How to stop missing someone?

[Hecktix]

Hey
I never thought i'd post here as I thought my friends were good enough for advice, but they really don't seem to get this one and it's getting too far now so I was hoping some of you lot would be able to help me out.

For about 3 years I was very close friends with this girl, 14 months ago I went through a very messy break up and it was this girl that helped me get through it.

We helped eachother a lot, she helped me through that and I helped her through some of the most difficult times of her life too.

Anyway one thing led to another and we sort of fell in love, we were together for 10 months and well we were ever so close, it was like dating my best friend. Basically, an amazing friendship + the relationship side, it was perfect. Around February I started being a bit of a ****. I was going through some emotional difficulty at home and she really didn't understand, and I took it out on her.

In the end she couldn't deal with it anymore and just left me, but she completely left me.. like wouldn't talk to me again. Well that didn't last long a week later we were having sex again :rolleyes: but eventually the "**** buddies" aspect became less appealing.

I used to spend one weekend with her, the next weekend working so I didn't really have much time to see my friends, I've never really had many close friends anyway, tbh she was always my closest friend before we got together.

So now she's gone and won't talk to me it's so hard because not only did I lose the girl I loved (completely my own fault) I lost my best (and only) close friend.

She gets upset if I text/email/ring her, and it gets me down all the time, I can't sleep, I struggle to find a decent appetite and I'm always miserable when around my friends, right now I'm sat here on my friends computer whilst aload of my other friends are watching a film, cause I couldn't handle sitting watching my phone hoping she was going to text.

Is there anything I can do to stop myself from wanting to text her or missing her so much?

It's been 4 months since we've split now, it's getting unbearable.

[Mentor]

find someone new and stop pineing over someone lost. The move forward not backwards approach is clichéd yet true. There are plenty more fish in the sea, however it may look now.

[Nemo]

Or you could go to her house, face to face. Sort it out and if it doesnt, then yes, as above, move on.

[Hecktix]

find someone new and stop pineing over someone lost. The move forward not backwards approach is clichéd yet true. There are plenty more fish in the sea, however it may look now.

Yes, however the process of waiting is what causes that problem
Haha.

You can't look for someone else or it doesn't happen.

edit, at naughtynemo; tried.

[Nemo]

Yes, however the process of waiting is what causes that problem
Haha.

You can't look for someone else or it doesn't happen.

edit, at naughtynemo; tried.

andddddddd what happened

[Lindsey]

Like, Hmmm.... Hard to explain,

I just went through about the same thing, what i did was ... i would hang out with my other friends, and get my mind off of things, hmmm... all i can really say is. talk to your friends more. create a better and bigger friendship with them ....

idk if it helped, :] hope it did

[Hecktix]

andddddddd what happened

We kissed & everything was fine, but then I went home & it all wasn't fine again, it's silly, it's like she won't talk to me because she doesn't want to fall for me again, but I'm past that I just want to move on but finding it hard

Like, Hmmm.... Hard to explain,

I just went through about the same thing, what i did was ... i would hang out with my other friends, and get my mind off of things, hmmm... all i can really say is. talk to your friends more. create a better and bigger friendship with them ....

idk if it helped, :] hope it did

That's what I'm trying, thanks x

[FlyingJesus]

You don't stop missing them

[Hecktix]

You don't stop missing them

Yeah I know that, but there must be a way to stop missing them as much?

[Mentor]

From what you said, it already sounded over and gone. Hence my advice to move on. Only you can really know for sure as only you are there, emotions cloud judgement though, so stop, think it through logicly and make sure your not wasteing your time chaceing what was rather than what could be.