Is distance a problem?

[Mitch4?]

Well, you know the guy i wrote about the party with - it didnt happen but we still met up and what not i jsut didn't have the balls too, yet.
Well we met up today in liverpool and we had so much fun for like 7 hours, and i felt so close to him there was like definatly a huge connection.
only problem is, he lives in southport which is like 2 train journeys each about 40 minutes from where i live.
But i really feel like he is just, amazing, theres literally nothing wrong with him, hes perfect.
and well i just wanted to know, do you think long distance relationships can work?
xx

[Leetzgirl]

as from stright realtionships that i have seen over the past few months, i havent seen a single one worked.


I dunno, would you make the effort?, if so, it would work.
if not then lol ^_^

[BrenFoxIsPro]

I wouldn't call that "long distance" the idea of long distance is like a different country and stuff, you're still available to meet him and he can see you, just not often cos of trains and stuff right, maybe if your parents are alright with it and you're serious about the relationship he can move in with you or something. :P

[Technologic]

I used to meet up with a guy who lives in chorley, about an hour and 10 minutes by train from where i live, untill he moved even further away. Then it was too far ;[ But it can work if you're dedicated

[Absently]

My brother and his girlfriend have a long distance relationship. She lives in Clonmel and we live in Waterford, it's about one hour and a half to get to clonmel. They've been going out for over a year now, and they seem to be managing it quite well.

[Con]

If your up for making the effort / he is up for the effort.

Then hell yeah its worth it.
You like him that much, Go for it.

About the distance, Meet up halfway somewhere?

[Mitch4?]

If your up for making the effort / he is up for the effort.

Then hell yeah its worth it.
You like him that much, Go for it.

About the distance, Meet up halfway somewhere?

yeah we do seem really commited to being together, we're already talking about meeting his parents and each others friends.
We meet in liverpool, so like only 40 minutes each - but then it would be a pain if i had to go from my town to liverpool to southport, then back cause thats like nearly 3 hours on the train in a day. & the cost is like going up cause i can no longer bend down and pretend to be under 16 haha. but yeah, i really am looking forward to meeting him again, hopefully next week :]

[Zak]

Well, you know the guy i wrote about the party with - it didnt happen but we still met up and what not i jsut didn't have the balls too, yet.
Well we met up today in liverpool and we had so much fun for like 7 hours, and i felt so close to him there was like definatly a huge connection.
only problem is, he lives in southport which is like 2 train journeys each about 40 minutes from where i live.
But i really feel like he is just, amazing, theres literally nothing wrong with him, hes perfect.
and well i just wanted to know, do you think long distance relationships can work?
xx

In my opinion, it is a problem.

[CreditCardDebt]

I'd say give it a Try...

[SmileUK]

they can work, its up to you both to make it work though.
can you trust each other?
do you love each other?
etc etc

you know, you dont have to meet all the time, talking on the phone or texting can work to

[Fehm]

If you feel enough for each other, then distance shouldnt be a problem. Overcome any problems you have and you'll be happy with your life!

[Con]

yeah we do seem really commited to being together, we're already talking about meeting his parents and each others friends.
We meet in liverpool, so like only 40 minutes each - but then it would be a pain if i had to go from my town to liverpool to southport, then back cause thats like nearly 3 hours on the train in a day. & the cost is like going up cause i can no longer bend down and pretend to be under 16 haha. but yeah, i really am looking forward to meeting him again, hopefully next week :]

Aww well goodluck with whatever you decide to do

[Alexicles.]

As long as you love eachother, why should it matter? :rolleyes:

[YoManGo!]

only if you make it one.
my girlfriend lives in solihull in south birmingham, i live in sutton in the north. it's about an 45 minutes - an hour travel to see her but as long as you make the effort then it's no bother at all. you could also agree some kind of middle ground to meet up on, in this example that would be birmingham city centre; it stops one of you having to travel the whole way.

[gtavc1210]

Long distance relationships are fine, i live 40 mins from bham and my bf lives in manchester i travel there every weekend and thats 3-4 hours on a train and its worth it

[today]

I couldnt do long distance. What happens when you just want to hug them and go round their house? You cant, unless you hop on a train wait half hour then get there.

