Staying friends to an ex

[Conspiracy.]

What do you guys think about staying friends to an ex? A lot of people think it's a bad idea but I don't really see the problem. I mean, you were obviously close enough to him/her at one point to be in a relationship with him, why just cut him/her out of your life completely? I'd prefer to call someone "a friend" than "an ex"

If the break-up was nasty (like they cheated on you or whatever) then I'd understand why you wouldn't want to remain friends.

[Samantha]

If I feel I could speak to them afterwards then I could and would be friends with them. I get on well with my ex's well most and I feel it just shows that you weren't meant to be more than friends.

[Paige.]

I've stayed friends with a couple of them but the rest I don't speak to any more. I think we've basically just picked up from where it was before we started a relationship and it feels just the same like it never happened and I agree with Sam- I think it just shows you weren't meant to be more than friends. I've never been cheated on (that I know of) but if I had I wouldn't speak to him again but if I had to I'd be civil just to show that I'm the more grown up one and make him feel bad for what he'd done.

[Walks06]

NEVER WORKS. Especially as you get older.. the relationships when you were 13/14 then yeah but as you get older... no

[lawrawrrr]

It can be awkward, but if you were actually friends with the ex while you were going out then i think it can be ok. Sometimes it doesn't work but you have to be able to accept and joke about the past. aha.

[FlyingJesus]

NEVER WORKS. Especially as you get older.. the relationships when you were 13/14 then yeah but as you get older... no

I guess I must be lying then when I, as potentially the oldest member of the forum, say that I'm friends to some degree with every single one of my ex's across the years

[GoldenMerc]

I can say, unless were still having sex i don't speak to any of them lol like any of them. theres a reason why there a ex

[David]

I would say it differs with circumstances - how close you got for how long, how you broke up etc.
Personally I've only stayed friends with one of my ex's and it's not the same as before, though better than nothing.

[Walks06]

I guess I must be lying then when I, as potentially the oldest member of the forum, say that I'm friends to some degree with every single one of my ex's across the years
What has you being the oldest member of the forum got to do with anything :S IMO it never works

[Absently]

my most recent ex broke up with me horribly, but i can honestly say we're great friends now, my current boyfriend is also great friends with him and we all get along greatly.

[Sharon]

What has you being the oldest member of the forum got to do with anything :S IMO it never works

You're missing the point he's trying to make. By adding he's the oldest member of the forum it would make your idea of it not being possible what so ever as wrong as it can get :P sure it may not work for you, but that doesn't mean you act on behalf as the rest of the people in the world :S

[RyRy]

I'm friends with pretty much all my ex's, one of which I'm actually moving into a flat with in September. I don't mind it, sure its a bit touchy at first but yeah its possible. One of my ex's in particular, its nobody off the forum before people jump to conclusions, like we went out years and years ago and even to this day we're like really close friends. :)

[FlyingJesus]

What has you being the oldest member of the forum got to do with anything :S IMO it never works

Did you forget that you wrote "especially as you get older" or something

And that's not an opinion so "IMO" doesn't really work here. An opinion is something that can be contested one way or another and tends to be subjective. What you've done is just say a lie, as is proved (note: proof makes something a reality and you cannot have an opinion against proof) by the fact that I and many others are quite capable of this magical feat.

[Gibs960]

At my age you have to because you see them every day at school anyway so I guess you kinda have to even if you don't want to.

[-Amyy]

It normally takes me a while to start talking to them again because its really awkward. One of them is like one of my best friends though :P

[Walks06]

I thought you meant you'd been on the forum the longest, read it all wrong. Ok, I stand corrected. Didn't you do well

[kuzkasate]

You definitely can, but I think it depends on the person. Me for example, I find it hard now to stay friends with an ex it's just extremely awkward, yet a couple of years ago I wouldn't of minded... I guess it's something that's happened to me as I got older - but it really does depend on the two people.

[Milarz]

Doesn't really matter, just depends on the reason you's broke up.

[e5]

It would depend how hurt I was and how they would react. Might be awkward. Or they might try get back with you when you don't want it.