Friends ex's/love interests

[buttons]

what's your thoughts on this, are they off limits? would u get with someone your friend liked? have you?

for me this guy was pursuing my friend for a few months and she was denying she liked him but as soon as i got with him she suddenly fancied him since the beginning lol. IMO no-one belongs to another so it's not off limits to go with someone a friend likes or their exes. however, if my friend likes someone whether its an ex or not and actually explicitly says they like them then i wouldn't go for it cause plenty guys out there!

also that same girl ^ has been with her cousins boyfriend AND i have suspicions shes been with my ex as he text her whilst i was there so i don't feel bad anyway lol plus we never let guys come in between us.

[Shar]

If I knew that my friend really liked someone and I decided to start flirting with that person and then getting with them, I don't think that's on really. I wouldn't date any of my friends ex's!

[Yawn]

if someone likes someone that person is off limits and i'd expect people to do the same to me. exs are fine as long as u know both ppl have fully moved on but its kinda weird

[Absently]

i think there's a time limit. if they liked someone for a relatively long time (several months) then i think it's a no-no. similar with relationships, if they've been together like 6 months+, then i think they're off limits. also, depends on how they broke up and if they're still good friends, if they were still great friends it wouldn't really matter. i hate when girls are like ''oh my leftovers, might aswell take my sandwich'' like **** off...

[velvet]

i wouldn't write someone off because they dated a friend but if does complicate things.
as long as both people are over it i think it's cool, it'd be a bit hard if your friend wasn't over them.

[FlyingJesus]

if someone likes someone that person is off limits

I don't get that see because like if A and B both like C but C only likes A, going by your rule A and C can't be together because of B's feelings despite the fact that B and C are never going to be a couple anyway, so it's taking away from 2 peoples happiness just to spare the ugly one from losing their daydreams

[MKR&*42]

No they're not off limits. You can't help who you "fall in love with", I understand a friend is going to be annoyed but you can't just turn off romantic feelings for someone.

[Inseriousity.]

With exes it really depends on if you know what they broke up for. If it's something you can put up with/a stupid reason then sure but I'd also say there needs to be a cooling down period cos if it's 5 minutes after theyve broke up then it hurts the other person (and would feel like a rebound anyway). Love interests, it's fair game really. No-one really owns that person's love.

[Yawn]

I don't get that see because like if A and B both like C but C only likes A, going by your rule A and C can't be together because of B's feelings despite the fact that B and C are never going to be a couple anyway, so it's taking away from 2 peoples happiness just to spare the ugly one from losing their daydreams

well obviously if they really liked each other then i wouldnt come between them but say u liked someone, and your friend knew, then they hooked up with this person then that is horrible!!!

[Rozi]

If it was a close friend then I'd never go there because I value my close friendships far more than a potential relationship.

[Gibs960]

Only happened to me once, my best friend liked this girl called Laura and I asked Laura if she liked him, she said no and that she liked me, so I asked my best friend if it was okay if I got with her and he said it was fine.

I did like this girl as a friend but I thought "if she likes me and we're good friends, might as well give it a go"

[Cerys]

Definitely off limits tbh. If they dated them/had a crush on them in the past three years, it's a big nono.

Though my friend has broken that rule. Which has made me a little angry at her
>.>

[Adam]

Without stealing the thunder of the thread, what about friends' siblings?

FYI my best friends sister is smoking. Could've done a couple of years back, didn't because I respect boundaries but hell, I'd rather have somebody I know date my sibling than a randomer. Just my view. I think exes are a tricky issue and it depends how the relationship was as a whole.