First Date

[Arron]

My days :(

i made the move today and asked this girl would you like to come the cinemas and pizzzzza hut with me when you're free. she accepted. now im bricking it. i hate first dates. i think they're so awkward. ive been texting this girl for about 2 months now and we have quite a lot in common and people say we'd make a good couple but we're both shy and we've hardly spoke in person, so you just get that awkward feeling written all over it!

how can i make it so i enjoy it and she enjoys it and we can get married in the future?

[Ed.]

First Dates don't have to be awkward but if you go in thinking it will be awkward. Just act relaxed and it will all be fine.

[Arron]

i just know it will though, no matter if i dont try to be. it will just be quiet - making it awkward lmao :(

[smiffy70]

just get er a big ass pizza and a hug and you will be snoggin by the end of the nite

[Ed.]

Cinema you don't need to talk and pizza hut you can always talk about the film etc?

[Arron]

i planned pizza hut first, eat as much as she can, then watch a film at about half 7 so she can fall asleep on me ;L

but i just wanna know what you did in your first date?

this is actually my first date.

[Eoin247]

You said she's shy too so remember she will be nervous as well.

For my first time i felt it was best to try and not think of it as a first date and that seemed to work for me. You say you have lots in common so you have excellent sources for conversation.

For my first time I bearly knew the girl. So realy most of the time i just got to know her better.

[smiffy70]

just be yourself, i was and got a kiss for my troubles

[Eoin247]

just be yourself, i was and got a kiss for my troubles

That would work for some but not for others, lol i know a few guys that if they truly acted like themselves during first dates they would never get girls. :D

[Arron]

what do i do on the first date?

[Jessicrawrr]

sounds soo cute ;D
just be yourself, compliment her, just have a really good time with her.
I wouldn't actually know what the arkwardness of a date is, I've like never been on one.
Good luck ;D

[Arron]

i dont know if i have that personality to say "you look b-e-a-utiful" in person. especially on the first date :L
im 17. some people would laugh at me having my first date now, but to be honest, i've not been to fussed about relationships until now, all my mates have a girlfriend so i kinda feel left out?

im not doing this just for my mates sake, this girl is living life hard atm. Her mum wouldn't sign her EMA papers for college because she lives with her dad instead of her. She works but only a few hours a week, so i just wanna be there for her in the future helping her out and stuff :)

[cocaine]

took you 2 months!? damn haa. erm just be yourself i cant really say much more.. just make sure you're talkative, ask her lots of questions cause it'll make her feel included as opposed to you just talking at her. make sure you make her feel comfortable around you, if you're edgy or show you're nervous she won't be able to relax. if it helps take a shot of something alcoholic beforehand.. are you familiar with the term dutch courage? :P just don't get wasted.

oh.. and on a side note.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVy9Lgpg1m8&ob

[Nicola]

i dont know if i have that personality to say "you look b-e-a-utiful" in person. especially on the first date :L
im 17. some people would laugh at me having my first date now, but to be honest, i've not been to fussed about relationships until now, all my mates have a girlfriend so i kinda feel left out?

im not doing this just for my mates sake, this girl is living life hard atm. Her mum wouldn't sign her EMA papers for college because she lives with her dad instead of her. She works but only a few hours a week, so i just wanna be there for her in the future helping her out and stuff :)

Ok so maybe don't say "you look beautiful" I think "You look really nice" is fine for a first date tbh :P

When you actually go just try not to think about how awkward it could be. The cinema part will be ok as you don't really have to talk, but if you go to pizza hut after the cinema then you can actually talk about the film. No doubt that will then lead onto another conversation and eventually you should just find yourself forgetting about how nervous you are because you'll be deep into conversation.

I wouldn't worry too much because she's probably just as nervous as you are.

[Conservative,]

Well...take her to see a slightly scary movie, then you can hug her when she's scared ;]. No but seriously just act yourself, and comfort her if she wants/needs it in the movie. And you could do that really cheesy but effective *yawn* *arm around back*. Trust me, they don't notice for a while, then when they do they like it ;]

And go to pizza after, because then as others have said, you can talk about the film :)

[Jordy]

Talk about yourself if you get stuck with things to talk about, you should never be at a loss when it comes to things to say about yourself. Probably worth paying for her too, girls like that and especially if she's having money issues. Try to be intimiate also, hold her hand and things, I remember on my very first date we didn't really touch other than hugging, we both said afterwards how that sort of ruined it.

