How to stop missing someone?

[Hecktix]

Hey :)
I never thought i'd post here as I thought my friends were good enough for advice:P, but they really don't seem to get this one and it's getting too far now so I was hoping some of you lot would be able to help me out.

For about 3 years I was very close friends with this girl, 14 months ago I went through a very messy break up and it was this girl that helped me get through it.

We helped eachother a lot, she helped me through that and I helped her through some of the most difficult times of her life too.

Anyway one thing led to another and we sort of fell in love, we were together for 10 months and well we were ever so close, it was like dating my best friend. Basically, an amazing friendship + the relationship side, it was perfect. Around February I started being a bit of a ****. I was going through some emotional difficulty at home and she really didn't understand, and I took it out on her.

In the end she couldn't deal with it anymore and just left me, but she completely left me.. like wouldn't talk to me again. Well that didn't last long a week later we were having sex again :rolleyes: but eventually the "**** buddies" aspect became less appealing.

I used to spend one weekend with her, the next weekend working so I didn't really have much time to see my friends, I've never really had many close friends anyway, tbh she was always my closest friend before we got together.

So now she's gone and won't talk to me it's so hard because not only did I lose the girl I loved (completely my own fault) I lost my best (and only) close friend.

She gets upset if I text/email/ring her, and it gets me down all the time, I can't sleep, I struggle to find a decent appetite and I'm always miserable when around my friends, right now I'm sat here on my friends computer whilst aload of my other friends are watching a film, cause I couldn't handle sitting watching my phone hoping she was going to text.

Is there anything I can do to stop myself from wanting to text her or missing her so much?

It's been 4 months since we've split now, it's getting unbearable.

[Mentor]

find someone new and stop pineing over someone lost. The move forward not backwards approach is clichéd yet true. There are plenty more fish in the sea, however it may look now.

[Nemo]

Or you could go to her house, face to face. Sort it out and if it doesnt, then yes, as above, move on.

[Hecktix]

find someone new and stop pineing over someone lost. The move forward not backwards approach is clichéd yet true. There are plenty more fish in the sea, however it may look now.

Yes, however the process of waiting is what causes that problem xD
Haha.

You can't look for someone else or it doesn't happen.

edit, at naughtynemo; tried.

[Nemo]

Yes, however the process of waiting is what causes that problem xD
Haha.

You can't look for someone else or it doesn't happen.

edit, at naughtynemo; tried.andddddddd what happened

[Lindsey]

Like, Hmmm.... Hard to explain,

I just went through about the same thing, what i did was ... i would hang out with my other friends, and get my mind off of things, hmmm... all i can really say is. talk to your friends more. create a better and bigger friendship with them ....

idk if it helped, :] hope it did

[Hecktix]

andddddddd what happened

We kissed & everything was fine, but then I went home & it all wasn't fine again, it's silly, it's like she won't talk to me because she doesn't want to fall for me again, but I'm past that I just want to move on but finding it hard :(


Like, Hmmm.... Hard to explain,

I just went through about the same thing, what i did was ... i would hang out with my other friends, and get my mind off of things, hmmm... all i can really say is. talk to your friends more. create a better and bigger friendship with them ....

idk if it helped, :] hope it did

That's what I'm trying, thanks :) x

[FlyingJesus]

You don't stop missing them

[Hecktix]

You don't stop missing them

Yeah I know that, but there must be a way to stop missing them as much?

[Mentor]

From what you said, it already sounded over and gone. Hence my advice to move on. Only you can really know for sure as only you are there, emotions cloud judgement though, so stop, think it through logicly and make sure your not wasteing your time chaceing what was rather than what could be.

[camera]

what FJ said.
get a job. it distracts you. basically keep urself busy with stuff

[Memmish]

I am guessing you have tried this but you could ask if you could just be friends again? perhaps you would feel better with atleast her friendship back?

This could make things harder though. Its definitely difficult to get over stuff like this, it takes time and usually something like meeting someone else even just a new exciting friend speeds up the healing, so you really do need to make an effort with your friends.

[//Tom]

Get back with her? If your missing her that much and she doesn't want to fall for you again that means she likes you aswell, just make her believe its a good thing.

if you think ive gone completetly mad coz i only scanned through the thread didnt read it all so if im wrong then blah

[Common]

Do a romantic crazy thing for her.

if this fails, all else will fail. Get a new girlfriend.

[Bun]

decide what you want to do.

if you want to get back with her, do something really romantic and pray it works. if it doesn't that should be enough to move on from her, go out with your mates or something?

if you don't want to get back with her, then don't try enter a new relationship because it might remind you of times with her, just stick close with your friends and play the field. :8

[Common]

decide what you want to do.

if you want to get back with her, do something really romantic and pray it works. if it doesn't that should be enough to move on from her, go out with your mates or something?

if you don't want to get back with her, then don't try enter a new relationship because it might remind you of times with her, just stick close with your friends and play the field. :8
True words from a true man.

[//Tom]

decide what you want to do.

if you want to get back with her, do something really romantic and pray it works. if it doesn't that should be enough to move on from her, go out with your mates or something?

if you don't want to get back with her, then don't try enter a new relationship because it might remind you of times with her, just stick close with your friends and play the field. :8
thats exactly what i was trying to say.

[Dinosaurawrr]

as said
go 2 her speak to her explain maybe shell understand if she really loved you then she would..

if it dont work out then forget about her move on find sum1 new
get a new sim? change ure number delete her number
you cant get in contact if you dont have anything?
and neoither can she?

i hope it works out x

[Wahey]

Go out with mates, see other people, enjoy yourself

[camera]

if she doesnt wanna talk to you dont force yourself on her. youll just make her dislike you if she hasnt already.

[LuketheDuke]

The argument Ive consoled you with these past couple of months is there no point crying over spilt milk, its happened and you can only look foward and not backwards.

I keep saying a lot of people over exaggerate their broken relationships by focusing on the good points and ignoring all the bad, its understandable but something you have to come to terms with.

Once you find someone else she'll be your bestest and closest friend and this will be forgotten.

[Hecktix]

The argument Ive consoled you with these past couple of months is there no point crying over spilt milk, its happened and you can only look foward and not backwards.

I keep saying a lot of people over exaggerate their broken relationships by focusing on the good points and ignoring all the bad, its understandable but something you have to come to terms with.

Once you find someone else she'll be your bestest and closest friend and this will be forgotten.

I was dreading your bloody reply willywiles.

[LuketheDuke]

Theres no magic potion or solution thats going to console the problem but at this time in your life is it really that bad mate?

She wigged out at you when you tried to gain some closure so it doesnt say much about her as a person whos supposed to know you inside out.

Girlfriends come and go but unfortunately friends are there forever:D

[Niall!]

Drugs and drink work. Very very well.

[Hecktix]

Theres no magic potion or solution thats going to console the problem but at this time in your life is it really that bad mate?

She wigged out at you when you tried to gain some closure so it doesnt say much about her as a person whos supposed to know you inside out.

Girlfriends come and go but unfortunately friends are there forever:D

Shame that isn't it willy ;)


Drugs and drink work. Very very well.
Oh yes they do, not a fan of drugs though.