Does age matter?

[Meree.]

Do you think age matters?

For instance, if you liked someone & they liked you or the other way around. And there was a fairly big age difference. Lets say 3-6 yrs at the most, would you let that affect how you feel and not be with them or think to yourself that age doesn't matter & be with that person? All opinions respected ;)

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[Arron]

tough one really. it sounds wrong. it looks wrong but it's entirely up to you.

one of my good friends (16) was seeing a 22 year old guy and that's a 6 year age difference there.

I think it's wrong as a teen seeing someone with up to a 3 year age difference than you.

[Meree.]

tough one really. it sounds wrong. it looks wrong but it's entirely up to you.

one of my good friends (16) was seeing a 22 year old guy and that's a 6 year age difference there.

I think it's wrong as a teen seeing someone with up to a 3 year age difference than you.

Very good point. Im mainly ageing it at about, 13-16 year olds or so.

[ifuseekamy]

I think it's only if the younger one is in their teens (or, obviously, below) because they tend to get emotionally manipulated easily. It's probably because teens are on a high from hormones and aren't usually experienced or sexually mature.

[Soy]

Of course it does

age difference can get you 4 years for statuory rape

[Meree.]

Of course it does

age difference can get you 4 years for statuory rape

Well im not aiming it at a teen & someone 18+ so it wouldnt really. I respect your opinion though.

[Tash.]

Erm I think like people have said that if it's someone that is 18 and someone who is 14 date it is quite wrong. Basically the younger you are the worse it seems because you are likely to be at different levels of maturity and development. Also what seems to matter is whether its the girl or the boy who's older. Usually if the girl is older than the boy it seems wrong somehow. This is just usually because it's not a common thing to see an older girl with a younger boyfriend. Once you get older a 3 year gap isn't so big at all because you're both supposedly at the same level of maturity (although with some people this is debatable).

[wixard]

meree nobody will judge if you choose to go out with dogboy!!!!!!

i go for the younger boys yummm, a year younger is always good...

[Sunnily]

It isn't a problem to me but if your under about 11-12ish and dating someone 6 years older then it is wrong. If they both trust each other and get along then i don't see why not.

[Callum.]

I'm 17. Personally I'm not sure if I'd come out alive meeting a 11 year old's parents and telling them we're together. p a e d o

[Smits]

To an extent yes, age does matter.

[-K8T!E-]

I don't think it matters that much really, I'm 13 and I'd go out with someone up to 16 but I don't think I'd go out with anyone younger than me.

[Smits]

I don't think it matters that much really, I'm 13 and I'd go out with someone up to 16 but I don't think I'd go out with anyone younger than me.

Yes but i don't think a 16 year old should be dating a 13 year old. The maturity gap is too big,

[-K8T!E-]

Yes but i don't think a 16 year old should be dating a 13 year old. The maturity gap is too big,

I dunno, everyone in my year is 14/15 so I'm a bit younger than everyone else so I'd really only be going out with someone 1-2 years above me in school. Girls are way more mature than guys anyway lol.

[chantellehugs]

To me it's an in betweener, for example

If a 13 year old was dating an 18 year old, I would see that as completely wrong, the age gap is too large for such a young age, and the 18 year old will be more mature.

Where as if a 19 year old was dating a 24 year old, I'd see that as completely fine, because they should both be mature enough, and it just seems...right? Like they're both adults, making their own choices. But with the 13 year old, she wouldn't know what she truly wanted, if you understand what I mean?

But for me as a person, I'd only date someone 1 year older than me, anymore and I'd feel weird, I can't explain it, I'd just feel uncomfortable to be going out with the person.

[Callum.]

To me it's an in betweener, for example

If a 13 year old was dating an 18 year old, I would see that as completely wrong, the age gap is too large for such a young age, and the 18 year old will be more mature.

Where as if a 19 year old was dating a 24 year old, I'd see that as completely fine, because they should both be mature enough, and it just seems...right? Like they're both adults, making their own choices. But with the 13 year old, she wouldn't know what she truly wanted, if you understand what I mean?

But for me as a person, I'd only date someone 1 year older than me, anymore and I'd feel weird, I can't explain it, I'd just feel uncomfortable to be going out with the person.

the amount of times this has been said in different ways on everytime this subject comes up, i DO know what you mean.

