SEX IS PAINFUL?

[blissful]

Im 15 and my boyfriend and i feel ready for sex, so we tried but he got inches in and it hurt, well i know it breaks a bone, but how painful is it!!
any tips?:S

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[Yoshimitsui]

What you are referring to would be the 'Hymen', it is not a bone but infact tissue. If it hurts or whether it breaks is different from woman to woman and is dependent on your body alone. It can hurt first time but how to go about it i would suggest reading up on the internet or wait for an answer from another girl on the forum, as im sure they could explain these sorts of things alot better than me.

[RandomManJay]

What you are referring to would be the 'Hymen', it is not a bone but infact tissue. If it hurts or whether it breaks is different from woman to woman and is dependent on your body alone. It can hurt first time but how to go about it i would suggest reading up on the internet or wait for an answer from another girl on the forum, as im sure they could explain these sorts of things alot better than me.

Yeah, usually the Hymen doesn't hurt during the first time you have sex, but in some cases it can, it is in the end normal though, so its nothing really to be worried about. Like Yoshi said, do some research on the internet, NHS Direct would be a good suggestion and wait for a girl to reply back, men can't really relate to these things ;).

[FlyingJesus]

Certainly doesn't break a bone lol... as Yoshi said that'll be the hymen which is literally a small bit of membrane, it's gonna hurt when that breaks but a massive amount of girls these days have already broken it or at least worn it down a bit by the time they have sex - and not just through foreplay as a lot of common activities and sports can make a difference due to its fragility.

That said, you're not likely to feel fantastic as soon as that "barrier" has gone. Some girls are entirely able to lose their virginity and have just a few moments of pain before it starts feeling good, but the majority of the time it's not quite so Hollywood and in my experience (obviously not as the girl but with girls) it can hurt for a fair while and take a few attempts over time until your body gets used to it. All you can really do is grin and bare it - use lube if you think you need it and always always always (for the fun of it as well as practicality) have yourselves a good session of foreplay first.

By the way, if you really have broken a bone doing it then something hasn't gone quite right.

[Pyroka]

inb4 centimetres arent inches.

Apparently its painful, uhm I'm not a guru on it but yes it would appear it does hurt. I think the feedback you've been getting is very useful. Except mine of course. I'm just here to make it humorous. It's gonna hurt either way, he's jabbing you with his member in your front bottom, it's not going to 'tickle'.

[Access]

get some sexual juices flowing or use some lube..

didn't hurt me when *REMOVED*

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[Pyroka]

u
get some sexual juices flowing or use some lube..

didn't hurt me when i *REMOVED*

What better advice could you get from anybody called 'Access'. Hur hur hur. ;)

[kk.]

ryans on the ball tonight

but yes, every advice above is what is correct. and lol at fj's bottom bit

[FlyingJesus]

My bottom bit is gorgeous tyvm

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[Inscribe]

ryans on the ball tonight
Dont you mean hes on the balls?

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[kk.]

no he has 1

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[Kardan]

inb4 centimetres arent inches.

Apparently its painful, uhm I'm not a guru on it but yes it would appear it does hurt. I think the feedback you've been getting is very useful. Except mine of course. I'm just here to make it humorous. It's gonna hurt either way, he's jabbing you with his member in your front bottom, it's not going to 'tickle'.

*Giggle*

It's painful because it's God's way of saying you're underage and will go to hell for doing it.

That's if you're religious of course.

Otherwise, you might want to go for some lube, maybe a bit of foreplay? Finished off with a good... aww heck. Just go slowly and get it over and done with and it will hurt less the next time round, or so it should :$

[Niall!]

Take it like a ma- oh wait.

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[Pyroka]

Take it like a ma- oh wait.

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[RandomManJay]

Everyone please stay on topic, these threads have to be handled carefully, you must remember that there is actually someone who wants your help on this forum who will read your replies.

[Niall!]

I've known about this since I was 9. She's 15. Everyone's going to take the piss.

[RandomManJay]

I've known about this since I was 9. She's 15. Everyone's going to take the piss.

It doesn't matter how old she is, another forum member is asking for advice. Posting pointless, off-topic and offending replies will not do the her any good.

[Niall!]

It doesn't matter how old she is, another forum member is asking for advice. Posting pointless, off-topic and offending replies will not do the her any good.

Ok. Allow me to assist her.

Dear forum member.

It will hurt like a *****. A friend of mine was put off it for 3 months because it hurts so much. I hope this is helpful in your quest for information. Also, there could be blood. Another friend of mine had to buy new sheets.

Sincerely-

Niall!

[Feep]

Make him get you really wet and use some lube. I'll make it less painfull I guess.

[kk.]

It doesn't matter how old she is, another forum member is asking for advice. Posting pointless, off-topic and offending replies will not do the her any good.

