Relationships and uni

[Ramones]

Well i've been with my girlfriend for like 9 months or something, and we've both gotta decide where we're going/what were doing at uni. We've spoke about it a few times but i think we're both scared to say that we should probably go in different directions. Even though we want to be together, the best thing academically would be to go different places. I'm not asking for advice cause i know it's between me and her to decide but i was wondering if anyone else is in this situation or thinking about this? :eusa_danc

[GommeInc]

I've got a few friends who are in a relationship and they both get to different unis. They visit each other every now and again. What you could do, for the first year is visit each other every now and and in the second year, rent a house inbetween your two unis, unless you live miles away. Academic wise, it shouldn't be a problem if you both went to the same uni, considering it's usually a 1-3 hour a day lecture so you shouldn't be too worried about going to the same place really...

[Metric1]

We have already decided.. and we're not even in a relationship..

[spareparts]

I'm not in the situation but I've heard of it happening to people. Just try and make it work, if the unis you are going to aren't that far apart and you can easily travel between the two when you have the chance, give that a go but you just need to remind yourself if you do that it might not work out so you shouldn't build your hopes up and have them broken when if it don't work out.

[Nemo]

My sis was wiv someone for like 4 years, loved each other n stuff, then went to diff unis, but realised they couldnt stay together coz its so seperated, so there they went.

You're young, its rare for you to stay with someone from so young

[Bun]

my brother and his girlfriend both started uni this year. i don't know how far he's gone lol but she's gone to a uni round here, but they're staying together (i think :S). lol he tells me nowt :(.

[dbgtz]

Well I'm not in uni yet and both my older brothers got kicked out of college. Yer goodluck with what you doing.

[Ramones]

We both decided that neither us can do the long distance thing, so i guess it's either we go somewhere near or we just mutually split. I think maybe i want to be single at uni, i guess it varies really with different people and how serious they think the relationship is.

[luce]

My two friends have been going out for 1 year 7 months and they went to the same uni this septemeber, tbh Amy said if they hadn't had gone to the same one they would have split up she thinks. But now they're together she thinks they'll make it :D So yeah try if you can to stick together

[CS-dude]

Hey there.

I think this one mostly depends on your relationship, for me it actually worked out pretty nicely staying with my girlfriend, the first year was a bit of strain with the distance and not getting to see each other so much, but this year is much better (we are now living together in-between our two uni’s)
So if it’s at all possible, I’d say give it a shot. If it doesn’t work out in the end, so be it, you haven’t really lost anything you wouldn’t have anyway after all.

CS-Dude

[Lycan]

Quite a number of my Couple friends split this year when they went to Unis .. creepy how i'm one the last left

[Loqo]

If you are going to different Uni's then as hard as it is to say it, go your separate ways and long distant relationships NEVER work, period. If you are both at the same Uni but doing different subjects/courses, then it will be cool. You can both see each-other at lunch and all and if you live their, see each-other of a night.

[RedStratocas]

im in pretty much the same situation. im at college, shes still in high school. next year will be more complicated, cause i dont know where she'll be yet. i see her every other weekend, so i guess its not that bad, but its still hard to emotionally deal with.

[CS-dude]

If you are going to different Uni's then as hard as it is to say it, go your separate ways and long distant relationships NEVER work, period. If you are both at the same Uni but doing different subjects/courses, then it will be cool. You can both see each-other at lunch and all and if you live their, see each-other of a night.
Hey there,

Never is bit of a strong word, especially considering quite a few people have posted examples of when long distance relationships have worked, just before your post. It's hard no doubt, but in some cases a year or 3 of it is worth it.

Just my 2 cents.
CS-Dude

P.S
I just got bad repped in this thread for being old? Harsh much?:rolleyes:

[Barmi]

my brother and his girlfriend both started uni this year. i don't know how far he's gone lol but she's gone to a uni round here, but they're staying together (i think :S). lol he tells me nowt :(.
Aye. :) About 200 miles away.

If you are going to different Uni's then as hard as it is to say it, go your separate ways and long distant relationships NEVER work, period.
Shut the hell up and come back when you can justify what you are saying.

[MissAlice]

Long distance relationships can work, providing both want it to. Both parties have to be committed and with today's technology it's so easy to stay in touch, even if you don't have access to a computer we nearly all have mobile phones. The cost of a few texts each day isn't going to break the bank... if you care about someone enough, you will make the effort!

[Earthquake]

Just become friends, its best to do without all the complications, and I garentee you, you will find someone else, in uni or not.

[Barmi]

Aye. :) About 200 miles away.

Shut the hell up and come back when you can justify what you are saying.
Sorry for being so rude. Alice put what I meant in a much more polite way. :)


Long distance relationships can work, providing both want it to. Both parties have to be committed and with today's technology it's so easy to stay in touch, even if you don't have access to a computer we nearly all have mobile phones. The cost of a few texts each day isn't going to break the bank... if you care about someone enough, you will make the effort!

[Suspective]

Good Luck with What Route - You Take :)

Have You Thought of staying at the Same University! :)

[Ramones]

When i first started thinking about it i thought, i really want to try and make it work and go to the same place and it'll be great. But i talked to her a little and she said she'd like to make it work but if we want to go somewhere we shouldn't hold each other back, and i agreed.

I think iv'e changed my mind a little now, we've been together not that long, and it's my first proper relationship really. I think i want to go somewhere and do my own thing and meet other people, which is probably the best way to look at it i think. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't go somewhere just because i'm going, and same for me, and looking at both of our choices we maybe have one in common and that would be highly conditional.

As far as long distance relationships go, i think it can work for some people. But personally for us two i don't think it would, there's a trust factor and rarely seeing each other, i don't think we're serious enough to make it work. And we have agreed that. :8

[Grippz]

Relationships always become more complicated especially when something like this happens. My friend has a girlfriend and they don't get to see as much as each other as they use too and they are only at college! I suppose if use both want to stay together you could see how it goes although it might eventually stop working with you both going on to meet new people!