Help! Long term girlfriend

[newman123]

well were do i start? im a very sensitive boy and i loved my girlfriend so much, well start from the top, people say it was fait us getting together as we were in each others lifes but didnt recognized each other, long story short, we got together last year in july, the first month was okay but she was really into her friends, which is fair enough the second month came along which was a bad month.. we were both at a part togther, she told me i shouldnt tell people we were togther, until her she had told her parents which is fair enough, so i walked past her in the kitchen as she was turned around, that same night, she was flirting with another boy, i told the kid to back off and he done so, i was quiet angry and left, that same week, because one of her friends had an problem with a girl in the year above, her friend told her isint it werid your boyfriend talks to another girl, which she later went on the accuse me of cheating with her, eventhough she had my password and email to check, and all inboxes were left, i was mariley giving the girl advice on my friend, that same week, i went onto her facebook, and saw she had a left another boy, 24 'x's at a end of a message i got really angry and fustrated and ended it, she begged for me back and i took her back, she and here friends were then supposed to go on holiday, at this point we were back at college and i would see her once a week, for an hour in a park, this happend throught out summer, now where back to school, she was supposed to go on holiday with her friends this summer, but it didnt come through she kept rubbing it in my face about the holiday and i was hurt they way she kept going on about it, her and her friends fell out, about this holiday which lead to them saying things which made her completeley de friend them, around decemeber she started spending more time with me, we saw eachother every day, day in day out, she beacame very effectionate, and very clingy telling me all the time she loved me, talking about future etc etc, she made it all up to me, we went brighton togther for a week stayed in a really nice hotel and things were going good, my parents loved her and vice versa we were having a really good realtionship, we would spend every second of the day with eachother, so a year passed now were on 14 month, she was staying round my house, and we were on my facebook, i clicked on a 'friends' profile, and she says click back on it again, and then says 'hes beard really suits him' it hurt to hear she was complemnting other guys, i dont do that cos i know shes really senstive and insecure about other girls, which made it worse the boy in the summer she was speaking to on facebook, there conversation was about him having a beard. i later dumped her, since then shes been crying, writting poems and letters telling me she loves me, been calling my phone on witheald to hear my voice... do you think im over reacting? and should i take her back? or am i right? what do i do?

[beth]

all of this sounds childish and just generally insecure. stop acting like an old married couple, it isn't healthy. yr young, go have fun, flirt with who you want.l

[newman123]

all of this sounds childish and just generally insecure. stop acting like an old married couple, it isn't healthy. yr young, go have fun, flirt with who you want.l

what you think im childish? should i take her back?

[brandon]

If you're going to be that insecure about her complimenting another guy's beard, it's not going to work a third time and it'll just end in tears again.

[@K]

Because your girlfriend said this boy's beard suited him? My best mate's girlfriend is always texting me/writing on my Facebook saying she loves me, it doesn't mean we are having an affair, or anything, it means she loves me like a brother, because that is what me and my mate are, as close as brothers. I am sick of all these childish threads on this part of the forum, you are in the wrong here, that is all that is needed to say. If she is talking to other boys, or complimenting them, that does not mean she is cheating nor flirting.

Also, 'full stops' and paragraphing would have made the original post a lot easier to read.

[Suspective]

Agree with all the above.

I really hate it when people seem to think they have a hold over their other half and it isn't good for a relationship. It seems you've got some insecurities, and I've guessing you've been cheated on in the past or cheated yourself.

I'm sure your girlfriend loves you. It doesn't mean though she can't socialize with others and have a social life. Its what friends do, I've got friends in relationships who compliment me and add xxx - most people have.

Just go with the flow and learn to trust. :)

[Hopeless]

you're in the wrong. she said she liked someone's beard and you dumped her? it's obvious you don't trust her-she didn't say "i want to sleep with that guy" she just made a passing comment. you're mean.

[Accipiter]

You sound socially ******ed.

It sounds like one of those relationships that are forced through loneliness / despair which is why its so clingy and insecure.