Are you going to edit your own post for pointless posting? You've done it to everyone else so why not?

My post was actually referring to a post someone else made about my post, how else am I meant to reply

[FlyingJesus]

A11. Do not post pointlessly – A pointless post has no relevance to the topic, any previous post or is meaningless (ghnrgher etc). A pointless thread either has no meaning, is something posted that is not true (e.g. false story in news and rumours) or a thread that doesn't prompt a discussion (eg. post the colour of socks you're wearing).

Any previous post... I knew there was a sub-part to the pointless posting rule that allowed off-topic posts as long as they are in reply to something in the thread

[luce]

in an attempt to get this going again it didn't hurt me much and i know someone else who it didn't hurt. But then i know another person who swore never to have sex again. It just depends on who you are

[Bun]

the break a bone thing made me lol. but yeh expect it to hurt for the first couple of times and go from there.

[Accipiter]

Why are half these members chavs?

Tbh you posting this sounds like your not ready for it, but saying you are because either your bf or your friends have talked you into it. So one fact is, Go by your own mind not the people you hang with.

i lol at how people now post on forums as if underage sex is like buying booze when your 12.

[Glitter]

my first time hurt like ****. it was not a pleasant experience, but if you keep going it does start to feel better. it just takes time.

[Access]

Why are half these members chavs?

Tbh you posting this sounds like your not ready for it, but saying you are because either your bf or your friends have talked you into it. So one fact is, Go by your own mind not the people you hang with.

i lol at how people now post on forums as if underage sex is like buying booze when your 12.

how did you come to that conclusion?

[Nikki]

It's not as bad as everyone make out, the pain is forgotten when you start having fun and enjoy it.
you can't plan to have sex, if natural lol it just happens

[luce]

It's not as bad as everyone make out, the pain is forgotten when you start having fun and enjoy it.
you can't plan to have sex, if natural lol it just happens

Yes you can LOL!? You don't always but people do plan their first time or even like shall we sleep over at yours tonight and have sex? that's planning to have sex..

[Kardan]

*Giggle*

It's painful because it's God's way of saying you're underage and will go to hell for doing it.

That's if you're religious of course.

Otherwise, you might want to go for some lube, maybe a bit of foreplay? Finished off with a good... aww heck. Just go slowly and get it over and done with and it will hurt less the next time round, or so it should :$

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Stay on topic? What do you think I put in my post? -.- People are right when the moderation isn't as good as it used to be. That's a few times these past few weeks I've had a silly edit.

[efq]

Stay on topic? What do you think I put in my post? -.- People are right when the moderation isn't as good as it used to be. That's a few times these past few weeks I've had a silly edit.
It's partically on topic aswell as not and pointlessly humourable. 'aww heck' and so on isn't needed.
I ain't going to say your wrong but " It's painful because it's God's way of saying you're underage and will go to hell for doing it." isn't needed and that's incorrect lmao :D

Btw, many girls hurt. Go horseriding or something or just begin ************ like any other average boy/girl. Otherwise, let him in and get the pain over with then have fun.

Use a condom btw.

[Access]

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[Niall!]

It's partically on topic aswell as not and pointlessly humourable. 'aww heck' and so on isn't needed.
I ain't going to say your wrong but " It's painful because it's God's way of saying you're underage and will go to hell for doing it." isn't needed and that's incorrect lmao :D

Btw, many girls hurt. Go horseriding or something or just begin ************ like any other average boy/girl. Otherwise, let him in and get the pain over with then have fun.

Use a condom btw.

Is ************ filtered now? You are treating us like kids if so.

[Access]

can't even have a "teenage" conversation on here, defo bully victims the majority of these moderators

[adaym]

It's not as bad as everyone make out, the pain is forgotten when you start having fun and enjoy it.
you can't plan to have sex, if natural lol it just happens
k, it's clear to me you have no idea/experience.

it'll hurt, no matter what. might be a lil wee bit or a massive bit but it'll hurt. gi' it time lassie and you'll be fine, it won't hurt as much/at all.

[Richie]

I know some of the comments are 100% true but am I the only one that's cringing? I think its just the thought of a 'bone' breaking, Anyway I'm not too sure about what you can do, I hope someone can help you though!



Best Of luck,
Richard.

[uje]

May I remind you that the legal age for sex is 16, and to be honest by the sounds of it, a few of you are not a t that age yet. Sex CAN hurt for girls when the hymen is ripped, this can also cause a lot of bleeding. However very sporty people may find that there will not be any bleeding and minimal pain because it has already been ripped due to the sports you have played. Also a gynaecologist can purposely stretch or even rip your hymen for you (this doesn’t mean you have lost your virginity) that way when you are having sex there is minimal pain. But it all really depends on the type of person you are.