[Calvin]

If thers grass on the wicket, LETS PLAY CRICKET!

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[Smits]

If thers grass on the wicket, LETS PLAY CRICKET!

Lol, that's one way of putting it.

If there's hills on the flat, i'd tap that.

[wixard]

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[Calvin]

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LOL, love it.

[Meree.]

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Suckin'

[wixard]

Suckin'

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[Calvin]

Suckin'

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[Meree.]

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S is better soz

[Smits]

I actually thought it was ducking. :SS

[Special]

Not at all, but there is limits

[Hiro]

I'd say no, only if both people are above the age of 16.

[Immenseman]

depends how old you are. my nan and granddad had a 20 yr age gap that didn't seem wrong because they were like 55 and 75 but because they were old it's kk. different if someone is 10 and someone 30 or 5 and the partner 25, although same age gap that's just not right for obvious reasons.

[Lindsey]

Personally i don't think age matters. But if it gets to like 12 year old dating a 19 year old. I tend to worry, Because a 12 year old is still young and not very mature. [Sorry if your 12 and your reading this] but a 19 year old, may influence the 12 year old to do naughty things which is bad and wrong. If the relationship isn't all about sex ect. and showing kids bad things, then I would say its not very bad...


I think i put the wrong age group because i was a well mature 12 yearold but im sorry if any of you take offence to what i put .


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[Black_Apalachi]

Personally i don't think age matters. But if it gets to like 12 year old dating a 19 year old. I tend to worry, Because a 12 year old is still young and not very mature. [Sorry if your 12 and your reading this] but a 19 year old, may influence the 12 year old to do naughty things which is bad and wrong. If the relationship isn't all about sex ect. and showing kids bad things, then I would say its not very bad...


I think i put the wrong age group because i was a well mature 12 yearold but im sorry if any of you take offence to what i put .


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That would be kind of illegal anyway.
How come you're asking for rep? (not doing job of moderators, just asking because it's weird lol).

My answer to this thread would be the same as Jake's cos I want to suck up to him. Actually it's because it makes sense. The main reason large age gaps are frowned upon is because of younger people being vulnerable as Aprilshower,x mentioned. But once you get past the legal age of consent, you can have any age gap you want if you're both happy with it. Look at all the old millionaires and movie stars who have young girlfriends for example.

[luce]

No i don't think it does i used to think it did but now after meeting someone way older then me i don't think it does although alot of people still do if they were put in a position where the person they liked was much older or younger i don't think they would let it get in the way or what they think they could have :)!

[Fifteen]

To me it's an in betweener, for example

If a 13 year old was dating an 18 year old, I would see that as completely wrong, the age gap is too large for such a young age, and the 18 year old will be more mature.

Where as if a 19 year old was dating a 24 year old, I'd see that as completely fine, because they should both be mature enough, and it just seems...right? Like they're both adults, making their own choices. But with the 13 year old, she wouldn't know what she truly wanted, if you understand what I mean?

But for me as a person, I'd only date someone 1 year older than me, anymore and I'd feel weird, I can't explain it, I'd just feel uncomfortable to be going out with the person.

I agree :)




I'd say no, only if both people are above the age of 16.

oh em gee, it is Hiro


Personally i don't think age matters. But if it gets to like 12 year old dating a 19 year old. I tend to worry, Because a 12 year old is still young and not very mature. [Sorry if your 12 and your reading this] but a 19 year old, may influence the 12 year old to do naughty things which is bad and wrong. If the relationship isn't all about sex ect. and showing kids bad things, then I would say its not very bad...


I think i put the wrong age group because i was a well mature 12 yearold but im sorry if any of you take offence to what i put .


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I agreee.

Uhm I'm 18 and my last boyf was 23, had no problem with it, so yeah.

[FlyingJesus]

Why have people voted that age doesn't matter when every single one of you has said "no, BUT...."

If there's an exception then yes, you do think it matters. If you didn't then you'd be fine with old people sticking things in babies

[matthew1112]

its up to u realy

[Grig]

I think it does matter when you're in your teenage years, for reasons that interests are just so different and it is normally viewed as 'desperation' etc etc. All these pre-perecieved things. However, I'd say once your over 20, it's not so much of a crucial factor.

