Stealing

[chantellehugs]

Alright so last Tuesday my Mum put £10 on our fire place wrapped up in our shopping list. Halfway through the day my brother comes round (I'm at college still) and my mum leaves the living room to make him a cup of tea. When it gets to 7pm and it's time for me and Mum to go and buy food, we realise that the £10 is gone. Funnily enough, the shopping list has been ever so thoughtfully left on the fire place. So we ended up searching the house looking for the missing £10 and we can't find it anywhere, to be honest I wasn't expecting to find it because my Mum always wraps the money we need for shopping around the shopping list. I'm 99% sure my brother has stolen the £10, this is exactly the sort of thing he'd do when he was younger only I imagined that him being 27 he might have matured and grown up a little.

I'm so furious at him, and the only thing keeping me from going round to his flat is my Mum asking me not to start anything because it's too much stress. This is a fair point, my Mum has been ill recently and I don't want to be the one to stress her out. It makes me feel physically sick that my own brother could take our last bit of money, which was obviously for shopping because it had the list around it and not even think that it's wrong. Were it not for my sister, my Mum and myself would have gone hungry. I'm just so disgusted and angry at him, and it's building up because I know I can't say anything. But it's annoys me so much to think that I'm letting him get away with it, that's one thing I cannot stand.

What would you do if this happened to you? Right now I'm about ready to disown him, I just genuinely cannot believe anyone would do that and then phone up the next day asking to borrow a suitcase because he's going on holiday. 

[-:Undertaker:-]

I would say something, whatever consquences he faces/sitution arises he'll think not to do it again (hopefully).

[Rozi]

subtly call him out on it in a situation around a lot of people he wont want to know about it


hopefully that shall cause enough shame and embarrassment for him so he doesn't do it again

[Accipiter]

Go round his and casually walk out with the TV set.

All jokes aside, confront him about it, don't be to suspicious of him pointing blame straight away etc.

If he has stole it then yeah, i'd pretty much disown him.

[buttons]

well the fact he shows no guilt or does not look like he's going to tell you about it means he'll likely to do it again. he doesn't deserve a quiet chat to one side from your mum to not do it again considering he has before, if he felt bad (providing he 100% did do it) he would have told you straight away. i've been in the exact same situation, my mum was ill too at the time which is disgusting and anyone who steals in that sort of consequences is vile. your mum is like my mum, not wanting to cause trouble or confrontation which in the long run is an extremely bad idea, talking from experience. i'm not sure what i'd do cause i dunno what your brother is like, maybe forget about it for now and make sly remarks or talk about how upset your mum was to see if he comes clean and if he doesn't i'd ask im alone but not in a nicey way

[T@R]

don't be a grass
it's only a tenner
not worth causing arguments really, but let him know that you know, so he won't do it again

[Inseriousity.]

Tbh you don't really have any proof and if he knows that then any 'talk' with him is just gonna bounce off him (my sister used to steal sweets and money and until you show her the evidence - normally sweet wrappers or money hidden under her bed - she'll constantly deny it). He needs to be caught red-handed so that he knows he's in the ****. If there's a computer in your living room, you could use a webcam. If not, it'd just rely on walking in on him which is easier said than done. Good luck!

[Special]

don't be a grass
it's only a tenner
not worth causing arguments really, but let him know that you know, so he won't do it again

this has really angered me, it could have been £2 - it's principle that he stole from his mum


i'd certainly confront him about it & if that doesn't resolve anything i'd go to your mum about it - if he's done it once & he gets away with it he'll do it again i can guarantee

[beth]

this has really angered me, it could have been £2 - it's principle that he stole from his mum


i'd certainly confront him about it & if that doesn't resolve anything i'd go to your mum about it - if he's done it once & he gets away with it he'll do it again i can guarantee

pretty much this, "just" a tenner. chantelle said that that was their food money, when you haven't got a lot of money and someone TAKES it, it's ******* disgusting. especially if they're family.

i know you say yr mom has been ill, but you can't let him walk all over her vulnerability.
i'd confront him face to face.

[Catzsy]

I feel the question to ask is - why did he feel the need to do it? Maybe he has problems that need to be addressed.