Before you all go rushing into sex you might want to try out these links:

http://www.avert.org/ready-sex.htm
http://www.avert.org/sexual-intercourse.htm

Use protection.

[leah]

mine didn't hurt much, I was well chuffed.

[adaym]

I know some of the comments are 100% true but am I the only one that's cringing? I think its just the thought of a 'bone' breaking, Anyway I'm not too sure about what you can do, I hope someone can help you though!



Best Of luck,
Richard.
hi, only the op said it was a bone but it's proper not a bone, lol. is ur willy a sledgehammer? nah so it couldn't break a bone, lol.

[Meanies]

mine didn't hurt much, I was well chuffed.
you were drunk so you dint feel it
i wanna make a joke about you sayin chuffed but its too early to think of a good one

[FlyingJesus]

Getting chuffed won't rip your hymen

[Lindsey]

Personally, most girls can cut down on the pain by wearing a tampon..., because it does hurt the 1st time u put it in., right , so its the same.. i know a tampon isnt as big as a D**** but yah.., xD haha,

WOW !!! guys know what there on about. when it doesn't even happen to them haha, that soo funny !!! [:

[Laggings]

It's called popping your cherry.
This is what will happen:

SCREAM
moan

have fun

[Metric1]

You could loosen yourself up with a variety of things such as fingers, sex toys or general household items. Not only will you loosen yourself up, but you will also make yourself feel nice. Also, I suggest you don't pleasure yourself on any sort of fancy furniture, white bedding or any textile that is susceptible to staining because usually (from my experience) when a girls hymen tears a small, or large (in my case) amount of blood is released. You may want to manually tear your hymen before your boyfriend does it for you with his penis because trust me, nothing turns me off more than pulling out and seeing blood.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[DJ-Ains.T]

It's called popping your cherry.
This is what will happen:

SCREAM
moan

have fun

no your wrong

-scream
-bleed
-cry
-realise it doesn't hurt as much
-start enjoying it
-moan
-scream
-fire.

ye, its bound to hurt, just get that schlong up your flappers and hope for the best!

[Access]

no your wrong

-scream
-bleed
-cry
-realise it doesn't hurt as much
-start enjoying it
-moan
-scream
-fire.

ye, its bound to hurt, just get that schlong up your flappers and hope for the best!

you been watching wood porn or something? i'm pretty sure there shouldn't be any fire involved in sex :S

[leah]

you were drunk so you dint feel it
i wanna make a joke about you sayin chuffed but its too early to think of a good one
wasn't that drunk and it would still have hurt. I just hae always done sports so thats probs why :)

Getting chuffed won't rip your hymen
lmaoooo that made me chuckle

[AndyDude312]

you been watching wood porn or something? i'm pretty sure there shouldn't be any fire involved in sex :S

The Kings of Leon would disagree.

[Browney]

Didn't hurt me. :D

[Laggings]

no your wrong

-scream
-bleed
-cry
-realise it doesn't hurt as much
-start enjoying it
-moan
-scream
-fire.

ye, its bound to hurt, just get that schlong up your flappers and hope for the best!


What's with the fire?
And I gave a vague general description of the event, I'm not going to go into every detail like:

-1 inch in
-2 inches in
-3 inches in
-strain
-push
-break
-scream
-bleed
etcetc

Lmao! :P

[luce]

I know some of the comments are 100% true but am I the only one that's cringing? I think its just the thought of a 'bone' breaking, Anyway I'm not too sure about what you can do, I hope someone can help you though!



Best Of luck,
Richard.

a bone doesn't break *facepalmmoment*


Personally, most girls can cut down on the pain by wearing a tampon..., because it does hurt the 1st time u put it in., right , so its the same.. i know a tampon isnt as big as a D**** but yah.., xD haha,

WOW !!! guys know what there on about. when it doesn't even happen to them haha, that soo funny !!! [:

I have always worn tampons and it never hurt me once so i think you must be putting them up a wee bit to far.


Didn't hurt me. :D

I should hope not unless she has like acidic vagaina fluids :eusa_whis

[Laggings]

I have always worn tampons and it never hurt me once so i think you must be putting them up a wee bit to far.

LOLLLLLLLLLL JUST A WEE BIT? :P

[AndyDude312]

I should hope not unless she has like acidic vagaina fluids :eusa_whis

Well the vaginal fluids are usually slightly acidic or alkaline, it varies between women and this is what causes some women to be more likely to have boys or girls.

Gotta love being a geek.

[Laggings]

Sex is painful for the woman, if you have a penis like mine. :O!

On-topic: K that information is extremely.... interesting.

[Glitter]

FRICTION BURNZZZZZ

[Wyked]

its not painful if u turn the light off :)