I need a bit of advice.

[Glen Coco]

In a nutshell, I have a friend. Male - we were a bit more than friends but not a relationship for quite a while.
however, through this time he slept with other people, went on dates, texted other girls ect. we started to argue, big arguments. we both said horrible things.

we'd usually get through them. Constantly sort of said we're done with each other, a few weeks later we'll be back to talking, be all cuddly again, be constantly told he doesn't want me that sorta thing.
Christmas, we had a huge argument, I said some bad things to him, he told me he wanted nothing to do with me. 2 days later we're speaking again, but there's constant digs at me, all the time. Calling me a *REMOVED*, saying i ruin everything, that he doesn't want to see me, ect.
He has done some nice things since we argued but he's also done horrible things, like weeing on my car.
I don't know what to do, I've tried to talked to him but he's taken it the wrong way and is now angry at me.
I just don't know what to do.

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[Inseriousity.]

Break away from this friendship. Not worth the aggro.

[buttons]

if someone pissed on my car id rather they not be my friend nor lover

[Shar]

That's not cool, he doesn't sound worth it.

[sex]

is this taryn

[BlueEyedSarah]

It sounds like a constant merry go round of headache, heartache and drama, honestly in my opinion I think its best to end this friendship, he sounds rude and immature, he has made it clear to you that he is not interested in you relationship wise so move on, even if he is cuddly with you it is just an ego boost to him, he carries on going back to you for the ego boost, he is not serious about this friendship with you otherwise he would not be rude and disrespectful by doing what he did to your car! Like I said, end it now before it gets worse for you and it gets too late to get away from this situation.

[Empired]

Life's too short. If he's not making you happy then he's not worth your time, surely :S I know it's easier said than done but you'll be better off in the long run to just get him out of your life.

[Glen Coco]

is this taryn

no it's not taryn :S why would it be taryn?


it's just really really hard. we were so close but I can't cope with being told that everything's my fault - found out last night he's also kissed another one of my friends. he doesn't realise that what he does hurts people.

[Futz]

remove the negative from your life

[wixard]

no it's not taryn :S why would it be taryn?


it's just really really hard. we were so close but I can't cope with being told that everything's my fault - found out last night he's also kissed another one of my friends. he doesn't realise that what he does hurts people.

girl get rid of him now! he is playing you, trust me i know it is so so difficult to cut communication off with someone you really really like and i'm not strong enough to do it for myself yet but i urge you to do it now! he is just going to end up causing you so much heartbreak and make you cry at night and he probably doesn't even care, he's trying to shift all the blame on you when you've done nothing

[Glen Coco]

i am trying a lot more to not text him, not see him, ect and occasionally he gets needy, texts me, wants to see me.
it's a really hard situation because i literally loved him so much, through summer we practically lived together and it was perfect, but he started all of this and he doesn't even realise.
i know he was single but he lead me on to believe we had a chance then slept with other girls but i just cant get rid of that bit of hope that he might go back to being the lovely person i knew and loved

[buttons]

gurl i think u need to delete his number and any other form of contact so u can't be tempted to contact him. block his fbook n what not so u can't look. in few weeks he may come begging u back n if u give him a second chance then expect him to let u down so that way u can't be too disappointed. he's already said he doesn't want a relationship tho so if u do give him a chance then ur fault when it ends in tears again. be the strong one and in control, delete any memory of him n go out have fun, in few months or so it will hurt less and you might find someone better

[Glen Coco]

gurl i think u need to delete his number and any other form of contact so u can't be tempted to contact him. block his fbook n what not so u can't look. in few weeks he may come begging u back n if u give him a second chance then expect him to let u down so that way u can't be too disappointed. he's already said he doesn't want a relationship tho so if u do give him a chance then ur fault when it ends in tears again. be the strong one and in control, delete any memory of him n go out have fun, in few months or so it will hurt less and you might find someone better


im not a strong enough person to completely block him out :( he was my best friend so it's hard. Just don't know how to get over him in another way

[buttons]

YES U ARE STRONG ENOUGH
i didnt believe i was either but one day i did it even tho i really did not want to and it's the best thing I could have done
a best friend does not wee on your car, play with ur feelings, make u feel guilty for their problems, make digs at you and say they don't want to see u... u can get over him by enjoying urself in the company of better people who make u feel good

