Gah. Relationships.

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17-02-2010, 09:10 PM
Jam-ez

Gah. Relationships.

Hello all :D

Yes I haven't posted in a while and everyone that knew me probably doesn't anymore - but haiho, here I am. Anyway, yes, let's get into the plane old boring and sticky stuff.

Around about ... June last year I started going out with this girl I really, really like. I'm 15 and had never gone out with anyone before (no social life detected (yn)) but yeah. We stopped talking over the summer (I don't know why, I still like her and still did then.. I presume nerves just got the better of me or something) and then ended it as a joint decision around the start of September.

As I said, I still like her and have all this time... But now one of my best friends has started dating her (since around the start of January). I've started getting all touchy and annoyed with him and whenever they're in school touching each other or whatever it really makes me want to smash him in the face and push him off a cliff - I mean isn't it obvious that best friend's don't date ex-girlfriend's or something?

So yah. Thing is we've started talking a lot more on MSN and stuff - we're always on webcam too. She was pissed off at me before cause she thought I fancied this other girl (who I'd never go out with even if I was a forty year old virgin or something). I finally convinced her I don't; but she keeps telling me she's always thinking of me, misses me and wants to get back together.

I'm totally confused. Her boyfriend (my.. hmph, best friend) is just playing WoW all the time and doesn't talk to her as much as I do.

I have no idea what to do... Should I just sit back and let it flow or something? I'd really like to get back together with her :)

Well thanks for any help guys, +rep if I actually have rep.
Regards,
Jam-ez.
17-02-2010, 10:01 PM
chantellehugs

I don't think you should do anything, fair enough, it would of been better for your friend to have asked if you were okay with him dating the girl you'd finished with 4 months ago, but don't cheat with his girlfriend.
I think if you have a problem with them touching each other in school you need to talk to him about it.
If you do decide to go with the girl, it's gonna cause more problems, if she wants to get back together, she needs to break it off with your friend. She can't have both of you.
:)
In other words, LET IT FLOW, SIT BACK AND WATCH HOW THINGS UNFOLD.
17-02-2010, 10:19 PM
Jam-ez

Quote:

Originally Posted by ,Chantelle.

I don't think you should do anything, fair enough, it would of been better for your friend to have asked if you were okay with him dating the girl you'd finished with 4 months ago, but don't cheat with his girlfriend.
I think if you have a problem with them touching each other in school you need to talk to him about it.
If you do decide to go with the girl, it's gonna cause more problems, if she wants to get back together, she needs to break it off with your friend. She can't have both of you.
:)
In other words, LET IT FLOW, SIT BACK AND WATCH HOW THINGS UNFOLD.

Yeah, I know. He asked me after he asked her and she said yes. :(
Hmm, I suppose.
Yeah that's what I told her, I'm not going out with her while she's with him! :P

A'rite, thanks (: +rep
17-02-2010, 10:26 PM
Stryderman

Theres no rule about dating your friends ex's

If that happened half the people i was with i wouldnt of been with.

You find new people or people youve not noticed before all the time, jus happens :P
17-02-2010, 10:32 PM
Pyroka

As hex said theres no rule dating your friends ex's but thing is he plays world of warcraft he deserves to lose her. you need to tell her to dump the guy or they wont get back together cuz she obv needs a push.

youre just dramatizing it all tbh tell her to dump him or youll walk away cuz u dont need that crap. or even better **** relationships and become a playa LOL
17-02-2010, 10:33 PM
Stryderman

^^

Or you could learn something really cool and impress her an she will be like phwoar i want a bit of that ;);)
17-02-2010, 10:34 PM
Pyroka

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

^^

Or you could learn something really cool and impress her an she will be like phwoar i want a bit of that ;);)

im pretty sure she does want 'a bit of that' already

come on hes competing against a world of warcraft player whats gonna happen is he gonna challenge him to a duel and be like i damage u 200??
17-02-2010, 10:36 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pyroka

im pretty sure she does want 'a bit of that' already

come on hes competing against a world of warcraft player whats gonna happen is he gonna challenge him to a duel and be like i damage u 200??

You never know she might play WoW aswell an they might be tlkin to each other online.
17-02-2010, 10:36 PM
Pyroka

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

You never know she might play WoW aswell an they might be tlkin to each other online.

dont be silly shes a girl
17-02-2010, 10:37 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pyroka

dont be silly shes a girl

Dont be so sexist!!

