I LOVE this girl...

[kuzkasate]

Basically, she is going out with my best friend. My best friend knows I like her and hes cool with it, he even tried to get my with her once. But she likes me also...

The thing is, there relationship is "faulty" if you like. They go out, dump eachother, tears and fights. Then again.

Now about 2 weeks ago, he dumped her and I was like RIGHT Im gonna ask her out. But I didnt feel that it was the right moment because of her splitting up with her boyfriend and her uncle died... So I thought leave it.

So finally in a week or so, I decide to ask her. She says "sorry im with lewis." (my best friend.) So I got pretty annoyed. Then I say to her, dont tell anyone I wanted to ask you out... and she starts going nuts like WHY NOT HUH?! EMBARRASED ARE YOU, BECAUSE IM A SKET? (Sorry for the language.) I obv didnt mean it in that way.

So we didnt talk for quite a bit and she finally apologised. The next day, I ask her if she likes me. She said that she doesnt in that way anymore. Only as a friend... but through all that I had to take from her, all the fighting, tears and arguements. I still love her... but she doesnt. And now my best friend and she are still going out.

Im just so heartbroken and dont know what to do...

[Pyroka]

Sorry to break your heart further, but she loves me more.

[Immenseman]

Awww man. At the moment you'll think she's the only one out there. She doesn't seem like she is really taking your feelings into consideration and unfortunately it's clear she likes your best friend more. You should just aim in getting a better relationship with her at the moment, just talking loads, cracking jokes, being yourself - you have nothing to lose. Just remember you will always find someone who is right for you and they don't come around that often. As and when they do grab it with two hands because if you hang around they could be gone before you know it.

[colourpot]

Sorry to break your heart further, but she loves me more.

you wot.

[TotalShambles]

Yeah as Jake said, dont just keep your eyes set on her.. If she doesnt like you sorry but i dont think she will start liking you again, she might but she doesnt seem the type that cares.. Im only saying what i think from what you wrote as i have never met her..

Keep ya chin up is what i say!

[leah]

She seems like she's really selfish to treat you like that to be honest, If I were you i'd forget her and move on, your friendship is far more important with your mate than she is.

[kuzkasate]

Thanks everyone... but she does seem a LOT of a cow doesnt she?
But like, when ever I see her or look at her she is always staring at me and when we make eye contact she smiles and sometimes giggles. Im like... okay and start to giggle. But she can just sit there talking to me for hours and we are really close.

The worst thing is, she told me she doesnt like my mate much anymore because she saw his "true-colours" but then again, my friend said he doesnt like HER much. And when ever I am with her, she starts flirting and even once tried to come on to me... but I wouldnt allow it because shes going out with my mate...

Its so hard. Sometimes, my friend is like "Oh I cba with her today" and doesnt even say bye or anything to her.

Its just so PAINFUL. I mean, they dont even like eachother that much... so whats the point? Its not going to lead anywhere?

[Browney]

shes your best mates gf.
jesus christ. you love her, but you don't know what love is. trust me, I've been in your position, your mates are so much more important than going after some girl who you "love." And besides, she doesn't like you like that and ruining your mates relationship won't help things at all. No matter what she felt in the past, you have to focus on now. and now, she doesn't want you. Sorry to be so blunt.

[kuzkasate]

shes your best mates gf.
jesus christ. you love her, but you don't know what love is. trust me, I've been in your position, your mates are so much more important than going after some girl who you "love." And besides, she doesn't like you like that and ruining your mates relationship won't help things at all. No matter what she felt in the past, you have to focus on now. and now, she doesn't want you. Sorry to be so blunt.

Thats what I dont understand... I ask her if she likes me she says no, then yes then no but then again acts like she DOES like me! Im confused...

[Arron]

Seriously dude, let it go for a while.

My mate fancies his mates (Andy) Girlfriend (Nicky), both of them flirt constantly and Andy eventually found out. He split up with Nicky and never spoke to my mate (Jordi). Adding insult to injury, Jordi and Nicky now both go out, after two days after Andy & Nicky split.

Just don't do it mate, let them two be. Don't get in between them, don't make it turn out for the worse.

From what I gather, your mate and his girlfriend aren't in the Worlds best relationship and I think it's a matter of time before they give each other up. Don't do a Joey (out of Friends) and give it an hour before you get together, give it a month. In that 30 odd days they'll both move on and that's the time you make a move (that's if you're still interested in her then and she likes you).

[kuzkasate]

Seriously dude, let it go for a while.