[wixard]

x2 to what jen said

there's been two people in my life where i didn't want to let go because 'i'll never find someone better' and you know what
it's ********, and you will

it's so hard to believe and i think it myself too, but think of how many people are out there right now.... you don't need to find the perfect person for you right now, you can have just as much fun with anyone else. you're still young and there are gonna be so many more heartbreaks along the way and you just have to deal with that, go out and have fun and try not to think about him or talk to him. eventually you will meet other people, and you WILL move on. it's just so hard to believe that when you already have the comfort of someone, despite them being rather horrible to you but you just have to push through

[karter]

this guy sounds trash stop talking to this loser

[Glen Coco]

I've tried to tell him that what he did to my car really upset me and he was just like "it was funny as hell." and thinks there's nothing wrong with it.

I just want him to be who he was. :(
Suppose you're all right, but I don't really want to just cut him out

[karter]

ugh wow what a jerk how can you even handle this person
glue his balls to his ******* when he's sleeping and tell him "it's funny as hell"

[Glen Coco]

ugh wow what a jerk how can you even handle this person
glue his balls to his ******* when he's sleeping and tell him "it's funny as hell"

he can be nice, and he sometimes does nice things for me.
i was tempted to just wee on him tbh

[Inseriousity.]

It's difficult to deliberately cut people out of your life rather than just a natural drifting apart but he is bad news and you continuing to see and be his friend is just approval for his behaviour. He will continue, it will not get better, you will not change him if you stick around. Get out while you've still got your dignity before he pisses all on that too.

[Glen Coco]

It's difficult to deliberately cut people out of your life rather than just a natural drifting apart but he is bad news and you continuing to see and be his friend is just approval for his behaviour. He will continue, it will not get better, you will not change him if you stick around. Get out while you've still got your dignity before he pisses all on that too.

So do you think he'll change if I don't stick around?

[Inseriousity.]

It can go either way, depends on him really.
He will either continue as he is, not blame himself or he'll realise you're not around anymore, not going to put up with his behaviour and try to be a better person. Judging by what he says though, I would suggest it's most likely to be the former not the latter and it's better for you if you just move on. Loyalty is admirable so find someone else who would actually value your friendship rather than taking advantage of it.

[Glen Coco]

It can go either way, depends on him really.
He will either continue as he is, not blame himself or he'll realise you're not around anymore, not going to put up with his behaviour and try to be a better person. Judging by what he says though, I would suggest it's most likely to be the former not the latter and it's better for you if you just move on. Loyalty is admirable so find someone else who would actually value your friendship rather than taking advantage of it.

:(
It just sucks, we used to be such good friends and there really was something between us but he was always determined he didn't want a relationship. Then after all out arguments he was like "you used to be someone I wanted and was starting to think 'why not?' with."
I don't know if that's true or he's just messing with my head to make me feel bad

[Inseriousity.]

It's past tense so yeah he's just twisting the knife there.

[sex]

just ditch him hes bad for you
theres no point in delaying what will probably happen in a few months or years and just end up being even more upset where as if you cut contact now you can just avoid all that

[Glen Coco]

it's still gonna be upsetting. I probably should have cut it off a long time ago but this has literally been going on for nearly a year now :(

[buttons]

just cause something is difficult doesn't mean it isn't the best thing to do. it's not going to be easy but it's either cut him off n be miserable for a few months or continue talking to him n be miserable for longer. always possibility he cuts u off before u do then ur miserableness will be even worse than if u did it urself

[Glen Coco]

just cause something is difficult doesn't mean it isn't the best thing to do. it's not going to be easy but it's either cut him off n be miserable for a few months or continue talking to him n be miserable for longer. always possibility he cuts u off before u do then ur miserableness will be even worse than if u did it urself

hmm yeah, we've both tried to do that. i think we longest we went was 2 weeks where we weren't friends, now it's just a bit awkward

[Demi]

You need to leave him, don't contact him for anything than just friends.
It's clear he doesn't want to have a relationship and definitely doesn't feel the same...

Cut your losses now before it gets worse, you'll always find someone you deserve later on!

[FlyingJesus]

HE PISSED ON YOUR CAR why is there even a question of staying with him that is hidz

[e5]

I've learnt if you're constantly going round in circles like that, it's best to break away and move on. :)

With regards to pissing on your car, that's worth a laugh but also worth throwing him away for!

[Yawn]

all i read in ur post was negative things
r there any positive things about this person

[FlyingJesus]

Yeah his d