I thought they made female characters on WoW anyway
17-02-2010, 10:38 PM
Pyroka

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

Dont be so sexist!!

I thought they made female characters on WoW anyway

they did so that guys could be girls

havent you seen this on habbo???
17-02-2010, 10:39 PM
Jam-ez

Jesus you guys post fast!

Hur, no she doesn't play WoW! :P

Well thanks, I'll just let it flow me thinks, seems like the best option.
17-02-2010, 10:39 PM
Pyroka

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jam-ez

Jesus you guys post fast!

Hur, no she doesn't play WoW! :P

Well thanks, I'll just let it flow me thinks, seems like the best option.

told you so girls dont play wow
17-02-2010, 10:40 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pyroka

they did so that guys could be girls

havent you seen this on habbo???

No i have never seen a crossdresser on habbo unless they lose a gender bet or something, Didnt know they had holodice on WoW :P
17-02-2010, 10:40 PM
Glitter

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

Theres no rule about dating your friends ex's

If that happened half the people i was with i wouldnt of been with.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pyroka

As hex said theres no rule dating your friends ex's

THERE DEFINITELY IS A RULE!! It's un unspoken one, but its definitely something that best friends should not do!!!!!!!!!
17-02-2010, 10:41 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

THERE DEFINITELY IS A RULE!! It's un unspoken one, but its definitely something that best friends should not do!!!!!!!!!

No its not if its not down in writing then it doesnt exist.

Its like that area code rule

"if you both arnt in the same area code it doesnt class as cheating"
17-02-2010, 10:41 PM
Jam-ez

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

THERE DEFINITELY IS A RULE!! It's un unspoken one, but its definitely something that best friends should not do!!!!!!!!!

Yeah.. Especially without asking, bah. Oh well! +rep
17-02-2010, 10:43 PM
Glitter

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

No its not if its not down in writing then it doesnt exist.

Its like that area code rule

"if you both arnt in the same area code it doesnt class as cheating"

so if your best friend went out with a girl/boy you've been with for a year or so a week after you'd broken up, you wouldn't be pissed off?
It's not allowed.... you just wouldn't.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jam-ez

Yeah.. Especially without asking, bah. Oh well! +rep

AWFUL! I'd go mental x
17-02-2010, 10:45 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

so if your best friend went out with a girl/boy you've been with for a year or so a week after you'd broken up, you wouldn't be pissed off?
It's not allowed.... you just wouldn't.

AWFUL! I'd go mental x

Its not a week after its 3 months after.

And no i wouldnt ive done it to alot of my mates and they never had a problem with it, Im not gonna get permission to get with someone.
17-02-2010, 10:48 PM
Glitter

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

Its not a week after its 3 months after.

And no i wouldnt ive done it to alot of my mates and they never had a problem with it, Im not gonna get permission to get with someone.

yeah i was just giving you a scenario!
and you're obv a **** friend then in all fairness.
17-02-2010, 10:49 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

yeah i was just giving you a scenario!
and you're obv a **** friend then in all fairness.

Not at all but im not gonna wait until soemone is done moping about over their ex if i want to get in with the action.

Its stupid if you do that youll miss your chances of everything.
17-02-2010, 10:50 PM
Glitter

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

Not at all but im not gonna wait until soemone is done moping about over their ex if i want to get in with the action.

Its stupid if you do that youll miss your chances of everything.

and what exactly is 'everything'?
a quick fumble that could ruin a good friendship?
17-02-2010, 10:51 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

and what exactly is 'everything'?
a quick fumble that could ruin a good friendship?

If you never give things like that ago your never gonna find out if it works instead your just going to be like should of got with her.
17-02-2010, 10:52 PM
Glitter

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

If you never give things like that ago your never gonna find out if it works instead your just going to be like should of got with her.

well no, theres plenty of people out there, don't really need to go for a mates ex.
17-02-2010, 10:53 PM
Pyroka

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

No i have never seen a crossdresser on habbo unless they lose a gender bet or something, Didnt know they had holodice on WoW :P

let me introduce you to alkaz

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

THERE DEFINITELY IS A RULE!! It's un unspoken one, but its definitely something that best friends should not do!!!!!!!!!

innit id never do it no matte howww fit

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

No its not if its not down in writing then it doesnt exist.

