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24-10-2005, 07:35 PM
HelpMe

I need help

Not sure if this is the right section to post this in or not. I have just registered this username because I feel uncomfortable about posting this with my regular forum name (which I have 4000+ posts with and is known around the forum).

Ok, I'm in year 11. I have been bullied for most of my life. I have never told my parents anything about how I'm treated at school. The teachers are blind too it aswell.

The bullying is mostly verbal (name calling, constant abuse, etc) bullying. Because of this, I have very few friends. I can't bare it anymore. I can't do anything, as they are alot "harder" than me, and telling teachers in the past has got me nowhere. The same things happen everyday. I get called names (no idea why), I get my stuff stolen in some cases, etc.

I am going to have to make a decision very soon. Either I get help or I end my life. This has scarred me, and I cannot face it anymore. I am ready to end my life if changes are not made. I have no confidence anymore. I find it very hard to go out. No-one knows about this and how I feel. I cry at night, thinking of the abuse I would get the next day. Thinking of ways to prevent it (hurting myself, thinking of ways to end my life). I sometimes think to myself "theres only one year left to cope with" - but I don't think I'm strong enough anymore.

I really need help. I can't just tell people, as I'm not confident anymore.

I plan to end my life soon, unless things improve.

Thanks for reading.

EDIT: I do not have any dissabilities. I'm just 'normal' like the rest of you.
24-10-2005, 07:38 PM
Steven.

:o, That sounds quite harsh.

Have you got an Ewo in your'e school? or a School Nurse? (Ewo = Educational Welfare officier) .

I would advise going to see them if you have, that's what i normaly do but i get outside help (Counciling due to self harm).
24-10-2005, 07:39 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by -50

:o, That sounds quite harsh.

Have you got an Ewo in your'e school? or a School Nurse? (Ewo = Educational Welfare officier) .

I would advise going to see them if you have, that's what i normaly do but i get outside help (Counciling due to self harm).

I don't think I have the confidence. I can hardly leave my house anymore.
24-10-2005, 07:49 PM
Catchy

ct you tell the police or somthing?
24-10-2005, 08:00 PM
Eamonn

Why end it now ! You only have one more year at school then you can go 6Form or College and im pretty sure it wont happen there, just keep your head up high and hold on ! C'mon dont let them win
24-10-2005, 08:02 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by eamonns

Why end it now ! You only have one more year at school then you can go 6Form or College and im pretty sure it wont happen there, just keep your head up high and hold on ! C'mon dont let them win

I was planning on going College and doing an I.T course, but I just don't have the strength anymore. I cant face another 100 odd days at school. I've been through a good 9 years of this, I can't hold out another one.
24-10-2005, 08:04 PM
Catchy

Ask for a transfer of schools!
24-10-2005, 08:07 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by jake191

Ask for a transfer of schools!

I wish it was as easy as that. "mum, change my schools please".

There would be questions, frustration etc. Plus it would interfere with my GCSE's (if I get that far, which I very much doubt it).
24-10-2005, 08:09 PM
Catchy

Have you told ur parents? If not why not? You could ring a helpline, sorry i don't know any numbers of them
24-10-2005, 08:13 PM
ITradeRSforHabo

Dude you dont need to kill urself man. Never let bullys win. I'd advise you to talk to your pricipal about this situation. One more year left man, and then, your off to collage where people are more mature. You will have lots of friends. And also the friends, I'd advice you to join clubs. Go out into school activites and make some new friends. No need to end your life.
24-10-2005, 08:15 PM
Catchy

Good advice there!
24-10-2005, 08:19 PM
TealArms

1st of all don't kill urself as u will be missed, jsut think about your family how they would feel
u need to tell someone, is there a member of staff u really trust?
i am kinda in the saem postion with an issue i have and i don't want to tell anyone (btw this is about my privets) but ppl on this forum said i need to tell a member of staff, i know how u feel, but if i told a teacher i trusted at my skool do u think u would be able to tell someone? and we could do it together?
24-10-2005, 08:20 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by ITradeRSforHabo

Dude you dont need to kill urself man. Never let bullys win. I'd advise you to talk to your pricipal about this situation. One more year left man, and then, your off to collage where people are more mature. You will have lots of friends. And also the friends, I'd advice you to join clubs. Go out into school activites and make some new friends. No need to end your life.