Maybe it's a hint to grow a beard, or in turn, man up.

[Kasabian]

You sound socially ******ed.

It sounds like one of those relationships that are forced through loneliness / despair which is why its so clingy and insecure.


Sums it up for me.

On the plus side, i have a beard. Hook me up.

[Glen Coco]

LOL YOU ENDED A 14 MONTH RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE SHE LIKED SOMEONE'S BEARD!!!!!!!??????

[Jake]

LOL YOU ENDED A 14 MONTH RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE SHE LIKED SOMEONE'S BEARD!!!!!!!??????

+1 i can see this being on jeremy kyle soon lool.

But seriously why the hell did you finish with her after 14 months for saying his beard suits him? even if she turned round and said oh hes fit thats not like OH HES FIT BRB IM GONNA GO GET IN HIS PANTS.

Seriously i dont get how the hell youve gone 14 months trusting someone and then you go and dump her over that, i know its not funny but its stupid funny lool /end

[Matthew]

I struggled to read that 'paragraph' :P

In all honesty, I think you were silly to end a long term relationship like that over such a TINY thing.

[Mark]

Get rid, get over her, move on, sorted!

[geo]

Seems stupid that you ended it over a small compliment. You need to get over these things, as she's obviously going to think there are other good looking people out there and may say it. :P

[MrJosh..]

Let me just say this >.<

Your a silly boy for doing that :( but i wouldn't of ended it just because she said likes someones beard i feel sorry for the poor girl.

[DPS]

1. Your insecure.
2. She wanted to keep it secret? abit fishy that, and she was flirting... while your there.
3. I've read the full story, you dumped her for some stupid reason, grow up, and get over it. Looks like she wants to be with you now be a bloody man and tell her your sorry and try to make things right.

[Accipiter]

1. Your insecure.
2. She wanted to keep it secret? abit fishy that, and she was flirting... while your there.
3. I've read the full story, you dumped her for some stupid reason, grow up, and get over it. Looks like she wants to be with you now be a bloody man and tell her your sorry and try to make things right.

She was probably just talking to him, backs up point 1 really, don't use this word often but "Lol"

[DPS]

She was probably just talking to him, backs up point 1 really, don't use this word often but "Lol"


My ex was like that i was with her for 2 years. and it started from talking/flirting to alot more lol but i dumped her ass she cheated on me atleast 9 times.

[Accipiter]

I'm not one of these types of people that dives into relationships, I'll openly say i've had 0 because I've always thought it silly to make these stupid mistakes at a young age and love means so much more when you find that girl and tell her she's the one you've waited your whole life for

[DPS]

I've never been in love, even if i have been with people for along time. Love is just a word. nothing else.

[Accipiter]

Love is all the other emotions in one FOR ONE ;]

[kuzkasate]

I think your main problem is the fact that you don't trust her and you get very jealous, very easily. You should definitely take her back and make it up to her, just think about it yourself. You dumped her because she complimented another boys beard? It just sounds funny. My friend flirts with everyone whilst her boyfriend is there and she's not a **** or anything and she has never ever cheated on him - and she's constantly flirting, literally all day.

Just learn to trust her - it's a shame if such a good relationship will just fly out of the window. I know you being jealous isn't really your fault, I was the exact same when I had my first serious relationship, I was extremely jealous even when she went out with girl mates, but that links in back to what I said - you need to learn to trust her.

If you can't do that - let her go and stop terrorising her, you really are hurting her.

[T@R]

Please copy and paste this into word, give it a quick spelling and grammar check, then repost it...
But I'm guessing based on your writing ability you're under 16, so at that age you should just be having fun and stop thinking things through so much, just go with it.

[Firehorse]

You're an idiot for dumping her for complimenting a guys beard. If you're really that insecure about your relationship with her and you don't trust her loyalty after being with her for 14 months then you really need to loosen up.

[Narnat,]

Your kidding right? - You dumped her for complimenting someone. If she had complimented a girl then I bet you wouldn't have done a thing! It sounds like a lack of trust tbh.