Help! Long term girlfriend

[newman123]

well were do i start? im a very sensitive boy and i loved my girlfriend so much, well start from the top, people say it was fait us getting together as we were in each others lifes but didnt recognized each other, long story short, we got together last year in july, the first month was okay but she was really into her friends, which is fair enough the second month came along which was a bad month.. we were both at a part togther, she told me i shouldnt tell people we were togther, until her she had told her parents which is fair enough, so i walked past her in the kitchen as she was turned around, that same night, she was flirting with another boy, i told the kid to back off and he done so, i was quiet angry and left, that same week, because one of her friends had an problem with a girl in the year above, her friend told her isint it werid your boyfriend talks to another girl, which she later went on the accuse me of cheating with her, eventhough she had my password and email to check, and all inboxes were left, i was mariley giving the girl advice on my friend, that same week, i went onto her facebook, and saw she had a left another boy, 24 'x's at a end of a message i got really angry and fustrated and ended it, she begged for me back and i took her back, she and here friends were then supposed to go on holiday, at this point we were back at college and i would see her once a week, for an hour in a park, this happend throught out summer, now where back to school, she was supposed to go on holiday with her friends this summer, but it didnt come through she kept rubbing it in my face about the holiday and i was hurt they way she kept going on about it, her and her friends fell out, about this holiday which lead to them saying things which made her completeley de friend them, around decemeber she started spending more time with me, we saw eachother every day, day in day out, she beacame very effectionate, and very clingy telling me all the time she loved me, talking about future etc etc, she made it all up to me, we went brighton togther for a week stayed in a really nice hotel and things were going good, my parents loved her and vice versa we were having a really good realtionship, we would spend every second of the day with eachother, so a year passed now were on 14 month, she was staying round my house, and we were on my facebook, i clicked on a 'friends' profile, and she says click back on it again, and then says 'hes beard really suits him' it hurt to hear she was complemnting other guys, i dont do that cos i know shes really senstive and insecure about other girls, which made it worse the boy in the summer she was speaking to on facebook, there conversation was about him having a beard. i later dumped her, since then shes been crying, writting poems and letters telling me she loves me, been calling my phone on witheald to hear my voice... do you think im over reacting? and should i take her back? or am i right? what do i do?

[beth]

all of this sounds childish and just generally insecure. stop acting like an old married couple, it isn't healthy. yr young, go have fun, flirt with who you want.l

[newman123]

all of this sounds childish and just generally insecure. stop acting like an old married couple, it isn't healthy. yr young, go have fun, flirt with who you want.l

what you think im childish? should i take her back?

[brandon]

If you're going to be that insecure about her complimenting another guy's beard, it's not going to work a third time and it'll just end in tears again.

[@K]

Because your girlfriend said this boy's beard suited him? My best mate's girlfriend is always texting me/writing on my Facebook saying she loves me, it doesn't mean we are having an affair, or anything, it means she loves me like a brother, because that is what me and my mate are, as close as brothers. I am sick of all these childish threads on this part of the forum, you are in the wrong here, that is all that is needed to say. If she is talking to other boys, or complimenting them, that does not mean she is cheating nor flirting.

Also, 'full stops' and paragraphing would have made the original post a lot easier to read.

[Suspective]

Agree with all the above.

I really hate it when people seem to think they have a hold over their other half and it isn't good for a relationship. It seems you've got some insecurities, and I've guessing you've been cheated on in the past or cheated yourself.

I'm sure your girlfriend loves you. It doesn't mean though she can't socialize with others and have a social life. Its what friends do, I've got friends in relationships who compliment me and add xxx - most people have.

Just go with the flow and learn to trust.

[Hopeless]

you're in the wrong. she said she liked someone's beard and you dumped her? it's obvious you don't trust her-she didn't say "i want to sleep with that guy" she just made a passing comment. you're mean.

[Accipiter]

You sound socially ******ed.

It sounds like one of those relationships that are forced through loneliness / despair which is why its so clingy and insecure.

Maybe it's a hint to grow a beard, or in turn, man up.

[Kasabian]

You sound socially ******ed.

It sounds like one of those relationships that are forced through loneliness / despair which is why its so clingy and insecure.

Sums it up for me.

On the plus side, i have a beard. Hook me up.

[Glen Coco]

LOL YOU ENDED A 14 MONTH RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE SHE LIKED SOMEONE'S BEARD!!!!!!!??????