[Bevvie]

Yeah it does. Good point Grig.
It would look so wrong if you went out with 9/10 years old boy cos you're 14/15 right?

[TheEclipse]

In your teen years, yes it matters. A lot. Once you're about 19 or so, (as long as you're not going out with someone 3-6 years YOUNGER than you because, ew), it doesn't matter so much.
If you're freaking out because your boyfriend or girlfriend is one year older or younger than you, that's silly.

My boyfriend is 2 years younger than me, but we're probably older than most of you.

[Grippz]

I would only ever go out with someone if there was like say a year gap ;/ I suppose if your in love with the person though then I don't think it matters.. It's hard to find someone special so go for it!

[Scophobia]

It depends on your age really. If you're in college && you date someone younger then there could be some problems.

But older I don't see any problem, whatever floats your boat really :P age is only an issue when you or your partner are under 16.

[AgnesIO]

15 and under = 1 year difference
18 down to 16 = 2/3 year difference

Above doesn't really matter.

I mean let's say if a guy was 60, and his wife was 50 that sounds like nothing?

[TheEclipse]

But older I don't see any problem, whatever floats your boat really :P age is only an issue when you or your partner are under 16.

Not quite, I'd say age is only an issue when you or your partner are under 20. It's a bit creepy when an 18 year old is with a 30 year old man for example. I mean, what do they have in common??

[Hecktix]

Of course age matters, if it didn't there wouldn't be laws against paedophilia.

On a serious note, only if you are both over 20 are big age gaps considered more acceptable.

[TheEclipse]

It's still pretty weird to see a 20 year old with a 50 year old or something. Again you wonder what they could have in common.

There's actually a formula you can use to work out if the age difference is too far apart.

[Ajthedragon]

I think it does. But thats my own thought. :)

[Sammeth.]

Obviously paedophilia isn't acceptable, but when we are talking in terms of social norm and legality, I don't think age matters at all. I did shiver when I read about that 70 year old n that 25 year old makin babies, but at the end of the day its love that matters not age.

[Meree.]

Obviously paedophilia isn't acceptable, but when we are talking in terms of social norm and legality, I don't think age matters at all. I did shiver when I read about that 70 year old n that 25 year old makin babies, but at the end of the day its love that matters not age.

Agreed :)

[Dinosaurawrr]

i agree with sammeth
its not age
its how much you love that person (:
loving them should be all that matters :)

[TheEclipse]

I'd be um... wary about how much a 20 year old loves a 70 year old, myself. I'd imagine that there were some serious mental issues such as low self esteem.

[Pyroka]

Ye, it does, although I'm not speaking so much on how it looks, but how it is for the ppl in the relationship. Like if a young girl/boy dated an older girl/boy, you'd find ghat the younger r more immature in relationships and make it hard for everyone. They think relationships go how the movies go tbh.

I'm not gonna speak bout looks cuz in the end kids are dressing ******** and ********, so isn't society hypocritical in the way that they're lettin their kids dress up like they should be on a street corner, and then saying old dating young is wrongbgb?!?!

[TheEclipse]

I didn't mean it'd 'look' weird as in, ... they don't look cute together, I mean looks weird as in looks like something is seriously wrong.

[Zak]

I think for teens it's a bit different, I think anything more than a 3 year age gap is just weird.

As you get older it's not so bad, I know a 36 year old women going out with a 24 year old bloke. :) I don't see that as weird.

[Bewilcorp]

As one of my old close friends used to say, "Age is just a number" If you truly love someone then why worry about the age? I have a friend who is 20 and is going out with a 14 year old! (She looks about 19 btw) :)

[Gibs960]

My dad is 10 years older than my mum

[FlyingJesus]

Obviously paedophilia isn't acceptable

How dare you:@
Just for that I'm gonna use you as an example of people who voted wrongly; thus


but when we are talking in terms of social norm and legality, I don't think age matters at all. I did shiver when I read about that 70 year old n that 25 year old makin babies, but at the end of the day its love that matters not age.


Why have people voted that age doesn't matter when every single one of you has said "no, BUT...."

If there's an exception then yes, you do think it matters. If you didn't then you'd be fine with old people sticking things in babies

[Sammeth.]

