Stealing

[chantellehugs]

Alright so last Tuesday my Mum put £10 on our fire place wrapped up in our shopping list. Halfway through the day my brother comes round (I'm at college still) and my mum leaves the living room to make him a cup of tea. When it gets to 7pm and it's time for me and Mum to go and buy food, we realise that the £10 is gone. Funnily enough, the shopping list has been ever so thoughtfully left on the fire place. So we ended up searching the house looking for the missing £10 and we can't find it anywhere, to be honest I wasn't expecting to find it because my Mum always wraps the money we need for shopping around the shopping list. I'm 99% sure my brother has stolen the £10, this is exactly the sort of thing he'd do when he was younger only I imagined that him being 27 he might have matured and grown up a little.

I'm so furious at him, and the only thing keeping me from going round to his flat is my Mum asking me not to start anything because it's too much stress. This is a fair point, my Mum has been ill recently and I don't want to be the one to stress her out. It makes me feel physically sick that my own brother could take our last bit of money, which was obviously for shopping because it had the list around it and not even think that it's wrong. Were it not for my sister, my Mum and myself would have gone hungry. I'm just so disgusted and angry at him, and it's building up because I know I can't say anything. But it's annoys me so much to think that I'm letting him get away with it, that's one thing I cannot stand.

What would you do if this happened to you? Right now I'm about ready to disown him, I just genuinely cannot believe anyone would do that and then phone up the next day asking to borrow a suitcase because he's going on holiday. 

[-:Undertaker:-]

I would say something, whatever consquences he faces/sitution arises he'll think not to do it again (hopefully).

[Rozi]

subtly call him out on it in a situation around a lot of people he wont want to know about it


hopefully that shall cause enough shame and embarrassment for him so he doesn't do it again

[Accipiter]

Go round his and casually walk out with the TV set.

All jokes aside, confront him about it, don't be to suspicious of him pointing blame straight away etc.

If he has stole it then yeah, i'd pretty much disown him.

[buttons]

well the fact he shows no guilt or does not look like he's going to tell you about it means he'll likely to do it again. he doesn't deserve a quiet chat to one side from your mum to not do it again considering he has before, if he felt bad (providing he 100% did do it) he would have told you straight away. i've been in the exact same situation, my mum was ill too at the time which is disgusting and anyone who steals in that sort of consequences is vile. your mum is like my mum, not wanting to cause trouble or confrontation which in the long run is an extremely bad idea, talking from experience. i'm not sure what i'd do cause i dunno what your brother is like, maybe forget about it for now and make sly remarks or talk about how upset your mum was to see if he comes clean and if he doesn't i'd ask im alone but not in a nicey way

[T@R]

don't be a grass
it's only a tenner
not worth causing arguments really, but let him know that you know, so he won't do it again

[Inseriousity.]

Tbh you don't really have any proof and if he knows that then any 'talk' with him is just gonna bounce off him (my sister used to steal sweets and money and until you show her the evidence - normally sweet wrappers or money hidden under her bed - she'll constantly deny it). He needs to be caught red-handed so that he knows he's in the ****. If there's a computer in your living room, you could use a webcam. If not, it'd just rely on walking in on him which is easier said than done. Good luck!

[Special]

don't be a grass
it's only a tenner
not worth causing arguments really, but let him know that you know, so he won't do it again

this has really angered me, it could have been £2 - it's principle that he stole from his mum


i'd certainly confront him about it & if that doesn't resolve anything i'd go to your mum about it - if he's done it once & he gets away with it he'll do it again i can guarantee

[beth]

this has really angered me, it could have been £2 - it's principle that he stole from his mum


i'd certainly confront him about it & if that doesn't resolve anything i'd go to your mum about it - if he's done it once & he gets away with it he'll do it again i can guarantee

pretty much this, "just" a tenner. chantelle said that that was their food money, when you haven't got a lot of money and someone TAKES it, it's ******* disgusting. especially if they're family.

i know you say yr mom has been ill, but you can't let him walk all over her vulnerability.
i'd confront him face to face.

[Catzsy]

I feel the question to ask is - why did he feel the need to do it? Maybe he has problems that need to be addressed.

[Accipiter]

don't be a grass
it's only a tenner
not worth causing arguments really, but let him know that you know, so he won't do it again

People who use the word grass, or snitch, or even tell tale in society, should be disowned from said society for being so uptight about their egos.