Thanks, but again, lack of confidence stops me. I don't think I could do it. And yea, it may be only "one more year left", but I cannot bear it anymore. I've started to cry every night, and as I'm reading/posting in this thread, more tears arrive.

Thanks anyway.
24-10-2005, 08:22 PM
TealArms

dude read what i just posted and we can do it together
24-10-2005, 08:23 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by TealArms

1st of all don't kill urself as u will be missed, jsut think about your family how they would feel
u need to tell someone, is there a member of staff u really trust?
i am kinda in the saem postion with an issue i have and i don't want to tell anyone (btw this is about my privets) but ppl on this forum said i need to tell a member of staff, i know how u feel, but if i told a teacher i trusted at my skool do u think u would be able to tell someone? and we could do it together?

I don't know if I could do it. I need a friend (who goes to my school) who understands whats going on, as I could probally be alot more confident with him/her with me. And sorry to hear about whatever issues you are facing.
24-10-2005, 08:23 PM
ITradeRSforHabo

Quote:

Originally Posted by HelpMe

Thanks, but again, lack of confidence stops me. I don't think I could do it. And yea, it may be only "one more year left", but I cannot bear it anymore. I've started to cry every night, and as I'm reading/posting in this thread, more tears arrive.

Thanks anyway.

Well Gain the Confidence!! This is unnacceptable because no one should make fun of anyone as everyone isnt perfect. U CANT LET THEM KEEP GOING LIKE THIS BRO TELL SOMEONE! Trust me you will feel lots better without the bullying
24-10-2005, 08:26 PM
TealArms

dude, thx for ur support but i bet u fell a lil bit better u said this on here, and u will feel a hole lot better if u open upto someone, like ur mum or dad or someone
24-10-2005, 08:27 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by TealArms

dude, thx for ur support but i bet u fell a lil bit better u said this on here, and u will feel a hole lot better if u open upto someone, like ur mum or dad or someone

It is easy to talk on here, as most people understand and I don't have to worry about if it "got out" because you do not know who I am.
24-10-2005, 08:27 PM
Catchy

Don't kill your self, who ever said that is right think of your family and friends. Don't let the bullys win. Do you have learning mentors in your school? If so do you have one?
24-10-2005, 08:27 PM
ITradeRSforHabo

Quote:

Originally Posted by TealArms

dude, thx for ur support but i bet u fell a lil bit better u said this on here, and u will feel a hole lot better if u open upto someone, like ur mum or dad or someone

Yes very much..
24-10-2005, 08:33 PM
Catchy

Not that i have been bullyed before but it must be horrible for you, i hope you can short it out!
24-10-2005, 08:35 PM
ITradeRSforHabo

Quote:

Originally Posted by jake191

Not that i have been bullyed before but it must be horrible for you, i hope you can short it out!

I have. People make fun of me saying wheres ur bra? go wear a bra! ur T*** are too big ! :( I hate being obesce..
24-10-2005, 08:35 PM
NekkLe

I really hate any type of bullying, I can't stand it. You shouldn't stand for Bullies, they usually have nothing else in there miserable lifes to do with them selves, so they result in hurting someone else.

You can't think negative anymore, it stops here! Thinking negative is almost like digging yourself a deeper whole making it impossible for yourself to get out it.
You need to let out your pain, confronting your parents is a good thing, I know it sounds difficult to tell anyone but you have to fight yourself through your pain.
Don't result to 'ending your life' Lifes important and so are you, you can't let others ruin it for you, you are who you are.

Honestly, informing someone will help, theres no way you can keep such negative thoughts in your head, its not healthy.

I think you should sign up at a GYM. Sounds silly but here me out. Physical exercise is good for releasing stress and by the sounds of it, you need it.
Going to a GYM will help you gain confidence in yourself, you'll meet new people, you'll start to live a happier life because you are doing something with yourself.
Usually, staying inside alot can make you less confident, you have to take that step.

I hope this helps in any way, I'm open to PM's because I'm here to help. I would really like to help sort the matter out for you but you know...
Honestly though, become a member at your local GYM, it will help you alot, it will help you clear your mind from negativity.

Regards,

#NekkLe
24-10-2005, 08:38 PM
Catchy

It must be awful! :(
24-10-2005, 08:38 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by NekkLe

I really hate any type of bullying, I can't stand it. You shouldn't stand for Bullies, they usually have nothing else in there miserable lifes to do with them selves, so they result in hurting someone else.