How dare you:@
Just for that I'm gonna use you as an example of people who voted wrongly; thus

But thats not an example at all. Of course we have to look at from a legal point of view, otherwise thats just silly. And when I said it gives me shivers, it doesn't mean I condemn it. I don't think I would ever be able to fall in love with someone that much older than me because of my own niggles, but thats not to say I don't beleive people do have the ability to fall in love with each other with stupidly large age gaps, and if they do, then thats just peachy dandy.

[FlyingJesus]

But you said paedophilia isn't acceptable, so you do think there are limits and therefore do think that age matters, even if only to an extent. Laws on age change around the world so can't really be seen as a "true" indication of what ought to be acceptable

[Sammeth.]

Well I didnt think this thread was stupid enough to literally go beyond legality, rather I was answering the question from a social aspect not a lawyer. So my answer still stands.

[Narnat,]

I would have to say Grig is right. :)

[Louisee.]

Age doesn't really matter, to a certain extent. Yeah, yeah. 11 year olds with the 19 year olds. The 11 year olds are naive and either the 19 year olds are desperate, just wants to make a joke out of it in the end, or is really weird. :S unless there is something really special about that person. But tbh, no offence if any of you are 11, but i don't think 11 year olds should really be dating any way. :S atleast anyone older anyway. Maybe just the little dating with people in their year. I shouldn't really be the one to talk though, as i'm 13 -nearly 14. :] and my bf is 3 & a half years older than me. Not really ashamed of it though. It's been 7 months and things are great. I guess it just really depends who the person is. :P

[Gibs960]

I don't know actually because look at that girl on CBB she went out with a guy like 50 years older than her!!! OMG!

[Louisee.]

Eeww yes! that was actually just... minging tbh. o; LOL!

[Haaaaarry1]

Depends on the age and gap really... like I think for teenagers a 3 year gap is too big and I cant see why the older person would want to make it work really unless they were for some reason madly in love with a 12 year old or something.

But it doesnt happen much I dont think because people would obviously mature a lot quicker and perhaps get sexual urges which would obviously not be right lol

[Louisee.]

It doesn't necessarily matter about the age. Some mature better than others. For example, a 12 year old could be very mature and act like a 15 year old? It just really depends on the person and personality i guess.

[[Jay]]

I think its fine if thier older like 18+ but getting people who are 18/19 going out with 15's for me is not right.

[Haaaaarry1]

It doesn't necessarily matter about the age. Some mature better than others. For example, a 12 year old could be very mature and act like a 15 year old? It just really depends on the person and personality i guess.

Yeah that's true but if an 11 year olds going out with a 14 year old and they are both of like average maturity it wouldn't work because they would just have different interests etc

[leah]

well 3 years is 21, so im not sure. I guess if i really liked them before I knew their age I wouldn't care, but to me 20s is like a man age and i'd feel too young LOL.

[Louisee.]

Yeah that's true but if an 11 year olds going out with a 14 year old and they are both of like average maturity it wouldn't work because they would just have different interests etc

Sorta true, but not all 11-14 year olds have different interests. For example, i know some people online who are like 15 and are still into disney stuff, like jonas brothers and ****. :S (stuff 11 year olds would like).

[Haaaaarry1]

Sorta true, but not all 11-14 year olds have different interests. For example, i know some people online who are like 15 and are still into disney stuff, like jonas brothers and ****. :S (stuff 11 year olds would like).

Unless they have the mental of age of an 11 year old as well I could never see it happening really, the gap between teenage and childhood just makes it seem impossible for me but it does really depend on the person.

[Circadia]

with teenagers if the gap of age differenciates by a great amount like 13 and 17 it seem reallllllllly wrong but when you older say with my parents theres 7 years diffrence between then it doesnt seem wrong.

Also if the girl is older than the boy it also seems wrong but if the boy is older than the girl it seem to be OK ?? i dont say this is right but it just does !!

[Louisee.]

with teenagers if the gap of age differenciates by a great amount like 13 and 17 it seem reallllllllly wrong but when you older say with my parents theres 7 years diffrence between then it doesnt seem wrong.

Also if the girl is older than the boy it also seems wrong but if the boy is older than the girl it seem to be OK ?? i dont say this is right but it just does !!

