Would it bother you if your girlfriend said she was a virgin?

[Conspiracy.]

Eh. I'm seeing someone and I think he expects us to have sex soon. Thing is, I'm a virgin :/ I know for a fact he isn't (he has literally told me) I want to have sex in the future but not right now. We haven't been seeing each other all that long.

Honestly, would it bother you if you were going out with a 21 year old virgin? It has just never happened.

[RyRy]

No.

Giggidy.

[scottish]

No lol

You should be honest with him and if he leaves you then you done yourself a favour.

[HotelUser]

First, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 21. A lot of my friends both male and female are around your age and some of them are virgins too.

Second, if he likes you then he's thinking about more than just having sex with you, so I don't see why he would care. If you tell him you're a virgin and he's upset then I'd say that speaks wonders about him being shallow.

[buttons]

hi i'm not a male but it's your body your rules, no means no yes means yes. any guy who is bothered by you being a 21 year old virgin or any guy who is bothered if you HAVE had sex is too lame and immature to be having sex anyway. i would be careful how you go about it, some guys get off on taking girl's virginities (i know a guy who only slept with virgins.. he was a creep) so be extra careful if you want it to be special. i'd wait until he initiates anything before telling him if you haven't already? if it's a mature person he won't mind about your previous sex life or lack of nor will he mind waiting.


oh n if i was with a 21 year old boy i really wouldn't mind at all, rather that than a lot of random girls

[Martin]

aww it wouldn't bother me at all, it shouldnt make the slightest bit of difference, its about how much you love and care about someone, not that past history with that kinda stuff etc. If anything I think it would make him happy (although a little nervous), because he wants to make your first time special! :)

[GirlNextDoor15]

No. I won't mind going out with a boy who's still a virgin. It'll spice things up but seriously, as long as he knows where to stick it in, i wont mind

[FlyingJesus]

Unless he's a legit bad person he won't have a problem with it but do tell him sooner rather than later because it's not something you want to have to blurt out when things are getting hot and he thinks there's more happening than you planned for. There are always other options available and anyone who's properly into you will be totally willing to wait until you're ready - and if you're not ready, don't make the plunge so to speak

[Conspiracy.]

Thanks :) Then again, I'm also thinking, am I placing too much enthuses on the "first time being special"? I know full well it's not going to be like a Hollywood movie. I do want to wait anyway though because I don't want him to think I'm a tart.

He doesn't seem like he would leave me or anything because of this. He did say he genuinely liked me.

[FlyingJesus]

Yeah it's definitely not going to be the most magical moment of your life lol but it'd be nice to have it be with someone who makes you feel comfortable and not forced obv

[Sho]

It wouldn't bother me, everyone has their reasons. I probably wouldn't even ask them if they were or not since it wouldn't bother me either way.

[Conspiracy.]

We actually ended up having sex, it just kind of happened. It didn't bother him. It just really hurt.

[FlyingJesus]

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[SackRace]

no, its good there being honest.

[Conspiracy.]

Will it be as painful the second time btw? I hope not :/

[FlyingJesus]

Possibly, you need to make sure you get plenty of foreplay in beforehand so your body is expecting it properly, as well as getting your brain in the mood fully as that's more important than most people realise. Some people manage to get through it and not hurt after the first time, some (like one of my exs) can take several attempts to get it not to hurt but that might not be a problem if he's not like huge y'know and obv depends on your physicality too, but yeahhhh most important thing is to be comfortable and fully into it rather than just whack it out and ram it in without warming up

[Conspiracy.]

I was a bit nervous/tense so that was probably why.

[Barkseh]

Just get it over with. You'll love it

[IceNineKills]

I would much prefer to meet a virgin girl than one that's had many other penises in her. Try using lubericants if the pain doesn't stop after a while.

[Zak]

If I was the lad I'd be thinking..... "Result" :P (If you were a virgin)

As for the sex thing, if you don't want to then you don't have to. Usually making a guy wait weens out if he truly likes you or not, not just wants you as his little sex toy.

I'd be darn proud of yourself for making it to 21 and not loosing your virginity.

As for first times being special, usually it's really awkward. Esp if you're both virgins (taking it as he isn't).. then it shouldn't be too bad as he has some experience I'm sure :P It was kind of special for me I lost mine on valentines day to a girl I stayed with for years so, to me it was important yeah. :)

edit: ok you've had sex :P

Yeah as people have said it will get better with time just relax and I doubt it will hurt as much the more you do it. If you used a condom they're lubricated anyway other than that just use lube without a condom on.. should be fine tho.

[Strega]

what did he say when you told him
or if u didnt tell him when ur cherry popped

[Conspiracy.]

He actually brought it up :P We were talking about young girls who are pregnant (his friend's sister is 15 and pregnant) He then asked when did I lose my virginity and I said I hadn't. He was fine :)

[DamienMarj]

girls these days are so easily put into a situation where sex seems to be the only thing young people reckon is ''getting along''

[Futz]

I'd prefer for my girlfriend to be a virgin, it's off putting when they've been smashed bare

[DamienMarj]

I'd prefer for my girlfriend to be a virgin, it's off putting when they've been smashed bare

trusttt bruvva.

[Strega]

He actually brought it up :P We were talking about young girls who are pregnant (his friend's sister is 15 and pregnant) He then asked when did I lose my virginity and I said I hadn't. He was fine :)

oh thats good
glad it went well

[Glen Coco]

girls these days are so easily put into a situation where sex seems to be the only thing young people reckon is ''getting along''

oh shut up and stop being so judgemental!