So heres what happened.

Hi
Well, I'm not usually on at this time of night on a schoolnight, but tonight's an exception.

My mum and step dad went out with some mates, while I was left home with baby sister and mums friends baby son. I had to stay up because of them, and at around 2.15, I got a phone call from mums friend saying that mum got arrested for disturbing the peace and so did my step dad, for assault. One of her friends got arrested for neglect of her child, because I'm only 14 and I was looking after him. I rang my nan because I didn't know what to do, and she went to the police station and picked mum up (but step dad cannot come back until tomorrow after being interviewed). So, mum and her friends and nan are here now, and I have to be up at 8.00am in the morning (5 hours sleep? How can I do it!)

But yea, she always drinks and maybe her getting arrested might stop it a bit, or slow it down. But if she continues drinking, I cannot handle it and will just go bezerk and lose it. Bad stuff always happens when she drinks and I don't know what to do, she is an alcoholic with the amount she drinks. What can I do? Because I can't handle it for much longer, I need help - and fast.

ToxicPaddy

All I would really say, your parents sound awsome from my boring parents! But man, sit her down and talk to her, tell her its affecting not just herself but the people around her.

Say "Thanks for getting arrested! I had to stay up late now im tierd :@ I dunno if I can stay awake might fall asleep in school :'(!!"

Free day of pl0x

my mums a heavy drinker, only been arrested twice though... :rolleyes:
oh and she broke her leg while she was out.
You gotta deal with it kiddo, just make it clear to her that you do not condone her behavior but let her do whatever she wants as long as she does not assault you or anybody else. That's where you call in the police.

.. your mum's gonna drink you can't stop her

i hope she stops though, or slows down for your sake.. :rolleyes:

I don't want to stop her completely drinking, just for her to slow down. A lot.

I came in from school today and I can tell she has had a drink. I mean, I was at school from 3.30 till 4.00 doing some coursework and I was looking forward to finally finishing it and coming home to a sober parent who I can talk to. But no, it hasn't happened and I feel like lashing out but what's the point, she won't listen.

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I don't want to stop her completely drinking, just for her to slow down. A lot.

I came in from school today and I can tell she has had a drink. I mean, I was at school from 3.30 till 4.00 doing some coursework and I was looking forward to finally finishing it and coming home to a sober parent who I can talk to. But no, it hasn't happened and I feel like lashing out but what's the point, she won't listen.

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Well to be honest there is no point trying to speak her any time she has a drink in her. Your maybe best getting her first thing in the morning and addressing this when she is sober. You could also may speak to her and your stepdad when hes out and try and arrange a family meeting which will be kept organised, and everyone can only speak when they hold the cup or something, in order to keep it cool and calm.

Either way, when you get to speak to her sober just explain to her you understand shes not a child and that she is fully entitled to have a drink. Explain you understand many parents do also drink and it is just a relaxing thing and your not on her back about it. But just go on to say calmly hwo you think it really is starting to affect you and your life which really isn't fair. Try and make clear that at the end of the day she is your parent and she has certain responsibilities she needs to keep to. Explain that you are sick of it for example coming home to someone with a drink in them.

I basically think you just just tell her exactly what you think but stay calm about it so it doesn't look like your getting on at her.

If it keeps going on after talking to her, explain to her your going to stay with your gran for a bit or something or another relative who could take you for a bit, simply because you can no longer cope with having your life affected by her problem and that she needs to get it sorted.

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Originally Posted by ToxicPaddy

I don't want to stop her completely drinking, just for her to slow down. A lot.

I came in from school today and I can tell she has had a drink. I mean, I was at school from 3.30 till 4.00 doing some coursework and I was looking forward to finally finishing it and coming home to a sober parent who I can talk to. But no, it hasn't happened and I feel like lashing out but what's the point, she won't listen.

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I know the feeling, I once came back from last GCSE exam and did really well, I wanted to talk to mum about it but she was drunk at just before 1pm?
It sucks, just make sure you dont follow her path and live your life without such a obsession.

I won't follow her. What upsets me most is that my real dad moved back to Ireland because he was an alcoholic, and now mum is going down the same road. But also, I have lost so much respect for her she's just another person in the house to me now, not like a mother.

exactly, it's hard to forgive such acts.
Do you have a sister or brother? Helping each other out and talking helps.

Get your nan to talk to her with you. A mother and son two pronged attack will never fail.

Nan does talk to her, and she always says she won't drink but she does. Also, I have 2 sisters. One is four, and the other is thirteen.

i know how you feel, alcoholism runs through my family gah. when i was going through it with my dad i spoke to his mum even though we weren't close about it and she tried to talk to him but idk now he's buggered off to russia. i have no idea what you could do except try get other family members to talk to her. really, your just gonna have to tell her how you feel and how it's affecting you, it's only thing you can do rly

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I won't follow her. What upsets me most is that my real dad moved back to Ireland because he was an alcoholic, and now mum is going down the same road. But also, I have lost so much respect for her she's just another person in the house to me now, not like a mother.

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Hide her stuff it will be for her own good!

If she carries on like this she will be too used to having a drink at 3 then 6 etc

If you hide it she wont have nothing she will know she can go without a drink and in due time start only having drink once a day, week, or as a treat.

When I hide it she goes ******* bezerk. She's in bed now, best place for her.

That must of been an extremely difficult position to be left in last night. You did really well to cope :). Thank goodness your Gran was around to at least give you some support when you needed it. You're 14 and to be honest, your mother should be supporting you and not you having to support her. School work is going to become even more important than it is now, and you should be able to at least come home and discuss school life because your future career will be at stake soon. If you feel you really need to to talk to someone, then maybe you've heard of an organisation called Child Line, www.childline.org.uk take a read and if you feel comfortable you can call them on 0800 1111, all calls are free, private and confidential, all the counsellors are trained, they will listen to you and try to help you, and at least give you some guidance.

My mum was a alcoholic so i know how you feel but 3 years ago she cehcked into rehab after getting arrested in pizza express, after 3 months she was doing well and checked out. Now 3 years later she has just finished her councelling degree and is about to set up a large councilling business (first clients are next week)

So i guess rehab is the only way but be warned it is very expensive :l.
£30,000

Try cut it down when shes sleeping pour half of her vodka down the sink (if she drinks it) Put water

Or pour her like wine down the sink
Because she will be drunk she wont know if like shes drank it allready.

Sounds like the best option for you and your siblings now would be to go and stay with your gran for a while, on the other hand 09011 30 50 60 theres the Jeremy Kyle show number and as an extra number..

If you're having problems with relatives and need answers for a chance to appear on the show call 0161 827 2399 or email [email protected]


Good luck with whatever you do and brb watching Jeremy Kyle. :)

Just stick together with your siblings, you have to ignore your mothers immature behavior and make sure you never turn out like her.

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Just stick together with your siblings, you have to ignore your mothers immature behavior and make sure you never turn out like her.

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I don't plan to turn out drinking that much. Today, I wasn't at school and it was because I was too tired (I was knackered yesterday after the night looking after them 2 but went in yesterday, today was just too tired) and now I'm worried incase people think I skived or something :(

It's just to Corronation Street!!!