[immense]

my first date with my most recent partner we went to a park, went back to mine, watched 6 hours of tv and got wasted on cheap vodka. i don't recommend that. just play it cool. i know you're a good looking guy cuz i have you on fb from habbo days and just play things cool and you'll be fine. just be confident and remember she wouldn't have said yes if she didn't want to be with you. i think that helps if you remember that. she has accepted because she wants to be with you. now take it by the horns and offer simple gestures "hiya, howa you did you get here ok?" then she'll reply "nice, so the bus wasn't late and there weren't any weirdos talking to you haha you got lucky" it's so easy to get convo rolling and when it's rolling it's all fab

[Arron]

took you 2 months!? damn haa. erm just be yourself i cant really say much more.. just make sure you're talkative, ask her lots of questions cause it'll make her feel included as opposed to you just talking at her. make sure you make her feel comfortable around you, if you're edgy or show you're nervous she won't be able to relax. if it helps take a shot of something alcoholic beforehand.. are you familiar with the term dutch courage? :P just don't get wasted.

yeah i could do that. i just gotta be careful i don't host a quiz show to her :|


Ok so maybe don't say "you look beautiful" I think "You look really nice" is fine for a first date tbh :P

When you actually go just try not to think about how awkward it could be. The cinema part will be ok as you don't really have to talk, but if you go to pizza hut after the cinema then you can actually talk about the film. No doubt that will then lead onto another conversation and eventually you should just find yourself forgetting about how nervous you are because you'll be deep into conversation.

I wouldn't worry too much because she's probably just as nervous as you are.

yeah i like the sound of that, thanks :)


Well...take her to see a slightly scary movie, then you can hug her when she's scared ;]. No but seriously just act yourself, and comfort her if she wants/needs it in the movie. And you could do that really cheesy but effective *yawn* *arm around back*. Trust me, they don't notice for a while, then when they do they like it ;]

And go to pizza after, because then as others have said, you can talk about the film :)

well my mate said take her to see a scary film, but if anything ill be hugging her cos i hate scary films! are there any scary films out now other than Paranormal Activity? I know Saw is 18 :( :( and no I will NEVER *yawn* *arm goes round her*. i think it's mightily cheesy sorry ;P


Talk about yourself if you get stuck with things to talk about, you should never be at a loss when it comes to things to say about yourself. Probably worth paying for her too, girls like that and especially if she's having money issues. Try to be intimiate also, hold her hand and things, I remember on my very first date we didn't really touch other than hugging, we both said afterwards how that sort of ruined it.

i was planning on letting her pay, but yeah that sounds like a good enough reason for me to pay :P
^ Joke haha :) yeah ofc i'll pay.

I dont know? is holding hands (or *HH* if i was Chandler) a bit to soon, taking into account that i hardly know her in person?

[Nicola]

Hmm I wouldn't suggest holding hands, I agree that it's a bit too soon. Also maybe go and see a comedy? That's probably your best bet for a good film on a first date and it'll keep you both in a good mood too.

[Arron]

Due Date? Alan from the Hangover is in it and we both love him.

Do i pull off any "moves" in the cinemas? haha :)

[PaulMacC]

I went a walk and talked about anything and everything.

[wixard]

DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT DO ANYTHING IN THE CINEMA OTHER THAN WATCH THE DAMN MOVIE

how is she getting home or whatever, if shes getting a bus walk her to the stop and wait with her and it'll be dark and cold so you could take her hand then yano i'd like that if a guy did for me or just kinda hugged me to keep me warm

since your shy i dunno are you gonna kiss her or not

[Arron]

DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT DO ANYTHING IN THE CINEMA OTHER THAN WATCH THE DAMN MOVIE

how is she getting home or whatever, if shes getting a bus walk her to the stop and wait with her and it'll be dark and cold so you could take her hand then yano i'd like that if a guy did for me or just kinda hugged me to keep me warm

since your shy i dunno are you gonna kiss her or not

ok good i wont :)

il probably get the same bus, get off, walk her home, then get the bus again? just flashing my bus pass woo.

i'd probably give her a hug, dependin if she wanted one like :P

it depends how the date goes init. if it goes really well then i'd imagine something might happen :)

[immense]

if she says anything about it being cold after the movie dont be like "yeahhh" its ur chance even if its just to put ur arm around her

[Arron]

i know thats like a sign, but i'd never know what to say.