My mate fancies his mates (Andy) Girlfriend (Nicky), both of them flirt constantly and Andy eventually found out. He split up with Nicky and never spoke to my mate (Jordi). Adding insult to injury, Jordi and Nicky now both go out, after two days after Andy & Nicky split.

Just don't do it mate, let them two be. Don't get in between them, don't make it turn out for the worse.

From what I gather, your mate and his girlfriend aren't in the Worlds best relationship and I think it's a matter of time before they give each other up. Don't do a Joey (out of Friends) and give it an hour before you get together, give it a month. In that 30 odd days they'll both move on and that's the time you make a move (that's if you're still interested in her then and she likes you).

Yh, I get you but... my mate doesnt like her at ALL. He keeps on saying how annoying she is. But he just CANT dump her. He isnt like that... he cant dump her anyway (even tho he did once) but thats not my point, he doesnt like her at all and he is WAITING until SHE dumps him! They barely speak anymore... And btw I did give it time before when they split up... but I was too late. So... :(

[VirtualG]

DATE HER FRIEND!!! which ever one is the hottest... That would probably make her jealous, worked for me.

[Charli]

she's playing games with your feelings and by the sounds of it, she's got you eating out of the palm of her hand.
try not to be the soppy, 'easy' guy. coming from a girl who's had experience with that type of guy, i can tell you, honestly, its not who you want to be in this scenario. girls enjoy the chase too so play hard to get (even if you want to tell her you love her, want to give her the world, etc.. DONT).
by the sounds of it, she sees you as a friend. as for her flirting with you - honestly - that's probably all it is. flirting. for fun. im sure she enjoys knowing she could go to you whenever she's down in the dumps and you would just welcome her with open arms. its a security thing...
think about this though.. when has she shown REAL consideration for your feelings? she knows you really really like her, so why is she still flirting? she sounds pretty cruel to me.
i say go out and get yourself nice haircut/hobby (anything to lift your spirits and confidence) and do your own thing.
watch her come running.
i personally think you deserve better, so hopefully when you go on mission:lifewithoutcruelgirl you will find a nice lass who gives you the love and respect you deserve!
p.s ditch your best friend. if my best friend dated someone i liked, then kept playing them like your 'best friend' has done, i'd probably never talk to her again.. or for a good few months at least.

[Frank459]

I was in this situation, but it was with 2 girls (both good friends) and a boy. Basic structure of the story (The girls are friends too):

Girl 1 + Boy > Argue, breakup > Girl 2 + Boy > Argue, breakup > Girl 1 + Boy > Argue breakup > Girl 2 + Boy > Argue breakup > [Repeat this for one/two more stage(s). My arm is killing me, its late.]

I liked 1 of the girls and every time she split up with the guy, I just never had the confidence to ask her anything. When I do wake up and think "Sod it. Ima ask her" I find that shes going back out with the guy (Who ISNT a friend of mine and is a big up-your-own-beeep.) This crushed my confidence even further that after the first time, I just left it and made no attempt to resurface the matter.

Then one lunch time they both started talking about what color br- wait, thats a different story. [Hehehehe, they both like cyan:D]

Ok, to continue: She even showed signs of liking me after the second break up and I realised this, but then just thought "Nah, give it a week she'll be going back out with him" and whatdya know, she does.

Well to come onto the end of Franks marvellous let-downs and self confidence issues story, dont give up like I did. Find somebody else because you'll end up like me. Yeah oh course, you'll have friends [before any of you suggested I didnt -.-' ] just DONT let yourself be put off by this one girl, or you'll never have that courage to go up to any others and tell them how you really feel.


I cant really give advice, because im not exactly the one to be asking but just some words that people have told me. Dont let yourself get let down by that one girl when there are plenty others around. Never let yourself just think "Ill wait a little longer." As soon as you get signs of them liking you - GO FOR IT.

[Vause]

leave her be.
if love hurts then it won't work, she's hurt you already and your not even with her. just do things to take your mind off her.

[rokstar]

that sounds really immature
how old r u guys?

[Soy]

ask her out for godsake

[kuzkasate]

ask her out for godsake

Shes going out with my best friend!
And now I asked her she said she likes me.
Im so confused right now!

[Jam]

Goodbye friendship, like mine did in a somewhat similar situation.

[Nxrissa]

stop waisting your time being smittern over her.
sorry but its true.
im sure you can do with someone better let them get on with it. there the ones gonna be depressed in the end. but seriously i think you can proberly do better than her no matter what she or you looks like.

[Lindsey]

I Would just explain how you feel, again. and keep flirting ;] and just wait for your turn

[Tristan]

Maybe she likes Tennis stars.
Show her your skills.