Dumping someone because they smoked?

[lolwut]

This is not me. This is a friend's situation and I got picked to sort it out. And, I can barely be bothered to do so, so you're gonna help :):

Basically he's had a girlfriend for a few months and she's been smoking for around 3 weeks now, and he really hates it. He decided yesterday that he was going to dump her if she didn't stop. He goes and tells her this... Long story short; She dumped him before he could dump her because she had "no intention of stopping" for him, and dumped him for being "inconsiderate". That's a bit unfair?
And now, he really wants her back and I don't know whether this whole things going to happen again...

The one advantage of having me to sort it out is that me and this girl are good friends. Could I try to get her to stop and get her back with my friend?

Tell me things!

[bo$$]

I wouldn't say it's unfair at all.
She might have not been considerate for him but either was he for her.
If the relationship really mattered to either of them, they could compromise and maybe she could smoke just not around him and yeah.

[Rapidshare]

I smoke and my gf quitted ages ago, and she doesnt care.


I wouldnt really cared if my girl smoked, and i think he shouldnt have cared either tbh

[drama]

if the guy really likes the girl he would see past it
if the girl really likes the guy she'd stop


now from what you've said it was him who brought up the issue in the first place..

[lolwut]

if the guy really likes the girl he would see past it
if the girl really likes the guy she'd stop


now from what you've said it was him who brought up the issue in the first place..
Yeaaaaaah... I suppose that's true.
Tomorrow I'm going to tell him that he should see past her smoking if he really loves her. That's probs gonna help. Well, I don't have any better ideas D:

[Florx]

I wouldn't go out with somebody if they smoked. Simple as.

[Kardan]

If I was in the suituation, I would have dumped her.

[Earthquake]

isn't that an advantage for him? if hes bad in bed she can have a good ol' cig after

[Herman]

I wouldn't want to date someone who smokes. If I were him, I'd dump her too.

[Earthquake]

I wouldn't want to date someone who smokes. If I were him, I'd dump her too.
What the hell, thats completely distraughting to hear, whats so bad with your partner smoking, haven't you heard of asking them to take it outside!

[Herman]

What the hell, thats completely distraughting to hear, whats so bad with your partner smoking, haven't you heard of asking them to take it outside!
Whether they oblige or not is a different story. Tell that to my father whom, when asked by my mother to kindly go out of the house to smoke, refuses.

I have my preferences, you have yours.

[Earthquake]

Whether they oblige or not is a different story. Tell that to my father whom, when asked by my mother to kindly go out of the house to smoke, refuses.

I have my preferences, you have yours.

My mother, father, stepmother all smoke.

[Bun]

if she's too inconsiderate to even consider quitting to stay in a relationship with him, then she's not worth his time.

[Earthquake]

LMAO. If I ever got with a girl and she said its me or the cigs, I would choose the cigs, no man or no woman should make another man or woman quit, its predijice.

[Jebbo.]

if she loved him she would have stoped?

[Bun]

LMAO. If I ever got with a girl and she said its me or the cigs, I would choose the cigs, no man or no woman should make another man or woman quit, its predijice.
don't worry, your time will come :rolleyes:.

[Kardan]

What the hell, thats completely distraughting to hear, whats so bad with your partner smoking, haven't you heard of asking them to take it outside!

I'd like to spend the rest of my life with my partner, rather then her dying in her late 40's due to a smoke related illness/disease... It's a waste of money along with the horrible smell...

I could carry on, but I'm sure you've heard it all before...

[buttons]

LMAO. If I ever got with a girl and she said its me or the cigs, I would choose the cigs, no man or no woman should make another man or woman quit, its predijice.
same really, if i can't stop after my gran dies of lung cancer i'm not really gonna stop for a guy even though someone i rly like thinks it's disgusting :(

[Nemo]

same really, if i can't stop after my gran dies of lung cancer i'm not really gonna stop for a guy even though someone i rly like thinks it's disgusting :(
u smoke!?


Smoking is eurgh, id never go out wiv someone who smokes.

[brandon]

I wouldn't dump someone because they smoked because I wouldn't go out with them in the first place. Unless I didn't know, then that would be different.

[Swearwolf]

id have dumped her faster

[brandon]

I wouldn't dump someone because they smoked because I wouldn't go out with them in the first place. Unless I didn't know, then that would be different.
Unless of course in exceptional circumstances, eg. I really loved them or they were really attractive.

[buttons]

u smoke!?