You can't think negative anymore, it stops here! Thinking negative is almost like digging yourself a deeper whole making it impossible for yourself to get out it.
You need to let out your pain, confronting your parents is a good thing, I know it sounds difficult to tell anyone but you have to fight yourself through your pain.
Don't result to 'ending your life' Lifes important and so are you, you can't let others ruin it for you, you are who you are.

Honestly, informing someone will help, theres no way you can keep such negative thoughts in your head, its not healthy.

I think you should sign up at a GYM. Sounds silly but here me out. Physical exercise is good for releasing stress and by the sounds of it, you need it.
Going to a GYM will help you gain confidence in yourself, you'll meet new people, you'll start to live a happier life because you are doing something with yourself.
Usually, staying inside alot can make you less confident, you have to take that step.

I hope this helps in any way, I'm open to PM's because I'm here to help. I would really like to help sort the matter out for you but you know...
Honestly though, become a member at your local GYM, it will help you alot, it will help you clear your mind from negativity.

Regards,

#NekkLe

Thanks for that post. Somehow I have to confront my parents but I think they would be mad at me because they would have to deal with it.
24-10-2005, 08:42 PM
ITradeRSforHabo

No they wont be mad. they might be a little frustrated because u didn't come to them at an earlier time. Okay put yourself in a parents shoes. Pretend you have a child and you love him dearly and he is in the same position as you are. Would u want him to resume the position he is in? or u think he should tell someone? Dude, think about that real hard man..
24-10-2005, 08:42 PM
Catchy

They shoulden't be mad at you just go " Mum dad i have somthing to tell you: I am being bullyed at school! And it's realy hurting me inside :( " It should all be fine
24-10-2005, 08:44 PM
TealArms

just rember we are here fo u dude! no matter what
24-10-2005, 08:46 PM
NekkLe

Quote:

Originally Posted by HelpMe

Thanks for that post. Somehow I have to confront my parents but I think they would be mad at me because they would have to deal with it.

Look, your parents will deal with this. The whole matter is that your so upset that your fearing your own life.
I don't think in anyway your parents will be annoyed with you, infact, if you told them, the support you'll get will be amazing. Your parents will give anything for you to be happy, they wouldn't be comfortable with you being unhappy and especially when someone else is ruining it for you.

I urge you to tell them, they will understand you more than anyone else will. Take you time with things, but I think you should be using your time now to tell them, you'll sleep better :)
24-10-2005, 08:49 PM
Catchy

Exactly. Just tell them!
24-10-2005, 09:10 PM
$@m

Tell your mum and dad right now. What you waiting for? GO! Tell them what you have just wrote in this post!
24-10-2005, 09:17 PM
Shampoo

Dude if your going to kill yourself why dont you go and beat them up thats what id do, then they wont bully you, trust me just go out and beat them down man
24-10-2005, 09:18 PM
Bear-Max

Don't end your life. It really isn't worth it. If you think that telling them could put them through stress, killing yourself is only going to do the same but tenfold. Suicide is the easy way out, and it's everyone else that will suffer because of it.

If you don't feel you can bring yourself to tell your parents face to face; write them a letter, let them see this thread, anything. Trust me when I say that telling them will only reap good things.

Another thing that may help us to help you is by telling us what exactly the nature of the bullying is. Is there a particular reason they call you names, and what names do they call you? If you don't want to tell, that's fine, but it really would help.

Good luck <3
24-10-2005, 09:21 PM
HelpMe

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bear-Max

Don't end your life. It really isn't worth it. If you think that telling them could put them through stress, killing yourself is only going to do the same but tenfold. Suicide is the easy way out, and it's everyone else that will suffer because of it.

If you don't feel you can bring yourself to tell your parents face to face; write them a letter, let them see this thread, anything. Trust me when I say that telling them will only reap good things.

Another thing that may help us to help you is by telling us what exactly the nature of the bullying is. Is there a particular reason they call you names, and what names do they call you? If you don't want to tell, that's fine, but it really would help.

Good luck <3

They just pick on me whenever they have the chance. I'm do not have a dissability or anything.

The best way I can think of is getting my parents to see my post in this thread, but.. I just cant go down and say "i need you to read something".

This is really hard.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shampoo

Dude if your going to kill yourself why dont you go and beat them up thats what id do, then they wont bully you, trust me just go out and beat them down man

I think i'll ignore that post. I'm not phiscally (and mentally) strong.
24-10-2005, 09:39 PM
NekkLe

Quote:

Originally Posted by HelpMe

They just pick on me whenever they have the chance. I'm do not have a dissability or anything.

