Overbearing/ridiculous parents

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Originally Posted by BOOMitsGINA

Habbox is the bomb. Js.

I know a few of my friends are in this situation. I've never personally been in a situation like this but must be hard. I've read this whole thread (was actually really interesting haha) best thing to do is just get on with your life. Besides it's only for 3 weeks which isn't that long come to think of it. So jsut enjoy getting to see your family. In a way I would just do everything your parents say because if you do that they will msot likely be like 'O.o what?' It might be a trust issue, due to you being older they think you might turn into that 'typical young adult' so just make sure you do everything your parents say and they might change their minds. I know must be hard with your sister and everything getting everything but she could egt into the same situation like you when she gets to your age. Think of it that way :) Not saying anything against you or anything :P

Never been in this situation like I said so I dont know if this will be much help or anything x

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ahahah :) It's 3 months over the summer but i'm going out a lot more and it's ok :)

I doubt my sister will ever be in my position tbh as she's already given more freedom and I can only imagine that increasing as she gets older. It's annoying but I can't really do anything about it, they just don't seem to realise they do it!!!

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Originally Posted by Mikey

I don't live with the situation your in at the moment but I do know some people that have parents like that. Also you say your sister is the angel child, how old is your sister? If she's a 'child' then she won't be as hard on her, your the adult and you need to be independent and do things for yourself. When I start college after summer I will have to pay for everything with the money I get from my student loan and if I get a job by then, I'll use that. This includes bus fares, contact lenses, mobile phone contract, lunch for college, books, stationery, clothes and socialising with friends. I will also give my mum £50 a month to help her out and she will provide me with meals and stuff. This is the exact same with my brother aswell. :)

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She's 16 but the main problem is that she's given more freedom than me who's 18, and much more than I was at her age. Please don't make this about money again for the love of god.

I didn't read all these posts but If you do get along with your dad when he's alone can you not talk to him about this and maybe he'd be able to sort something out.

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Originally Posted by peteyt

I didn't read all these posts but If you do get along with your dad when he's alone can you not talk to him about this and maybe he'd be able to sort something out.

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It's a nice idea, but I don't see him much, and he's always tired and tells me to talk to mum. He's the one who has to mediate when we have an argument now though.

I'm exactly the same, YOU'RE NOT ON YOUR OWN!!!! DONT WORRY.

I was going to reply to this a while ago and say that she might not used to you being at home so needs to adjust into a routine and such as when you're at university you do your own thing and she may not realise that you do your bit but equality is needed. I sometimes feel the same way as you, sometimes my sister gets taken places, gets money and everything but then I realise my dad took me to college every day except one when I was there, he's spent his time and money on me and although we don't argue or anything we have some heated discussions.

It seems your mum won't listen to your side of the story sometimes, maybe reiterating the previous point she may not be used to you at home but she is with your sister? She might know what your sister is like and feel like you're an adult because you're at uni etc. I'm making no sense but it feels like to me your best doesn't appear good enough sometimes no matter how hard you try? I know you help a lot around the house, you tell me you make food, tidy, all those kind of chores and you've told me how your mum can be.

What I'll suggest is what others have said about taking her out for a meal or something that way you may be forced to talk and she's not going to want to shout in a restaurant is she? You never know it could work out well and again talking about my first point (I'm waffling on) your mum and your sister might share that bond that you do actually have with your mum but you have to dig deeper if you get me :P.

Personally, if i'm honest, I used to prefer my dad to my mum (I don't know though), but I found him overbearing eventually and now he annoys me slightly. The advice that I would give you is to show her that your upset, and to make sure you give her no reason to have a go at you. For example, if she asked if you want dinner, say that you'll make it and ask her if she want's any.

If this dosent work, watch this video for some insparation of what you should get to deal with it:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=T2JvOX_9S7g