Am I right to ignore them?

[Alexx..]

G'day ;D

I started talking to this person recently, and we used to text and talk basically all day and all night and everything was rather spiffy. Then they met somebody else and stopped talking to me basically and put all their attention on them, and now they're attempting to talk to me but i'm ignoring them.

Am I being a child or am I right for ignoring them for not wanting a half assed conversation because that other person isn't online or whatever?

I've never posted a problem in here, I feel so dorky.

[immense]

Yeah. Just using you for when they're bored. Harsh but true.

[Special]

yeah you are right to - they did it to you

i know many people like this, they get a bf/gf and they stop talking to you completley and when they fall out they're straight back to you

[Alexx..]

Yeah. Just using you for when they're bored. Harsh but true.

See that's what I thought, and it's not harsh, they're a douche anyway :')


yeah you are right to - they did it to you

i know many people like this, they get a bf/gf and they stop talking to you completley and when they fall out they're straight back to you

Yeah, i'm not that bothered, but it just annoys me that cause they've got a new person, that they're like CYA.

[KyoraStryker]

Yeah. Just using you for when they're bored. Harsh but true.

I couldn't have said it any better. Kind of like a buffer for when their social life starts to suffer.

[Jessica.Rose]

your right to ignore them, they are just using you .. its harsh

[Conservative,]

Yeah as the others said, they're just using you. See how they like it lol.

[BlueEyedSarah]

Usually a relationship does take your time away from certain things you used to do before. I wouldn't worry about it. At least they are trying to fit their friends still into their life. If people in my sisters life or my life acted like that as soon as I got a boyfriend then I guess everyone would be ignoring us. In my opinion I think its childish to act that way, how would you like it when you get a relationship and find your time with other friends go downhill and they they ignore you.... Wouldn't you feel bad? All you were doing was hanging out with the one you love and you get punished for it by being ignored by your friends?

[Pallox]

I agree with all comments here.. There's two ways you can deal with it, either ignore them or talk to them..

And that option is totally down to you.. I don't think we can say if it is childish or not as we don't know the exact details, if she has ignored you completly, like litterally blanked you then think about what you thought of her? Do you want her thinking the same about you? But then do you want her feeling like she can just talk to you when ever she is bored and has time to?

Its a tricky one..

[Jordy]

I agree with all comments here.. There's two ways you can deal with it, either ignore them or talk to them..

And that option is totally down to you.. I don't think we can say if it is childish or not as we don't know the exact details, if she has ignored you completly, like litterally blanked you then think about what you thought of her? Do you want her thinking the same about you? But then do you want her feeling like she can just talk to you when ever she is bored and has time to?

Its a tricky one..No offence dude but how is your post remotely helpful? You've simply spelt out the two quite obvious options and the fact he has a choice..?

I'd probably talk to them if it made me happy tbh, you've nothing to gain from ignoring someone but you could enjoy a bit of conversation and attention if you talk to them again.

[Samantha]

Basically, she ignored you. She comes back to you either when the honeymoon period has died down or they didn't work out.

If I was you I would fight it out. Tell her straight you aren't being the middle man because it will just keep happening again and again and you shouldn't stand for it.
But I do agree you should speak to her. At first I thought, yeah you are right to ignore her, but reading the replies I think it's wrong. I hate it when people ignore me. So maybe she felt bad so she wants to rekindle the conversations between you and her.
It doesn't hurt just to speak to her and find out why does it now.

[Professional]

Continue to do that if you wish for them to do it back to you, again.

Although it's down to your personal opinion. It's hard to comment because we don't know what specifically happened... But now that they want your attention, I'd reply back.

If it's becoming a real problem talk about it to her. If she doesn't comply then sod 'er.

[Pallox]

@Jordy..

if she has ignored you completly, like litterally blanked you then think about what you thought of her? Do you want her thinking the same about you?

If you read his question then he said what should he do? Were giving our opinions on what we would do but we don't know the full situation, how can we judge on that little paragraph? Im asking him questons that will help him..