"aww come here"

[immense]

actions speak louder. i know if i said that i'd expect an arm around me! speaking can mess things up if she says that just put ur arm around her without saying why ur doing it or whatever and then speak about the movie and then it'll lead to new convo and before ya know it u'll be on da bus so even if it is a bit uncomfortable it wont be for too long cuz u'll have to let go to get on the bus

is she shy too did u say?

[Arron]

i hope she says im cold :)
shall i offer her my jacket too?

erm so i believe..

[wixard]

i went out with a shyish kinda guy before and we went cinema too! even though i hate it
so after it was cold and i was like i'm so cold :( and he was like awww and he like put his arm round me and like half hugged n then kept his arm there you know? it was cute and i was like
you're such a loser but we just laughed it off

but then it just went downhill when he goes 'so am i gonna get a kiss'
i was like ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh TURN OFF

so don't do that

edit YES OFFER YOUR JACKET

[immense]

i hope she says im cold :)
shall i offer her my jacket too?

erm so i believe..

yes lol i love when people offer u their clothes and they had less than u had on anyway and then they freeze it's such a nice gesture

she will prbs say no tho so take it off and be like here put this on and if she says no then just put it back on and put ur arm around her

tht wud be so cute. i rly hope it goes well for u:)

[Inseriousity.]

omg this is like my first date too (we went to cinema + mcdonalds rather than pizza hut though). we were both really shy too.

I ended up kissing her right at the last minute I just somehow got the courage for it. I later found out she went home and just talked about this kiss to her friend for the rest of the night. so yeah just relax! :D

[Arron]

'so am i gonna get a kiss'?

LMAOOOOOOOOO oh god.

well like i said i hope it goes well and then we can have a pretty strong relationship. i just wanna be there for her really cos when she says she is stressed it gets me down :o

Jake just check my facebook on friday night, if it says Arron 'Buzz' (hate my last name) is now in a relationship, then ;) if not, then i'll most likely kill myself :)

[Eoin247]

'so am i gonna get a kiss'?

LMAOOOOOOOOO oh god.

well like i said i hope it goes well and then we can have a pretty strong relationship. i just wanna be there for her really cos when she says she is stressed it gets me down :o

Jake just check my facebook on friday night, if it says Arron 'Buzz' (hate my last name) is now in a relationship, then ;) if not, then i'll most likely kill myself :)

I wish you the best of luck man. :)

[Arron]

omg this is like my first date too (we went to cinema + mcdonalds rather than pizza hut though). we were both really shy too.

I ended up kissing her right at the last minute I just somehow got the courage for it. I later found out she went home and just talked about this kiss to her friend for the rest of the night. so yeah just relax! :D

That would seriously top the perfect date off if the time and place was right.

And ta dude above :)

[cocaine]

when is this date btw?

[Jessicrawrr]

omgomgomg, it's so cute when a boy offers a girl a jacket/hoody i love it when guys do it for me.
and have you decided what movie your going to see?

[Arron]

It's not confirmed yet. I thought Friday was ideal as we're both off from College, but she's working.

Btw +rep to all useful replies :)

[immense]

pretty sure some of the girls on here will want to date you after this

[Arron]

err she isnt replying to texts?

[immense]

ahh has she replied yet?

[Bun]

My days :(

i made the move today and asked this girl would you like to come the cinemas and pizzzzza hut with me when you're free. she accepted. now im bricking it. i hate first dates. i think they're so awkward. ive been texting this girl for about 2 months now and we have quite a lot in common and people say we'd make a good couple but we're both shy and we've hardly spoke in person, so you just get that awkward feeling written all over it!

how can i make it so i enjoy it and she enjoys it and we can get married in the future?

wait, what?



but ignoring that last bit if she's shy like you then just tell her you're shy, she will probably tell you the same and you won't have to worry about doing anything stupid because she's more likely to understand. i know girls don't appreciate when you start off too heavy but make sure she's your main focus all night, don't let her think you aren't that interested. when it comes to compliments, apart from the obvious "you look nice" (trust me this must be said or she might think you don't like what she's wearing), make them personal; such as "your legs look lovely in that dress" or "i love your eyes". this shows them that you really are focusing on them. good luck with it.