[T@R]

People who use the word grass, or snitch, or even tell tale in society, should be disowned from said society for being so uptight about their egos.
people who think they can judge people based on their vocabulary should also be shunned for this society of yours

[Accipiter]

people who think they can judge people based on their vocabulary should also be shunned for this society of yours

Not really because people who believe grasses are losers are degenerates who hold society back from open free communication in work places creating hell in work places for some employees.

If anyone called me a grass I'd tell them their childhood must have been full of smoking it.

[T@R]

Not really because people who believe grasses are losers are degenerates who hold society back from open free communication in work places creating hell in work places for some employees.

If anyone called me a grass I'd tell them their childhood must have been full of smoking it.
oh jesus you really should learn to chill
the grass part was just a bit of light hearted banter, although i was half expecting someone to come riding along on their high horse and to try and pick it apart
i actually offered my opinion as to what she should do afterwards anyway if it'll help you sleep at night

[Accipiter]

oh jesus you really should learn to chill
the grass part was just a bit of light hearted banter, although i was half expecting someone to come riding along on their high horse and to try and pick it apart
i actually offered my opinion as to what she should do afterwards anyway if it'll help you sleep at night

Apologies that I didn't detect the internet banter in your post.

[T@R]

Apologies that I didn't detect the internet banter in your post.
it's ok i'll be the bigger man and accept your apology

[Accipiter]

it's ok i'll be the bigger man and accept your apology

It's ok i'll accept that you're the bigger man!

[Slowpoke]

He needs to be shamed, whatever his age. I'd personally wait until a lot of people are together (ie, family and friends) and I'd bring it up in order to cause a massive scene, therefore shaming and embarresing him infront of everyone. He has done an awful thing to his family - yes, it's only £10 but it's the principal. I believe that's the best way to ensure he wouldn't steal again. Being able to shame someone who does something wrong is a fantastic social tool to have

[MissAlice]

If it was your brother he needs to understand that what he did was wrong! Your mother presumably suspects it was him, and no doubt is ashamed that her own son could steal money that feeds you. Like others have said I would raise the subject, and mention the strain it put on your mother in these difficult times. At his age he should be totally ashamed of himself, and any trust that may have been there is now gone. If he steals from his nearest and dearest he will steal from anyone.

[Casanova]

Personally I would say the opposite, it's even WORSE it's 'just' a tenner. He's obviously a low one if he can steal a tenner. I could understand more if he stole like £50 because that's substantial in the terms of value?

I'd call him on it, physically assault him and ensure people knew what he did.
Whom else would have stolen it, if it was wrapped in the list?

In your situation (as I wouldn't recommend MY terms... that's just me). I'd go around and discuss it with him, appreciate why he done so and then make your decision. If he denies it then lay it out - no one else was there, it was wrapped up and neither your mum or yourself have/used it. I would personally ask him not to visit for a while, unless he can supply a massive reason as to why he needed 'just a tenner'.

I've never stolen from family. I've borrowed tops of my brother's for a prolonged period (:p) but always with his knowledge. I've taken money off my dad, but told him so when he was there asap and returned it (ie his money was there, I knew he wasn't needing it... borrowed some and returned it).

With family your boundries are more blurred but if/when my parents/family are skint I KNOW IT. so he must have known so too :(?

[Metric1]

lol i go into my moms purse and take money all the time

[AgnesIO]

don't be a grass
it's only a tenner
not worth causing arguments really, but let him know that you know, so he won't do it again

"Don't be a grass"

That is such a ten year old comment. Anyone who doesn't deal with someone as they don't want to 'grass' is ******* idiotic.

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lol i go into my moms purse and take money all the time

Can you not live without the bank of mummy and daddy?

I would never take money from someone without asking first, and anyone who does is evidently a waste of space in a crowded world.

[The Don]

"Don't be a grass"

That is such a ten year old comment. Anyone who doesn't deal with someone as they don't want to 'grass' is ******* idiotic.

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Can you not live without the bank of mummy and daddy?

I would never take money from someone without asking first, and anyone who does is evidently a waste of space in a crowded world.

Why do you allways say that? I swear you have a vendetta against him

[AgnesIO]

Why do you allways say that? I swear you have a vendetta against him

If I don't agree with something someone does, I will pull them up on it. Sadly, it tends to be the same few users - if anyone else said that I would have said the same. But you know what? They didn't.

[Soy]

tell him to get a job

i wipe my ass with £10