The best way I can think of is getting my parents to see my post in this thread, but.. I just cant go down and say "i need you to read something".

This is really hard.

I think i'll ignore that post. I'm not phiscally (and mentally) strong.

Trust me, telling your parents will be your best choice, its a start. You've got to get into a routine of helping yourself now, its going to be tough but if you keep your mind stuck to it, you'll get through it.
My parents always help me if I'm in trouble, they'll throw you a life line to help you all they can! Use that life line and beat your pain.

#NekkLe
24-10-2005, 10:41 PM
GoldSolid

Quote:

Originally Posted by HelpMe

Not sure if this is the right section to post this in or not. I have just registered this username because I feel uncomfortable about posting this with my regular forum name (which I have 4000+ posts with and is known around the forum).

Ok, I'm in year 11. I have been bullied for most of my life. I have never told my parents anything about how I'm treated at school. The teachers are blind too it aswell.

The bullying is mostly verbal (name calling, constant abuse, etc) bullying. Because of this, I have very few friends. I can't bare it anymore. I can't do anything, as they are alot "harder" than me, and telling teachers in the past has got me nowhere. The same things happen everyday. I get called names (no idea why), I get my stuff stolen in some cases, etc.

I am going to have to make a decision very soon. Either I get help or I end my life. This has scarred me, and I cannot face it anymore. I am ready to end my life if changes are not made. I have no confidence anymore. I find it very hard to go out. No-one knows about this and how I feel. I cry at night, thinking of the abuse I would get the next day. Thinking of ways to prevent it (hurting myself, thinking of ways to end my life). I sometimes think to myself "theres only one year left to cope with" - but I don't think I'm strong enough anymore.

I really need help. I can't just tell people, as I'm not confident anymore.

I plan to end my life soon, unless things improve.

Thanks for reading.

EDIT: I do not have any dissabilities. I'm just 'normal' like the rest of you.

Damn, dude, this has touched me just reading it... I'm really sorry for you..

Tell your parents... Ask if you can move school, I dont suggest standing up to them if they are 'harder' than you. You should tell your parents, everything what has happened and how you feel, I know how you feel, most people who get bullied dont want to tell their parents as it will 'embarrase' them or make themselfs look stupid. It WONT make you look stupid, If your parents love you and care for you, they will try their hardest to move you away from these bullies or sort somthing out.

Please contact me in PM's if anything else happens.. I'd like you to keep me informed with everything what happens.

Life doesnt always revolve round school, instead of crying yourself to sleep you could think about the fun you can have with your family.

Dont try anything stupid, dont even self harm yourself.. It wont make you feel better..

If you want I could find you some helpline numbers and send them to you in a private message?
Dont kill yourself either. Just think about how the people who really love you, care for you. Just imagine how you would feel.
Thing about what you can do when you leave school.

PLEASE, PLEASE keep me informed on what else happens. I'd like to talk to you more about this.. And remember just to ask if you need any helpline numbers i'd be happy to google some up for you..

David~
24-10-2005, 10:45 PM
Owen

Tell your mum
this guy like 4 years older than me tried to beat me up
But i told my mum like a good boy and she went out and threatened him O.o
But now hes scared of me
barharhar
25-10-2005, 12:06 PM
Re101

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shampoo

Dude if your going to kill yourself why dont you go and beat them up thats what id do, then they wont bully you, trust me just go out and beat them down man

NO DONT GET AS BAD AS THEM !
MAYBE WRITING A NOTE TO YOUR PARENTS MAY HELP AS U WONT HAVE TO CONFRONT THEM
25-10-2005, 05:00 PM
NekkLe

Quote:

Originally Posted by Owen

Tell your mum
this guy like 4 years older than me tried to beat me up
But i told my mum like a good boy and she went out and threatened him O.o
But now hes scared of me
barharhar

Lol^ thats how my mum or dad would react if someone was bullying or in any way assulting me :p
"Your mother is a Nutter!"
25-10-2005, 05:14 PM
TealArms

Quote:

Originally Posted by Owen

Tell your mum
this guy like 4 years older than me tried to beat me up
But i told my mum like a good boy and she went out and threatened him O.o
But now hes scared of me
barharhar

but ur just doing what u were scared of

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