I need a bit of advice.

i am trying a lot more to not text him, not see him, ect and occasionally he gets needy, texts me, wants to see me.
it's a really hard situation because i literally loved him so much, through summer we practically lived together and it was perfect, but he started all of this and he doesn't even realise.
i know he was single but he lead me on to believe we had a chance then slept with other girls but i just cant get rid of that bit of hope that he might go back to being the lovely person i knew and loved

gurl i think u need to delete his number and any other form of contact so u can't be tempted to contact him. block his fbook n what not so u can't look. in few weeks he may come begging u back n if u give him a second chance then expect him to let u down so that way u can't be too disappointed. he's already said he doesn't want a relationship tho so if u do give him a chance then ur fault when it ends in tears again. be the strong one and in control, delete any memory of him n go out have fun, in few months or so it will hurt less and you might find someone better

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Originally Posted by buttons

gurl i think u need to delete his number and any other form of contact so u can't be tempted to contact him. block his fbook n what not so u can't look. in few weeks he may come begging u back n if u give him a second chance then expect him to let u down so that way u can't be too disappointed. he's already said he doesn't want a relationship tho so if u do give him a chance then ur fault when it ends in tears again. be the strong one and in control, delete any memory of him n go out have fun, in few months or so it will hurt less and you might find someone better

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im not a strong enough person to completely block him out :( he was my best friend so it's hard. Just don't know how to get over him in another way

YES U ARE STRONG ENOUGH
i didnt believe i was either but one day i did it even tho i really did not want to and it's the best thing I could have done
a best friend does not wee on your car, play with ur feelings, make u feel guilty for their problems, make digs at you and say they don't want to see u... u can get over him by enjoying urself in the company of better people who make u feel good

x2 to what jen said

there's been two people in my life where i didn't want to let go because 'i'll never find someone better' and you know what
it's ********, and you will

it's so hard to believe and i think it myself too, but think of how many people are out there right now.... you don't need to find the perfect person for you right now, you can have just as much fun with anyone else. you're still young and there are gonna be so many more heartbreaks along the way and you just have to deal with that, go out and have fun and try not to think about him or talk to him. eventually you will meet other people, and you WILL move on. it's just so hard to believe that when you already have the comfort of someone, despite them being rather horrible to you but you just have to push through

this guy sounds trash stop talking to this loser

I've tried to tell him that what he did to my car really upset me and he was just like "it was funny as hell." and thinks there's nothing wrong with it.

I just want him to be who he was. :(
Suppose you're all right, but I don't really want to just cut him out

ugh wow what a jerk how can you even handle this person

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glue his balls to his ******* when he's sleeping and tell him "it's funny as hell"

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Originally Posted by karter

ugh wow what a jerk how can you even handle this person

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glue his balls to his ******* when he's sleeping and tell him "it's funny as hell"

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he can be nice, and he sometimes does nice things for me.
i was tempted to just wee on him tbh

It's difficult to deliberately cut people out of your life rather than just a natural drifting apart but he is bad news and you continuing to see and be his friend is just approval for his behaviour. He will continue, it will not get better, you will not change him if you stick around. Get out while you've still got your dignity before he pisses all on that too.