Yeah, erm... i'm 13 & my bf is 17. :L ( im coming 14 okay?! xD) but yeah. it sounds wrong, but doesn't feel it. and we have PLENTY to talk about. :S we barely ever find awkward conversations with nothing to talk about. So, yeah. It does just depend on the person as me & him have been dating for 7 and a half months. :S still as happy & lively as ever. :P

[Meree.]

Yeah, erm... i'm 13 & my bf is 17. :L ( im coming 14 okay?! xD) but yeah. it sounds wrong, but doesn't feel it. and we have PLENTY to talk about. :S we barely ever find awkward conversations with nothing to talk about. So, yeah. It does just depend on the person as me & him have been dating for 7 and a half months. :S still as happy & lively as ever. :P

Ok, you love him fair enough. But when he comes 18, your still not legal and anything could happen. Unless you want him frowned upon the sex offenders list, i'd do something about it. Yeah sure, age doesn't matter to me, but it realllllly does when it's someone whos an adult (18+) and someone younger than that. Whether they have matured to make themselves act like a 15yr old or what not, that makes no difference.

[Louisee.]

Ok, you love him fair enough. But when he comes 18, your still not legal and anything could happen. Unless you want him frowned upon the sex offenders list, i'd do something about it. Yeah sure, age doesn't matter to me, but it realllllly does when it's someone whos an adult (18+) and someone younger than that. Whether they have matured to make themselves act like a 15yr old or what not, that makes no difference.

Fair enough, but we're safe. It's my life. Yes, we love eachother. My mum doesn't even mind. She actually adores him. o.o So what more would i need? i'm actually also the happiest i have ever been. :D So yeah. One of the nicest people ever. (he goes on this forum) But tbh, what else could i do about it? I won't dump him. You don't find many guys like him. But, we wouldn't do anything. Contrary to the age difference, i am mature enough to know what i'm doing. :S

[Meree.]

Like I said, obviously you do love him and if he loves you fair enough. And i'm not saying he would but some guys take advantage of girls, especially is they are younger, so basically im saying anything could happen, and you cant deny it as anything is possible. Sure your mum doesnt mind, fair do's. But I still don't think it is right. The amount of stories i've heard about older guys, 18+ and youger girls 16- who have sexual intercorse and then get put onto the sex offenders list or what not.. then the guy comes out with the quote 'she was the biggest mistake of my life' I'm not saying you shouldnt date him. If you want to then fair enough, it is your life, take control of it how you please. I just don't think it's right, even if you think you are mature enough to handle it.

[Louisee.]

Yeah, i know that you mean. :P Anything can happen in life. That's where trust comes into relationships. Fair enough, yeah. he could. But srsly, if you knew him :P ahaaa. He just isn't that type of person. :S But just 'cause it happens to alot of others, that's just typical guys for you really, but as i said. he's different. I know alot of other boys who are complete *****s and would take pure advantage of girls. But, this is different (i know, how many times have you heard that before? xD buh i mean it) and if anything does happen, i'll learn from it. It's my fall. Everyone makes a mistake at SOME point in their life, it's just the way of life. :P

[Meree.]

Okay, fair do's. I've stated my opinion, so I won't bother arguing and what not. But yes, I have heard loads of gals say 'yeah but he's different' and then they find out.. he aint none of the kind. Just be careful what you do, anythings possible when your in a position you are. Just don't let him take advantage, even if you feel positive he won't, just keep it on target, there's always possiblities.

[Louisee.]

Alright. I do know where you are coming from. It isn't the SAFEST relationship ever. But for now, i'm happy, he's happy. So, age doesn't really matter to me. :P besides, i wouldn't let any boy do that. i'd use my super cool kung-fu moves on him :P

[Meree.]

Fair enough, but like I said.. just think before you act.

[Louisee.]

Yes, yes. I know. I'm not thick.

[Meree.]

Yes, yes. I know. I'm not thick.

I didn't say you was. But fair enough. Anyways this thread is boring me, so this is gonna be my last post here for today. Hope to see ya posting around some other places.

[Louisee.]

Yes. I know you didn't. But tbh, i do know what i'm doing. :S I'm not one of them stupid little airheads who are willing to do anything. I'm a bit more responsible. And alright. :)