[Nemo]

It's not confirmed yet. I thought Friday was ideal as we're both off from College, but she's working.

Btw +rep to all useful replies :)
Dont wanna sound pesimistic, but she might be (judgin from ur last post) be leading you on. From experience, she says yes n everything then as the time comes closer they cancel for whatever erason. Except in my case they always replied to texts n we talked lots but yeah.

Either that or she is genuinely busy on that day and she just hasn't got any battery on her phone or whatever reason. Or just hasnt seem them, how long has it been since u sent it?

[Arron]

wait, what?



but ignoring that last bit if she's shy like you then just tell her you're shy, she will probably tell you the same and you won't have to worry about doing anything stupid because she's more likely to understand. i know girls don't appreciate when you start off too heavy but make sure she's your main focus all night, don't let her think you aren't that interested. when it comes to compliments, apart from the obvious "you look nice" (trust me this must be said or she might think you don't like what she's wearing), make them personal; such as "your legs look lovely in that dress" or "i love your eyes". this shows them that you really are focusing on them. good luck with it.

obviously that was me getting a little excited thinking this would lead to us getting married haha! :) yeah, i know...

And nope. im gonna ring her after Misfits tonight.

[Arron]

Dont wanna sound pesimistic, but she might be (judgin from ur last post) be leading you on. From experience, she says yes n everything then as the time comes closer they cancel for whatever erason. Except in my case they always replied to texts n we talked lots but yeah.

Either that or she is genuinely busy on that day and she just hasn't got any battery on her phone or whatever reason. Or just hasnt seem them, how long has it been since u sent it?

So what shall I do?

Well i've sent texts but hardly got a good response. She's on facebook quite a bit like.


The administrator has specified that you can only edit messages for 15 minutes after you have posted. This limit has expired, so you must contact the administrator to make alterations on your message. - double post :(

[Nemo]

So what shall I do?

Well i've sent texts but hardly got a good response. She's on facebook quite a bit like.

- double post :(Maybe shes in a bad mood? Or what i said?

Wouldnt recommend getting your hopes up before you've actually gone out with them, but just keep acting like normal rly, if it doesnt turn out well in the end, then **** happens, move on.

But of course thats me being pesimistic

[Arron]

I've never heard of pesimistic :(

[Nemo]

I've never heard of pesimistic :(
Thinking negatively basically

[Arron]

oh well. it's either she wants me to ring her to have a chat. she's ignoring me. her mates have said something.

[Jessicrawrr]

ring her or something, ask her if she still wants to go ;D

[Arron]

This has fell through. She told me she liked a lad from her class so I just let it go.

However, I don't wanna sound like a manslag but I think I have another date lined up. She's been my friend for about 6 months until recently :)

[ChickenFaces]

Don't think about the future! Just take it one day at a time. Don't talk about getting married because that's er, a bit awkward.

[Jessicrawrr]

aw bless ya.
and what're you going to do on this date, if you go on it, and don't worry you don't sound like a manslag, there's worse people out there;)

[cocaine]

However, I don't wanna sound like a manslag but I think I have another date lined up. She's been my friend for about 6 months until recently :)

lmaooo thats the furthest you could be from the actual meaning

[Arron]

im so turd me haha.
just spent like 3 hours with her now. everything was great apart from the eye contact and finishing touch.. :(

[Nicola]

im so turd me haha.
just spent like 3 hours with her now. everything was great apart from the eye contact and finishing touch.. :(

and what was the finishing touch? :O

[Chris]

im so turd me haha.
just spent like 3 hours with her now. everything was great apart from the eye contact and finishing touch.. :(


Glad it went well, now for step 2.

[Arron]

which is? :D

[Chris]

which is? :D

It comes naturally. Lol. Talk some more, meet up again. Etc...

[Minstrels]

So was it an offside goal or a 40 yard finish? So far I'm thinking it sounds a bit like offside.