How can i help my friend?

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10-09-2008, 05:17 PM
Nemo

How can i help my friend?

Well basically, he just came over to my house asking if i could print something for him, so im like yeah sure. It was english coursework. I had a lil read and omg i was like wut. it's bad. Like really bad. its about a page of size 16 writing and theres about 2 full stops in there. Its got hardly an punctuation and basically its bad. I showed my mum + sis and they pretty much had the same reaction.

I was thinking of like tutoring him, but itd be a bit weird coming from someone who is his friend and the same age as him. My sis was like she would, but then shes goin back to uni and my mum hasnt done GCSE and work and crap in ages. So i really dont know how to help him really, he cant get through GCSE writing like an infant. His mum has a condition and can't write, his dad is a psycho and his step-dad is foreign. So its a real toughy.

helpz
10-09-2008, 05:42 PM
MissAlice

Firstly they are lucky to have a friend like you. Surely the school are aware that he needs help, maybe he is already getting it and still struggling? If he isn't getting help, then now is your chance to try and do something about it, but I would seek professional support, maybe then you could get involved in helping him or even helping him as a mentor?

I know it will be difficult but try to find a diplomatic way of asking him, without embarassing him.
10-09-2008, 05:45 PM
Paulio

Maybe he's dyslexic like myself. My work at school was crap until I was allowed to use a lap top for exams and things. Personally I'd just leave it because you might just embarass him.
10-09-2008, 06:53 PM
mike475

Whats he like in other subjects, and overall as a person?

He might just epicly fail at English.
10-09-2008, 06:55 PM
Nemo

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Originally Posted by MissAlice

Firstly they are lucky to have a friend like you. Surely the school are aware that he needs help, maybe he is already getting it and still struggling? If he isn't getting help, then now is your chance to try and do something about it, but I would seek professional support, maybe then you could get involved in helping him or even helping him as a mentor?

I know it will be difficult but try to find a diplomatic way of asking him, without embarassing him.

Ty to the first bit. And hes going to a pretty crap (rough) school, which isnt really helping him as far as i know. If they were then he surely wouldn't be confident in handing in coursework like that :S.

And i would mentor him, but emberassing him and the awkwardness would just be ugh -_-

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Originally Posted by Barkseh

Maybe he's dyslexic like myself. My work at school was crap until I was allowed to use a lap top for exams and things. Personally I'd just leave it because you might just embarass him.

Thats what im afraid of, and i think his mum has dysleyxia so he might have inherited it (if you can).

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Originally Posted by mike475

Whats he like in other subjects, and overall as a person?

He might just epicly fail at English.

hes bottom in all of his classes (well im pretty sure he is, the ones he hasnt told me is, i think, because hes emberassed since he knows i get good grades)
10-09-2008, 07:48 PM
MissAlice

Couldn't you have a private word with his english tutor? He may be more grateful than embarassed. He isn't going to improve without help and support.
10-09-2008, 07:54 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by MissAlice

Couldn't you have a private word with his english tutor? He may be more grateful than embarassed. He isn't going to improve without help and support.

Well i couldnt really, i dont go to his school and i obviously know none of his teachers, i spose i could get my mum to ask his mum to do it, but then how would my mum have known without me letting her read some work she wasnt meant to. He lives 2 doors away from me btw, thats how i know him.
10-09-2008, 08:00 PM
MissAlice

You could always suggest to him that if he ever needs a hand with english homework, and this is providing you have the time, that he can call on you for help :)
10-09-2008, 08:04 PM
Nemo

Quote:

Originally Posted by MissAlice

You could always suggest to him that if he ever needs a hand with english homework, and this is providing you have the time, that he can call on you for help :)

Mmh i spose ill give it a go. I just dont wanna make him seem like im intruding and acting all stuck up since i do better than him at school. I guess it cant hurt though.
10-09-2008, 08:04 PM
Bef

U cud just let him hav urs. if ur in dif schools it wont matter...
10-09-2008, 08:04 PM
camera

im sure he'll be grateful if you offered.
10-09-2008, 08:07 PM
Nemo

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Originally Posted by Bef

U cud just let him hav urs. if ur in dif schools it wont matter...

But when he comes to exams etc. Hes doomed. Also i hate giving people my work xD, if people are gonna get some good grade on it, i want them to atleast work for it.
10-09-2008, 08:14 PM
MissAlice

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Originally Posted by lNaughtynemo

Mmh i spose ill give it a go. I just dont wanna make him seem like im intruding and acting all stuck up since i do better than him at school. I guess it cant hurt though.

If he wants to do better, then you are at least offering him help. It's then up to him, just give him time.
10-09-2008, 08:31 PM
spareparts

I agree with Alice. Just tell him that you'll help him with is English work if he ever needs it and then he has the choice to come to you when he needs help without feeling like your saying "your work is crap let me help", you know?
11-09-2008, 12:39 AM
Ostinato

Well if you are both the same age and stuff I guess you are doing English too?

If so, why not suggest to him you both maybe get together and have some study sessions together or something... Don't make it out as though it's all for his benefit, maybe say you prefer studying with other people and then you could try and help him through that?

Maybe if you do, do that and offer him a bit of co-operative learning it will help him.

That way it kinda looks as though he is actually doing you the favour, but at the same time lets you have the opportunity to try and help him out a bit.

I must say though, you are obviously a really good mate and he is lucky to have you. (Y)
11-09-2008, 02:26 AM
GhostFace-

wow ur a good friend niamh

tell him his papers crap and tell him you want to tutor him
11-09-2008, 02:31 AM
5,5

Tell him he sucks at life.
11-09-2008, 04:49 AM
BlueEyedSarah

I am suprised the school has not seen this for themself and provided him some help :S I think you need to talk to him first about the coursework rather than planning your next step on getting him a tutor and all. For all you know he may already be getting help.
11-09-2008, 03:09 PM
Crimson

If I was to be honest, don't make it obvious to him that it sucks. It would be really embarrasing for him. Instead, get him to show a teacher. If you deal with it yourself, it will probably be too much for you to handle. Say if he's dyslexic then the teachers would know from this work. If nothing happens, maybe even say something to your own teacher at your school and they could point a direction for him.
11-09-2008, 03:47 PM
Emzy

Ask if he wouldn't mind you checking it over for him then if he says yes just sort things out. Tell him he'll get a better grade with your help
12-09-2008, 09:13 PM
Nemo

I attempted to ask him coz iwas talkin to him today, but i didnt know how to say it without me looking like a big head and me looking like i think hes stupid.
13-09-2008, 07:54 AM
Earthquake

Why don't you do it for him?
13-09-2008, 06:18 PM
Nemo

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Originally Posted by Beautiful

Why don't you do it for him?

Because i dont want people to cruise through life with my work.