I need help

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Originally Posted by Wig44.

Don't kill yourself. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I can see why you were embarrassed but the first step is to get it off your chest. If you can't get it up when trying to have sex with your girlfriend then there is a major problem. Are you not physically attracted to her? Plus if it seems like she isn't interested, she isn't tryng to help you out and you are worried about her dumping you - and you don't feel like you can talk to her about your problems then you need to drop her and move on. If she doesn't seem interested in your problems she is not someone you should waste time on.

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Woah woah woah, major problem? what? Its not at all. Nerves and various others can be why he couldnt get it up. Not major at all.

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Originally Posted by NaughtyNemo

Woah woah woah, major problem? what? Its not at all. Nerves and various others can be why he couldnt get it up. Not major at all.

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I immediately changed it from major because on second thoughts it's not that major but it really is a problem. It's obviously come between them and it has happened twice. The ironic thing is people worry about underperforming and then underperform because of worrying. You cannot deny it as a problem.

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Originally Posted by Wig44.

I immediately changed it from major because on second thoughts it's not that major but it really is a problem. It's obviously come between them and it has happened twice. The ironic thing is people worry about underperforming and then underperform because of worrying. You cannot deny it as a problem.

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Oh yeah, its definitely a problem, but not major :P. But nothing he cant get past

I know its a common thing I'll be able to overcome, But its really coming between us now because its happened twice, and thats making me worry it'll happen again and again, which is in turn probably making it happen? and she has said shes not sure she wants to try again, because of it, which iss making me think i've ****** it up.

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Originally Posted by blackops121

I know its a common thing I'll be able to overcome, But its really coming between us now because its happened twice, and thats making me worry it'll happen again and again, which is in turn probably making it happen? and she has said shes not sure she wants to try again, because of it, which iss making me think i've ****** it up.

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Well she's gonna have to get past it. Just talk to her. Cant exactly have ur relationship sexless can you? Just keep at it and you'll get it eventually, just have to convince her

But like I say, shes a person that doesn't think things over too much, If i try and convince her, itll annoy her and might make the situation worse?

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Originally Posted by blackops121

I know its a common thing I'll be able to overcome, But its really coming between us now because its happened twice, and thats making me worry it'll happen again and again, which is in turn probably making it happen? and she has said shes not sure she wants to try again, because of it, which iss making me think i've ****** it up.

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You need to take control now. Tell her it was nerves, you want to try again, tell her you are attracted to her (she may be doubting herself, girls are just as insecure as guys) but don't go over the top and start kissing the ground she walks on unless you want to lose any chance with her. If she says no then obviously you need to respect that and move on. With the bullying problem, who cares what they think? You should go to a teacher and get it sorted if it bothers you but the reason they need to pick on you is to massage their egos and make up for their gaping insecurities.

We've had a conversation about it and i'm not too sure it went well, she just refused to reply to me, so i'll go with what you say, i'll leave it alittle while, and if she hasnt dumped me i'll say to her i want to try again, and see what she says, if she says no then i'll just have to deal with it. its only sex i suppose.

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Originally Posted by blackops121

We've had a conversation about it and i'm not too sure it went well, she just refused to reply to me, so i'll go with what you say, i'll leave it alittle while, and if she hasnt dumped me i'll say to her i want to try again, and see what she says, if she says no then i'll just have to deal with it. its only sex i suppose.

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Oh god. 'I'll leave it a little while and if she hasn't dumped me I'll go and beg her for sex'

You're the man in the relationship. Get an answer from her or leave her. Don't let her play her stupid games. If she absolutely refuses to talk about it then she isn't a girl you want to waste time on. If she says no (basically not sexually attracted to you) then there is no point in having a relationship with her, move on. Don't say 'it's only sex' because if there is no sex then she may as well be a friend and you both find other people to have sex with whilst maintaining a friendship with each other. You have no obligations to this girl!

Hey,

I havn't read all the posts but if your between 13 - 19 (and if not you could just lie) Connexions Direct have an Live online one-to-one chat - I've used it a few times and they really help. You don't have to register anything and it's open untill about 2am, so if you want to talk to them heres the link:
http://www.connexions-direct.com/index.cfm?pid=223

It may be busy so you may have a short wait untill an advisor is free, but they are sure to help you.