What's the point in relationships at a young age?

[noddy]

srs, talking ages 17-23

Whats the point in these relationships? For the most part they are destined to fail, with people moving away to university, or simply being to immature for a relationship.

I would rather stay single and live my life to the full instead of get tied down at the tender age of 18.
thoughts?

[dbgtz]

To a certain extent you could argue what's the point in anything we do. Why do most people do the things they do? Because, for the most part, they want to.

[AlexJRiley]

I was in an 18 month relationship (ended about 10 weeks before my 20th birthday) and to be honest it felt good, knowing you had someone you could depend on and someone who was there for you, had the same interests, same taste in music movies etc. I do miss it, but at the same time I dont (mainly because she was a bit of a ****).

[wixard]

i loved my childhood sweetheart!!! well not loved but you gain experience from the relationship, I'd rather go out with someone who has been in a proper relationship before, it just makes things so much easier

for the ones that tell each other they love one another in 3 says, so what. they're having fun and it feels good, no harm in that

[Yawn]

well i guess every relationship pointless then until u find "THE 1" (wow i feel rly gay saying the 1)

[noddy]

I may sound very bitter but my year long relationship ended kinda recently and I feel so much more free now

[Yawn]

totes bitter

[Cerys]

17-23?

Well tbh most couples *married couples* I know got together between the ages of 17-23.

I guess that's the age where you can do all new exciting stuff, but still mature enough to make it last.

[buttons]

for the ones that tell each other they love one another in 3 says, so what. they're having fun and it feels good, no harm in that
ye it's so annoying when people are like "u can't love someone you've been dating a day!!", you don't exactly go into a relationship with no feelings so you must feel SOMETHING and it could be love!! plus if you ask an elderly couple how long they've been together and they say since they were 15 and knew they were in love the first day they met, you'd think it's cute lol whereas if we see a young couple claiming they're in love we'll think no..

er im 20 and i used to feel like i was becoming too old to go out drinking cause everyone my age was settling down with kids and partners and here was me getting wasted every weekend and ykno, not having anything serious lol. & im in a relationship now, not cause i feel too old but because its someone i see a future with and yeah i feel young now because i could still be out getting trashed, have a career THEN find someone but I'm sick of getting drunk and would much rather spend my weekends with them. & even if this doesn't last im definitely not gonna regret it or wish i had been getting drunk n going with randoms instead.

[MKR&*42]

Why not, if it makes them happy and they feel attracted to each other then they should enter a relationship at any age they please. It's not necessarily destined to fail, but I do see why university > long-distance complicates things.

[Rocco_Veneruso]

Never had a relationship, saving that for when I'm 25+

[lawrawrrr]

Because it makes them happy and they want to? besides it's ridiculous to say that all relationships fail at that age because it's simply not true.

Even if it were to be true, it's a bit silly to basically say that no-one should be in a relationship at that age, I know without the support of some of my previous boyfriends I wouldn't have got through half of what I actually have managed to. I knew that at age 16, I probably wasn't going to stay with that person or the rest of my life but I wanted to be happy, feel supported etc.

If you want to continue this ridiculous line of thought you could say what's the point in breathing because we're all going to stop doing that eventually too. What's the point in getting married because so many these days end in divorce? What's the point in buying clothes when we're younger because we're just going to grow out of them?; these might seem ridiculous but at the time they are the best thing to do, even if not in the long-term - it's never a good idea to sacrifice short-term happiness for the possibility of long-term happiness that isn't even guaranteed.

[Kardan]

I wouldn't consider 17-23 as young, I would consider 16 and below young.

Anyways me and my girlfriend got together at 16, and we're still together now and there's exactly two weeks until our 4th anniversary. We've experienced a lot and learned a lot from each other and we're both really happy :) We both ended up going to different universities, but we both still live at home so it's not an issue :)

[karter]

let me guess you must be single ndy

[Richie]

It just sounds as if you're jealous of other people or you just came out of a relationship & you're hurt. I'd say some people around that age do just go into relationships for 'fun' but I'd definitely say there's more people on the other hand who actually go into relationships because they have serious feelings for the other person. If you love someone you're obviously going to try make it work even if they have to move away for learning opportunities or for whatever reason but even so it's still a good learning curve.

[Phil]

I was shocked that you referred to that age group as young. I'm in a relationship two years in August and I really enjoy it. Just having someone that you love, have so much in common with and you can just hang out and have a laugh. I don't know where I'd be now if I hadn't had my girlfriend around for the past two years. I really do enjoy being in a relationship. Besides, I want to have kids and get married pretty young so y'know

[Gibs960]

My Grandparents have been together since they were about 15, they're still happily married 50+ years later.

I suppose people date at that age to gain experience, see where it leads and, for the most part, because they think it'll be fun (while it lasts).

[Daltron]

I was expecting you to say 12-14 years old not that old

[JACKTARD]

sex and knowing you have someone

but you can get both when not in a relationship