I need help

[Nemo]

I know the seriousness of what i'm thinking on doing, and I know its a stupid reason really and the situation can be much worse, but I cant help it, its just the way I feel and need to live with every day,

Well you came here looking for help. I gave you solutions to all your problems and gave you an example of how it can be much worse. Nothing else i can do for you other than tell you 3 words. Deal with it.

[Shar]

I know the seriousness of what i'm thinking on doing, and I know its a stupid reason really and the situation can be much worse, but I cant help it, its just the way I feel and need to live with every day,

You're not alone you know, many people feel like this and I'm sure everyone's been through it some point in their life. Try and make this situation make you stronger and don't let anyone put you down. Get some serious help, maybe some counseling.

[Chris]

Nemo, you dont have to be so insensitive. You obviously haven't been in his situation or you would know exacltly how he feels.

And if your girlfriend is not listening to you, just tell her that it is really important to you that you get it sorted. She might listen then. :]

[blackops121]

Ok, I'm sorry I think I might've blowed it out of proportion, I'm sorry. I'll try deal with it as best I can.

and I think I may know the reason, But Its really kinda embarrassing and I dunno if i should say :S lol

[Nemo]

Nemo, you dont have to be so incensitive. You obviously havent been in his situation or you would know exacltly how he feels.

And if your girlfriend is not listening to you, just tell her that it is really important to you that you get it sorted. She might listen then. :]

Actually, i have, and ive been in worse. So yes i know how he feels. Im only being incensitive so that he understands that it really isnt something to go all suicidal over. You obviously havent been in a bad enough situation to realise that his situation is one where one would feel sad, not suicidal.


Go on, tell us. Cant help you if we dont know. And we're only internet people <;]

[blackops121]

mm I suppose, ehmmm, Basically, we have tried having sex twice, both times i've not been able to get it up, probably due to nerves, and i think thats made her go ':/'

[Nemo]

mm I suppose, ehmmm, Basically, we have tried having sex twice, both times i've not been able to get it up, probably due to nerves, and i think thats made her go ':/'

that's a ridiculously common thing. Nothing big at all. The only reason she may have made it a ":/" thing is if u made it a big thing. She should know its probably due to nerves and thats that. If it happens again, just brush it off and act like it was nothing, joke about it. I really hope/doubt that isnt why shes a bit off. But thats really nothing to worry bout

[Wig44.]

mm I suppose, ehmmm, Basically, we have tried having sex twice, both times i've not been able to get it up, probably due to nerves, and i think thats made her go ':/'

Don't kill yourself. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I can see why you were embarrassed but the first step is to get it off your chest. If you can't get it up when trying to have sex with your girlfriend then there is a problem. Are you not physically attracted to her? I know nerves can be a problem but I've only ever experienced/heard of not being able to *** the first time with a girl.

Plus if it seems like she isn't interested, she isn't tryng to help you out and you are worried about her dumping you - and you don't feel like you can talk to her about your problems then you need to drop her and move on. If she doesn't seem interested in your problems she is not someone you should waste time on.

[blackops121]

well i think she doesnt want to try again because of it.

Also wig, i am very physically attracted to her, tbh i think that may even be the cause, see I don't personally think i'm the nicest looking of guys, and everyone is surprised I managed to go out with her because she is prolly the hottest girl in the entire school, ( not just my opinion, almost all the guys at school agree ) so i think cause of that, I'm really like 'Oh **** I better try not lose her', Which is making me worry and prolly screw it up for myself.

[Jamesy]

You have to relax and be comfortable. I know it's hard, no pun intended, after what is understandably a big problem to you but because of your anxiety it will happen again. If you tell her how you're feeling and are both fully relaxed and comfortable next time around I'm sure you wont run into it again.

If you are still feeling bad and such it will affect you in that particular way.