Unreciprocated love

[-:Undertaker:-]

So...

Have you ever felt unreciprocated love? In other words, have you ever thought you loved someone (not celebrities please) but they haven't felt that way back towards you? How long did you feel this way towards that person, do you still feel this way and if you don't how did you break out of it or can you?

[Absently]

I don't think I've ever felt actual love for anyone that wasn't reciprocated, perhaps lust yeah. Only time I remember was from I was quite young and I really liked this guy! In the end he just began ignoring me because I was too clingy (I was like 13). I obviously didn't love him, but I do still think about him today and I get that little feeling for him of what I used to feel.

[FlyingJesus]

Unrequited is a prettier word :P and yeah of course everyone's felt that, it's the definition of a crush.

http://ak.picdn.net/shutterstock/videos/5703419/preview/stock-footage-dying-love-rose-petals-on-ground-being-crushed-slow-motion.jpg I DIE FOR LOVE etc

It's great for poetry

[lawrawrrr]

Once. Ruined so much for me. Only just getting over him now!


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[Kimmy]

I put so much into my first relationship and never got anything back. The feels.

[scottish]

Not that I am aware.

[RyRy]

Never I am loveable.

[-:Undertaker:-]

Awh I expected more from the lonely hearts club that is HxF.

I've had it for 8 years for same person non-stop lmao.

[Sharon]

only once have i been so much more in love with someone than they were to me and i just wouldn't give up as i am so sure about them, waited it out to see if it could be returnred and now it's worked out

[FlyingJesus]

Awh I expected more from the lonely hearts club that is HxF.

I've had it for 8 years for same person non-stop lmao.

Sorry xxxxxxxxxx

[scottish]

Awh I expected more from the lonely hearts club that is HxF.

I've had it for 8 years for same person non-stop lmao.

Isn't farage married?

[Evanora]

this is heart breaking

[Cody]

I definitely don't think there was ever a time I was in love and another person wasn't. However I only have been in love once and that was with a girl I was with for 2 years.

[Earthquake]

secondary school, year 9 to 11 was head' over boots for this lass but she knocked me back still not stopped thinking about her and I left school in 2008. but of course im with someone now, and have been with other people since

[-:Undertaker:-]

this is heart breaking

habbox spinsters xx

[Martin]

Yes, for a long time and it's one of the worst feelings ever sometimes, but can also be a positive thing I guess. It's just one of those things in life that can't be helped though really. You set your sights too high and fall for someone way too amazing for you and that's where the problem begins and it's pretty impossible to stop once you get those kind of feelings. In terms of it being a positive thing, I think just the fact that someone means that much to you is always good, just because they don't like you back it doesn't mean you can't be there for them, try to make them happy, listen to their problems and try to protect them. I think some people genuinely get by on other peoples happiness and seeing someone you think is amazing being happy and knowing they're okay is a great feeling. Part of you doesn't even want them to like you back I guess because they deserve so much more than you, in fact it's hard to imagine anyone good enough for them. You still get to talk to them though, be a friend to them (which to be honest you might not have even had many of those in the past so anything is a blessing), and when you're feeling down they have this magical ability to be able to cheer you up just by speaking to you. It's almost like their love doesn't need to be shown through being actual love, it just naturally bounces off them because of how they make you feel.

The downsides of course is the inevitable occasional feelings of "why couldn't I be someone else, someone they might like?" and all the dreams you have about what it would be like if things had gone differently, the kind of dreams that you don't want to wake up from, and the kind of dreams that you purposely go to bed in the daytime for just to relive those moments. No matter how hard you try to move on, meet new people, attempt other relationships- something just always holds you back and it's like your heart is locked and the key is long gone. Sure you might have other relationships, but deep down are they really as special and mean as much? You can't give that strength of love to more than one person and there lies the problem.

I do think though that despite the occasional blip, it's definitely viable in the short term and who knows maybe one day someone will come along who possesses all of the amazing qualities they do, although you highly doubt it in your mind now, its impossible to know what the future holds I guess. You don't have to let go, you can accept that there are plenty of ways to enjoy love than being in a relationship, and you can still be an important part of that persons life and even if you don't get to call yourself theirs they are still yours.


I've noticed it can happen with friends a lot too, you can really get to know someone, talk to them lots and really want to be friends with them because they make you super happy, but they might have better things to be doing, better people to speak to or may really just dislike you- and it can hurt quite a bit when you get to like someone and something about yourself makes them not want to talk to you. It makes you question lots of things about yourself, what you did wrong, why couldn't you have been a better friend to them etc, and it sucks haha.


Just have to play the game with the pieces we are given I guess and deal with all the emotions along the way! A bit like snakes and ladders I guess :O