Smoking is eurgh, id never go out wiv someone who smokes.
I wouldn't dump someone because they smoked because I wouldn't go out with them in the first place. Unless I didn't know, then that would be different.
i've smoked since i was 11, nearly 12, and i've never had problems with guys 'cause of it but looking back all guys i've dated have smoked anyone (not usually just tobacco but mk)

[pasta1]

probs happen again and then he might still want to leave her for the same reason after a while.
my mum + dad smoked on/off all my life and just got used to it so dont care whether people do or not

[Callum.]

yeah, i wouldn't go out with a girl who smokes, and if i was going out with a girl who started smoking we'd be over.

[Mitch4?]

I got with a guy who smokedd,
i hated the fact he did it but i got over it pretty fast cause i looked past it.
but it would of been over if he tried to make me smoke.

[Havoline]

all she has to do is not smoke around him or when shes with him

[drama]

all she has to do is not smoke around him or when shes with him
or for him to see past the fact she smokes.

[jackass]

If I was in that situation, I would do the exact same thing.

[e5]

If I saw the smoking was having a physical effect on the girl or if she was changing, i'd dump her.

[Malachy]

I'm in a similar situation to you (sort of).
Best thing to do I think is to just help your friend get over her, because if she isn't going to stop then why should he have to live with it if it disgusts him.

[leah]

She's only been smoking for three weeks...
She was with him for months before she began to smoke so she obviously doesn't like him if she can't atleast try to quit. You should tell her it's because your friend is worried about her health.

[Lulz]

my girlfriend and i both smoke. she doesn't like me smoking green but she get's over it, because she knows she can't control my life and it's pretty pointless trying to; because at the end of the day. i am who i am.

think about it that way.

[luce]

This is not me. This is a friend's situation and I got picked to sort it out. And, I can barely be bothered to do so, so you're gonna help :):

Basically he's had a girlfriend for a few months and she's been smoking for around 3 weeks now, and he really hates it. He decided yesterday that he was going to dump her if she didn't stop. He goes and tells her this... Long story short; She dumped him before he could dump her because she had "no intention of stopping" for him, and dumped him for being "inconsiderate". That's a bit unfair?
And now, he really wants her back and I don't know whether this whole things going to happen again...

The one advantage of having me to sort it out is that me and this girl are good friends. Could I try to get her to stop and get her back with my friend?

Tell me things!

how about he gets over himself! and he'd be lucky to get him back!

[[Chris]]

I wouldn't go out with somebody if they smoked. Simple as.

I agree, my parents smoke and thats bad enough, i dont want somebody who im going to be around alot puffing away aswel..

But i suppose, if she DID care, then she could compromise (maybe not smoke near / with him ect) Or the HE would look through it, which tbh, i couldnt do

[Arch]

Its not really unfair she has a good point

and if he was gonna dump her for smoking , she already sad she wuldn't so why does he want her back his problem aleady got solved

[kuzkasate]

Really unfair, I mean I smoke and I was in situations like that...
But he should say he is sorry and like he was a total idiot and she can if she wants. Let him explain that he wanted it for the best so that she wouldn't die of cancer. Like get it into her head.

[jackass]

Really unfair, I mean I smoke and I was in situations like that...
But he should say he is sorry and like he was a total idiot and she can if she wants. Let him explain that he wanted it for the best so that she wouldn't die of cancer. Like get it into her head.

He shouldn't say sorry or say he was an idiot, because he wasn't. :rolleyes:

[kuzkasate]

He shouldn't say sorry or say he was an idiot, because he wasn't. :rolleyes:

If he wants her back, he should.

[lolwut]

So you all know, he got up some courage from god knows where (again) and is back with her. She still smokes but not as much. He's thinking of starting so she doesn't really feel like she shouldn't.
And I've left them to it now so stop posting now cause it's like pointless.

[RedStratocas]

in short: his fault. he has every right to break up with her if it bothers him that much, but thats really a ridiculous reason. what the girl probably thought was "if he would break up with me for such a stupid and insignificant reason, he obviously doesnt like me that much."

im in the same situation, my girlfriend started smoking while i was dating her, but its her life.

[Blinger1]

I'm sure smoking isn't that bad.. until you have to kiss her and you taste the cigarettes :(

[Florx]

My girlfriend knows that if she starts smoking that I won't go out with her any more.

However she also thinks it's vile so there is no chance of it happening.

I think it's a disgusting habit and I find the smell repulsive and putrid.

[Wayne]

Yeah, if a girl smoked I probz wouldn't date them.