Argh help

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21-10-2007, 06:06 PM
Nemo

Argh help

I know i've posted about this a lot but its really hard.

Ok so basically, i've known this girl for a few years. I see her a lot and she lives at the top of my road. I really like her, the people round my area think i like her but i don't know if she likes me. What i'm afraid of is if she doesn't like me then our friendship is screwed. I see people who have asked their friends out and it works out bad and some great. One of my friends who is like sisters with the girl i like (really good friends) said i should ask her out but then another day after that, she talked about how it ended bad for her and her old bf and said i shouldn't ask her out. So i don't know about that.

If i do decided to ask her out though i would have no idea how to. I haven't really ever asked a girl out and it just seems really hard. I don't have much confidence so i don't think she'll even like me.

All HELPFUL suggestions i will +rep.

Im really stuck here so,

Thanks in advance.
21-10-2007, 06:14 PM
:Liam

I think you should make a HUGE effort to get to know her, I know you already do but I mean get to a point were you are like best friends with her and then when your both comfortable ask her out but when you do dont make a big deal out of it, just ask her if you can have a word with her take her somewhere fairly private (round a corner) and just ask her and if she rejects you just make it seem like your fine if your not and that way you wont lose your friendship.
21-10-2007, 06:16 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by :Liam

I think you should make a HUGE effort to get to know her, I know you already do but I mean get to a point were you are like best friends with her and then when your both comfortable ask her out but when you do dont make a big deal out of it, just ask her if you can have a word with her take her somewhere fairly private (round a corner) and just ask her and if she rejects you just make it seem like your fine if your not and that way you wont lose your friendship.

ARgh im really crap at acting xD and i do know her loads, ive seen her everyday for the past 2 weeks or so, and i generally see her on the weekends and we hang and stuff with a few others like all day. So i know her loads.. I just never know the right time to ask her though.. and what do i like say? :[
21-10-2007, 06:18 PM
Malachy

Maybe casually slip it in or something. Ask her who she fancies - just act dead dead nice to her
21-10-2007, 06:20 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by DSAddict

Maybe casually slip it in or something. Ask her who she fancies - just act dead dead nice to her

I always act nice to her, if my mate is going to punch her for a joke, ill just pull him back. Give hints n crap, and generally if shes outside then there is others aswell :(
21-10-2007, 06:20 PM
:Liam

Quote:

Originally Posted by NaughtyNemo

ARgh im really crap at acting xD and i do know her loads, ive seen her everyday for the past 2 weeks or so, and i generally see her on the weekends and we hang and stuff with a few others like all day. So i know her loads.. I just never know the right time to ask her though.. and what do i like say? :[

Hmm. Just say like: Insert name here, can I talk to you for a minute? its important. go somewere private as I said. and just say, I have something to ask you, but before I do I dont want this to affect our friendship Ok? (she answers). Then just say Well, Will you go out with me? and if she says no just say "ok no problem it dont matter anyway" and smile then it will go from there.
21-10-2007, 06:23 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by :Liam

Hmm. Just say like: Insert name here, can I talk to you for a minute? its important. go somewere private as I said. and just say, I have something to ask you, but before I do I dont want this to affect our friendship Ok? (she answers). Then just say Well, Will you go out with me? and if she says no just say "ok no problem it dont matter anyway" and smile then it will go from there.

oh god, i can just imagine myself bursting out laughing at that xD
21-10-2007, 11:18 PM
lAdmire

Maybe you should try building up your confidence first. Then try & tell her how you feel when the time is right. Then basically, ask her out on the date but tell her you don't want this to ruin your friendship or anything.
21-10-2007, 11:22 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by lAdmire

Maybe you should try building up your confidence first. Then try & tell her how you feel when the time is right. Then basically, ask her out on the date but tell her you don't want this to ruin your friendship or anything.

How can i build up my confidence though?
21-10-2007, 11:24 PM
Kardan

Quote:

Originally Posted by NaughtyNemo

How can i build up my confidence though?

Audition for the lead roll in a school production :)
23-10-2007, 08:06 PM
Nemo

On msn just now i saw her name and it said "ARGH, fed up with boys likin me!" i didnt know other boys liked her aswell, i mean yeah shes.. fine but i only thought one boy did and she dnt like him... i guess i shouldnt tell her how i feel.
23-10-2007, 08:09 PM
Jamesy

Just leave it for a while, she is obviously feeling chlostrephobic (spell check?) over all the male attention. Just be friends with her and be kind and caring and perhaps she will find feelings for you over everyone else. Sometimes the underdog is for the best :)
23-10-2007, 08:15 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by iSuck

Just leave it for a while, she is obviously feeling chlostrephobic (spell check?) over all the male attention. Just be friends with her and be kind and caring and perhaps she will find feelings for you over everyone else. Sometimes the underdog is for the best :)

Well heres somethin good;

Quote:

Blank says:
u shuld be flattered lol
she says:
i am but its kinda annoyin all the time will u go out with me will u have sex with me ?
Blank says:
lol
Blank says:
do they all ask will u have sex with me?
she says:
HELL YEAH !!!!
Blank says:
lol
Blank says:
do they even no u?
Blank says:
lol
her says:
no!! but not all boys are like u!!!!
Blank says:
Lol :)

Thats good :)
23-10-2007, 08:26 PM
Jamesy

I don't know whether tbe jealous or have a hard-on. Neither, as I have 2 deals to have sex, One when 15 and one when I am 16.

ohhhhhhhhh yeah ;)
23-10-2007, 08:27 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by iSuck

I don't know whether tbe jealous or have a hard-on. Neither, as I have 2 deals to have sex, One when 15 and one when I am 16.