You cant see them and be with them every day. Yes you can text, phone and webcam but its not the same. :]

[Jay.]

It Isn't That Far. I Live In Birkenhead Over The Water From Liverpool.

And It's One Train Journey Because If You Get On The Train At Moorfeilds Or Liverpool Central It Goes Straight To Southport ;) I Went On Monday.

Anyway, I Have A Girlfreind Who Lives In London, And Well I'm Up Here In Birkenhead However We've Made It Work. I Get A 2 Hour Train Ride Down There, Luckily My Mum Approves And I Stay There For A Week, But If You Put The Effort Into It, It'll Work.

[Kardan]

Personally no, but whatever works for you - go for it :)

[YoManGo!]

Long distance relationships are fine, i live 40 mins from bham and my bf lives in manchester i travel there every weekend and thats 3-4 hours on a train and its worth it

you live in lichfield!
beacon park is epic :) good childhood memories of that

[splatttt]

Long distance doesnt always work.
Ive heard of alot which havent....
But good luck anyway :)

[leah]

Omg! you really like him, Its really easy to tell by the way you write about him. Go for it :)

[Inseriousity.]

I say it's only a problem if you make it a problem...

If you see it as one big problem (train fares, length of time taken) and you don't think of the result, it won't work. If you remember why you're doing all of this work (and yeah it does sound like you really want to try), it won't become so much of a problem...

[nathanreeves]

well when i 1st read this i thought u was going to say he lives like 80 miles odd but 40 mins isent really that far tbh go for it i say mate

[whitebengal]

Well, you know the guy i wrote about the party with - it didnt happen but we still met up and what not i jsut didn't have the balls too, yet.
Well we met up today in liverpool and we had so much fun for like 7 hours, and i felt so close to him there was like definatly a huge connection.
only problem is, he lives in southport which is like 2 train journeys each about 40 minutes from where i live.
But i really feel like he is just, amazing, theres literally nothing wrong with him, hes perfect.
and well i just wanted to know, do you think long distance relationships can work?
xx

40 minutes isn't that far....I've been in long distance relationships a couple of times.....They didn't fail because of the distance though. I was with someone for 3 years and he lived about an hour away on the train and was with another guy for over a year and he lived about 3hrs away on the train. I know someone who is with someone who lives in England and she lives in America they've been together for like 4 years now...so it does work.
If you can both take it in turns by traveling to see each other or meet half way it will work. Distance is a pain but sometimes it works out for the best because it makes you appreciate each other more...If you saw each other everyday you would just get sick of each other.....It depends on how you both feel about each other really...Distance shouldn't be a problem :)

[The Professor]

It works as much as want it to work.

[womanizer]

My BF lives 10 miles away in Belfast while I'm in lisburn but we make the effort to see each other every day.

[Pyroka]

mitch, you call THAT a distance? 4-5 hour drive, i win... lol. anyway, it depends on the people doing it, for some it works but for others it doesnt. it depends how you both cope and how many times you see eachother. imo, distanced relationships don't last long unless youre older which then you can offer housing to oneanother.

it doesn't mean you can't keep it for however long though.

[Slowpoke]

I've had a four hour train journey relationship, it worked for a while but ended horribly.

[jessLOL]

distance is only a problem if you make it one. ;)

[7]

me and josh live on other sides of the country and have been together for 16 months now, if you want it to work it will..

[H]

as from stright realtionships that i have seen over the past few months, i havent seen a single one worked.


I dunno, would you make the effort?, if so, it would work.
if not then lol ^_^

My long distance relationship lasted 3 years. I think they're better, don't get sick of each other as much.

[Naythi.]

Sure they can work, you just have to have faith in each other, and trust because being that far apart you may get bored etc.
Im sure your'l be fine though babe ;)

[no waiii]

we don't live that far away <3
not really if you stay in contact regular, but if you start to lose contact then i see it slipping away

[Mitch4?]

