View Full Version : have or would you ever forgive your partner for cheating?
LipsLikeSugar
12-08-2009, 05:12 PM
have or would you ever forgive your partner for cheating?
If yes you did, why?
If yes you would, why?
If no you wouldn't, why?
Cyndia
13-08-2009, 04:56 AM
I think it would depend on the severity and on the guy/how long we'd been together, etc. I've thankfully never had to deal with a guy cheating on me, but if I'd been with a guy for a really long time and it was just a temporary lapse - maybe making out with someone while really drunk, I might let it slide. Though I'd give them hell for it for a good long while until I knew for sure they regretted it. If they did it more than once then I'd definitely kick them out, no questions asked. And if it was something more than just kissing, like hooking up/having sex, I'd be done with them, no questions asked as well. Or if it happened within a short period of time of when we started dating. And the reason why I'd dump them is simply because them cheating shows that I can't trust them, and if you can't trust a guy how can you date him? And the reason why I'd give them a second chance is because we all mess up sometime or other, and as long as it wasn't really severe I think it's reasonable to give them another chance.
MrGazet
13-08-2009, 07:06 AM
seriously i don't know
never really got serious with someone but i do hate infidelities.
maybe if i really love that person,i'd forgive but not forget.it would never be the same though,so i think its better off to get with someone else
FlyingJesus
13-08-2009, 02:14 PM
1st and 3rd I was cheating on too so didn't really matter, 2nd was a one time thing and I didn't find out until after we'd broken up so was just like oh fair play
I have gooooood relationships
MrRem
13-08-2009, 02:24 PM
You don't love someone if you can not forgive them.
Inspiration
13-08-2009, 02:24 PM
I'd say yes because i have cheated on my current girlfriend and told her straight away and tbh things ain't the same anymore but you gotta work at these things.
jackass
13-08-2009, 02:26 PM
What's the point of this poll, it all depends on the situation. :S
buttons
13-08-2009, 02:36 PM
i have before but then decided revenge was wayyy better than forgiving! :)
What's the point of this poll, it all depends on the situation. :S
yee i agree cant rly say so or not =/
I have in the past but yes, future decisions may be different.
FlyingJesus
13-08-2009, 10:32 PM
i have before but then decided revenge was wayyy better than forgiving! :)
Init getting with a one-eared pikey will make ANYONE sorry
its an interesting topic, and im not sure where I stand on it, something currently being discussed with the bf xoxoxo
I did one girlfriend, I was young, dumb and in love, but it still didn't work out anyway lol.
JACKTARD
18-08-2009, 02:32 PM
I would want to hate them forever and act like i hate them forever.
whether i actually did wouldnt matter if they cheated on me
NIKKEE
18-08-2009, 06:18 PM
No, I really wouldn't ever. I know that once a cheater always a cheater, and I know myself that I'd never be able to trust him again, even if I tried, there wouldn't be much point in trying cause I'd hate to live like a paranoid wreck.
Anyone I've ever known who has cheated on someone has always done it again, or cheated on another partner, if someone thinks you're letting them away with it, then they'll do it again. I really think cheating is the most pathetic thing anyone can do, it's horrible.
If i got cheated on i'd just leave them, it's as simple as that. Why bother forgiving someone that you cannot trust? They've ended that trust by sleeping with someone else while in a relationship (in my books i think you have to be in a relationship to actually get cheated on/cheat on someone). I think people are kidding themselves quite frankly if they've been cheated on but forgive them because they're in "love" and that they're convinced they will not do it again. Forgiving that person will most likely result in them thinking that they can do whatever they want because you'll forgive them; leading them to cheat on you again or go behind your back in some way. Could you really tell your children that mummy/daddy cheated on you? Not only would I be embarrassed and ashamed (if i got cheated on and actually let them stay with me), but I'd also probably grow this massive paranoid bubble where I think my boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on me (i'm not speaking about me, i'm speaking about anyone). I wouldn't like to live the rest of my life in that relationship always up at night wondering what he/she is doing or everytime he/she gets a text/phonecall I would be so curious to ask who it was and why they're phoning :S. Not only would it mess up the relationship in so many ways but it would also make you're life pretty crap, and you'd grow to learn deep down that you could never trust anyone, and your children (assuming people have children and are like this) will most likely to see this terrible relationship because they see it the best, many people underestimate children I think.
Bottom line is, in my opinion, if someone cheated, that would be it. They'd need to learn a lesson in not to cheat again by dumping them, if you don't dump them then they'll just think it's ok and do it again. :S
Nxrissa
18-08-2009, 07:10 PM
Why should i. i wouldnt.
FlyingJesus
18-08-2009, 09:52 PM
I really think cheating is the most pathetic thing anyone can do, it's horrible.
It's bare funny tbh
NIKKEE
18-08-2009, 09:59 PM
It's bare funny tbh
It ruins families, what a sad attitude.
FlyingJesus
18-08-2009, 10:09 PM
Yeah teen cheating is what rips families apart
NIKKEE
18-08-2009, 10:12 PM
Yeah teen cheating is what rips families apart
It doesn't matter what age, it's not something I take lightly.
jackass
18-08-2009, 10:26 PM
It doesn't matter what age, it's not something I take lightly.
It's a blast though!
Sammeth.
18-08-2009, 11:55 PM
If I was in a committed relationship yeah, I would probably be heartbroken. If it was just a crappy relationship, or one that wasnt all that serious, or it was a pretty new one, then I probably wouldn't care.
If I was in love with them i'd be completely devastated and it would take a lot for me to trust them again, but i'd give it a shot. If it was a random relationship i'd end it and not really care.
No I wouldn't.
And @ MrRem If you loved your partner why would you cheat on them :?
Catchy
19-08-2009, 09:05 PM
No, I think people who take them back are mugs.
No i'd never forgive them because I could no longer trust them.. and if i can't trust them.. it isn't a relationship.
GoldenMerc
23-08-2009, 09:26 PM
no chance
If they cheated on me and they were lezbian, then i may forgive and try get some love hate shiz going where she goes with her and i got with she , you get me
Glitter
23-08-2009, 11:53 PM
I forgave someone who cheated on me before, and it was disastorous, because after there was NO trust at all. I thought he'd cheat on me again, and he thought id cheat on him to get back at him, so we arguedddd lots and eventually split up anyway. So no, i wouldn't forgive anyone again.
Meanies
23-08-2009, 11:53 PM
I wouldn't want to, but probably would end up doing anyway
GoldenMerc
24-08-2009, 09:57 AM
id rather she finished with me than cheat on me. fnx
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