ohhhhhhhhh yeah ;)

yer ermmm back to me xD Im kinda flirting but its like arghhhh i like her so much but too chicken to say anythin, and msn is kinda crap for that
23-10-2007, 08:29 PM
:Liam

I think a romantic way is to just sorta blurt it out, so talk about somthing really random I.e Sandwiches ( you can do this on msn just say umm Im tucking into a nice sandwich and discuss sandwiches.) get talking and then randomly say By the way I like you. lol.
23-10-2007, 08:30 PM
Jamesy

msn is double edged sword. You can have easier convos but you feel like a wimp asking out on it.
23-10-2007, 08:30 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by :Liam

I think a romantic way is to just sorta blurt it out, so talk about somthing really random I.e Sandwiches ( you can do this on msn just say umm Im tucking into a nice sandwich and discuss sandwiches.) get talking and then randomly say By the way I like you. lol.

MmMmMmh but i hear telling them on msn isnt a very gd way
23-10-2007, 08:31 PM
Jamesy

maybe you can discuss anime characters giving off the impression of having sex then say, I wanna do this one to you and send one to her. maybe the one with the ginger in your sig
23-10-2007, 08:33 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by iSuck

maybe you can discuss anime characters giving off the impression of having sex then say, I wanna do this one to you and send one to her. maybe the one with the ginger in your sig

Lmao, but shes annoyed with all the guys asking her for sex! xD
23-10-2007, 08:34 PM
Neversoft

You can't ask her out you're gay.
23-10-2007, 08:35 PM
:Liam

Quote:

Originally Posted by Neversoft

You can't ask her out you're gay.

Ha ha. thats so funny :rolleyes: people need to grow up from gay jokes.
23-10-2007, 08:35 PM
Jamesy

then don't ask her... god!

:rolleyes:
23-10-2007, 08:35 PM
Neversoft

Quote:

Originally Posted by :Liam

Ha ha. thats so funny :rolleyes: people need to grow up from gay jokes.

DUDE, rofl! Me and Nemo are like the best of friends on this forum. I never intended my post to be rude towards him or gays in any way. Glad you found it funny though. :rolleyes:
23-10-2007, 08:36 PM
Jamesy

Quote:

Originally Posted by :Liam

Ha ha. thats so funny :rolleyes: people need to grow up from gay jokes.

especially seeing as (no offence meant) this is one of the gayest forums I have seen, what with gay partnership adverts at the top etc etc
23-10-2007, 08:36 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by Neversoft

You can't ask her out you're gay.

i aint gay! I never looked at a guy like that, except maybe you chris :p

kiddin bout the chris thing.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Neversoft

DUDE, rofl! Me and Nemo are like the best of friends on this forum. I never intended my post to be rude towards him or gays in any way. Glad you found it funny though. :rolleyes:

Hi.
23-10-2007, 08:36 PM
:Liam

Quote:

Originally Posted by Neversoft

DUDE, rofl! Me and Nemo are like the best of friends on this forum. I never intended my post to be rude towards him or gays in any way. Glad you found it funny though. :rolleyes:

Im not saying you dont like him Im just saying gay jokes are immature.
23-10-2007, 08:37 PM
Neversoft

Quote:

Originally Posted by :Liam

Im not saying you dont like him Im just saying gay jokes are immature.

So you don't joke around with your friends then? You act mature with your friends?
23-10-2007, 08:39 PM
:Liam

Quote:

Originally Posted by Neversoft

So you don't joke around with your friends then? You act mature with your friends?

Sorry Ignore me please, bad personal experiences.
23-10-2007, 08:40 PM
Jamesy

never, he is just saying that people will get all up the *** (excuse the pun) about your comments. So don't worry about it
23-10-2007, 08:40 PM
Nemo

Shes gone now, had a nice convo with her though.
23-10-2007, 08:44 PM
Neversoft

Quote:

Originally Posted by iSuck

never, he is just saying that people will get all up the *** (excuse the pun) about your comments. So don't worry about it

Yeah, guess I should have known a little better posting gay comments on this forum. :eusa_wall

Whats with your comments though? I check this section every now and then and see yours and they are just so hilariously random. :P
23-10-2007, 08:44 PM
Jamesy

up the ****. hehe what a pun :)
23-10-2007, 08:45 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by iSuck

up the ****. hehe what a pun :)

Wasnt funny soz bud.

now back to the topic xD
23-10-2007, 09:03 PM
Kross619

Read this eHow:http://www.ehow.com/how_2088131_ask-out-girl.html
If you can understand the English in it it'll be fine for you.
23-10-2007, 09:06 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kross619

Read this eHow:http://www.ehow.com/how_2088131_ask-out-girl.html
If you can understand the English in it it'll be fine for you.

thats pretty good +rep. (cant right now, gotta wait 24hours)
24-10-2007, 10:18 AM
:Delirium

Quote:

Originally Posted by :Liam

Hmm. Just say like: Insert name here, can I talk to you for a minute? its important. go somewere private as I said. and just say, I have something to ask you, but before I do I dont want this to affect our friendship Ok? (she answers). Then just say Well, Will you go out with me? and if she says no just say "ok no problem it dont matter anyway" and smile then it will go from there.

nemo, if you burst out laughing at that, DO THAT. pass it off as a joke, and when u leave or whatever, next day, tell her that you werent joking. excellent way of proposing ;)
24-10-2007, 07:44 PM
Nemo

yer well im thinkin of askin her at this halloween party at a friends house, so.. maybe then. I saw her today for like a few mins, she looked great :). It just puts down my confidence thinking about if she says no..