We'll we've met a few more times now, and i really do like this guy.
It's like 1 hour 30 on train, it's like 40-45 minutes each to meet up in a middle distance.

But it's working so far, and we've already got a few short breaks to places like blackpool sorted out :)
It's real good, i love it, =]
I met his auntie already aww :) (he don't live with his parents, they disaprove of his sexuality).

[Susie Dent]

I suppose in some aspects it can be better as you aren't together all the time and get bored of each other, but you've got to put in the commitment and if you don't meet regularly then there's no point really, plus some people are naturally suspicious etc and the distance may become too much to handle

[Leetzgirl]

My long distance relationship lasted 3 years. I think they're better, don't get sick of each other as much.

Fair enough :P

[AMERlCA...]

We'll we've met a few more times now, and i really do like this guy.
It's like 1 hour 30 on train, it's like 40-45 minutes each to meet up in a middle distance.

But it's working so far, and we've already got a few short breaks to places like blackpool sorted out :)
It's real good, i love it, =]
I met his auntie already aww :) (he don't live with his parents, they disaprove of his sexuality).

good on you :)

[RedStratocas]

depends on what type of person you are. me and my girlfriend are going to have a long distance relationship in the fall (im going to college in new york and will see her every few weeks) and i think it'll work. even at the moment, we only see eachother for about an hour at school during the weekdays and we hang out once a week, twice on a good week. despite the fact she doesnt have a job and lives 7 minutes from me and i have a car, we don't see each other much. so sometimes, even the distance can help. you dont get bored of each other as people said. there is such thing as being with each other too much.

which is where the other side comes in. i have a friend who spends every minute possible with girlfriend, which adds up to a few dozen hours a week. he'll have trouble when they go to different colleges i think.

[<3]

Distance can be a problem if unrealistic (one of my mum's friend is gay and is dating a pilot from New Jersey and it works because he's over here regularly with his job) but if you're only a teenager and can't afford train/bus/plane journeys then it won't work. If you can afford to make the journey however often you agree to meet then it should be great. By not seeing each other every day you won't get bored of seeing him. Waiting is good for the heart :)

[Independent]

My girlfriend lives 5 hours away (Train journey) I live in hastings, and she lives in newcastle, distance is defo' a problem.

[Pyroka]

That sort of distance is a huge problem, wow. O_O

[H]

My girlfriend lives 5 hours away (Train journey) I live in hastings, and she lives in newcastle, distance is defo' a problem.

I think if the distance is too great than there is a problem. 5 hours is a bit too far, it's like doable but annoying kind of thing. Mine was only about hour and a half.

[BlueEyedSarah]

You know Mitch4 I think its good that you both live in the same country, I don't see why it would not work out - only issue might be money. If you don't have a job and have to rely on your parents to lend you money in my opinion its not good. Long distance relationships can work out even other countries I hear of relationships working out as long as you both have the money to make it happen.

[Mitch4?]

Thanks guys, i do have a job, had one since i turned 15.
just got a new job today as well

Money is kinda like exploding into my bank atm :) which is always good
We're going to liverpool tomorrow, and we've arranged blackpool, he's staying over at mine, me at his. oh my god, i love him :)

[AMERlCA...]

Thanks guys, i do have a job, had one since i turned 15.
just got a new job today as well

Money is kinda like exploding into my bank atm :) which is always good
We're going to liverpool tomorrow, and we've arranged blackpool, he's staying over at mine, me at his. oh my god, i love him :)

lol at you hahahaha

[Frisky]

If your strong it will work.

I know someone who made it work over a long distance and they've had so many ups and downs but they're still together and going strong.

[BlueEyedSarah]

Thanks guys, i do have a job, had one since i turned 15.
just got a new job today as well

Money is kinda like exploding into my bank atm :) which is always good
We're going to liverpool tomorrow, and we've arranged blackpool, he's staying over at mine, me at his. oh my god, i love him :)
Its good to hear that it is working for the both of you. A lot of long distances work out - even those from other countries! It is also good that you both have the money to see one another. Money is not everything though as with a long distance relationship you both need to be faithful and trust one another.