then everyone would be like "aww" even though he gets bullied all the while he thinks hes cool and that people was laughing with him when they was laughing at him, he would run round doing dances. He used to grab my bag so i couldn't ignore him because i tried not to talk to him or he would just be even worse and follow me all the more. i just got really annoyed and like grrr with it all because it is really annoying. I started a paper round which was around his area, he used to wait in his doorway for hours on a thursday for me to come, then at school if i hadn't delivered he would be like how come you didn't come ? are you coming next week ?

Eventually he moved school to a special school, it all cleared up then, but i still have to see him on my paper round and he's STILL there waiting. But it's a whole lot easier because i dont have to put up with it all the while at school.

[Abbie.]

lol, its such an awkward situation to be in, isnt it?

i dread seeing him, i feel bad for the poor guy, but at the same time, he shoudnt be following me about

[Mrs.Lampard]

lol, its such an awkward situation to be in, isnt it?

i dread seeing him, i feel bad for the poor guy, but at the same time, he shoudnt be following me about

Yeah, i felt the same.
People used to hit him, so i used to ask if he was alright.
But it just made it worse and he would follow me round even more.
You cant do right from wrong :|

[leah]

Right this is a tough one,
I think you should talk to a teacher about it,
tell them he gets bullied and that he won't leave you alone, maybe they can sort out the bullying?
I feel sorry for you because you don't want to be followed but you don't want to hurt him,
Maybe just ignore him for a bit and he might get bored?

[.::BaRkSeH::.]

You should do something about it because it may develop into something sexual.