Its like that area code rule

"if you both arnt in the same area code it doesnt class as cheating"

LOL thats so dreadful

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jam-ez

Yeah.. Especially without asking, bah. Oh well! +rep

******* he didnt the scammer ive done it before to a mate but i asked and like proper insisted he was ok with it which was ok since we only lasted a week lol

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

Its not a week after its 3 months after.

And no i wouldnt ive done it to alot of my mates and they never had a problem with it, Im not gonna get permission to get with someone.

what realy wow.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

yeah i was just giving you a scenario!
and you're obv a **** friend then in all fairness.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
17-02-2010, 10:54 PM
Stryderman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

well no, theres plenty of people out there, don't really need to go for a mates ex.

Yeh an one of them people could turn out to be your mates ex.

Theres no rule against it, its been 3 months whats the problem?

How long do you have to wait then 5 years? :rolleyes:
17-02-2010, 10:56 PM
Glitter

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

Yeh an one of them people could turn out to be your mates ex.

Theres no rule against it, its been 3 months whats the problem?

How long do you have to wait then 5 years? :rolleyes:

Yeah theres no rule on writing that says 'Don't get with a mates ex' but you just shouldn't do it. Its standarrrrdddd that real friends don't do it.
and no, you've gotta wait until there completely over there ex.... and talk about it... which this kid clearly isn't!!!!!!
17-02-2010, 11:02 PM
Jam-ez

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glitter

Yeah theres no rule on writing that says 'Don't get with a mates ex' but you just shouldn't do it. Its standarrrrdddd that real friends don't do it.
and no, you've gotta wait until there completely over there ex.... and talk about it... which this kid clearly isn't!!!!!!

Quite clearly.
18-02-2010, 01:11 PM
MrGazet

Well,I suppose your mate is not a veryy good one since he dated your ex.Yes,there are no rules for dating ex but a GOOD friend should know that its a big no-no.

Since now,she's with your mate,then I think you shouldn't do anything yet until they are both done especially behind his back cause she is STILL with him despite him playing WoW all the time.

Just let things flow and see wot happens but telll her clearly though that if she wants to get back with you,she should end it with his bf and not sneaking behind his back with you.You don't want things to get ugly with your mate now eh?

Since your mate dated your ex though, you could get even LOL :P

Good luck
18-02-2010, 05:12 PM
Jam-ez

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrGazet

Well,I suppose your mate is not a veryy good one since he dated your ex.Yes,there are no rules for dating ex but a GOOD friend should know that its a big no-no.

Since now,she's with your mate,then I think you shouldn't do anything yet until they are both done especially behind his back cause she is STILL with him despite him playing WoW all the time.

Just let things flow and see wot happens but telll her clearly though that if she wants to get back with you,she should end it with his bf and not sneaking behind his back with you.You don't want things to get ugly with your mate now eh?

Since your mate dated your ex though, you could get even LOL :P

Good luck

Hah, thanks a lot for your advice (:

I told her exactly that, cause he's still my friend even if he did do it and she knows that she can't date us both anyway.

I'm too damn nice to get even. :D

+rep!
20-02-2010, 11:09 PM
Hiro

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheHexGirls

Theres no rule about dating your friends ex's

If that happened half the people i was with i wouldnt of been with.

You find new people or people youve not noticed before all the time, jus happens :P

It's the bro code. One bro does not date another bro's ex.
20-02-2010, 11:11 PM
Smits

You can't do anything as long as their together, just keep talking to her.
22-02-2010, 12:33 AM
Anamations

Personlly I would Play It By ear Just get together and see where it goes from there i wouldnt go rushing in because dont forget your bestfriends in the balance and you could ruin your friendship so its a thin line :S or wait till they stop going out up to you really !
22-02-2010, 07:37 PM
Jam-ez

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hiro

It's the bro code. One bro does not date another bro's ex.

):

Quote:

Originally Posted by Smits

You can't do anything as long as their together, just keep talking to her.

yeah, I will. thanks.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anamations

Personlly I would Play It By ear Just get together and see where it goes from there i wouldnt go rushing in because dont forget your bestfriends in the balance and you could ruin your friendship so its a thin line :S or wait till they stop going out up to you really !

yeah, i will. I don't plan on upsetting anyone here.

+rep to all, thanks again.
22-02-2010, 07:48 PM
Jahova

I say get back with her, she's not comfortable with your mate.
27-02-2010, 11:25 PM
Jam-ez

Quote:

Originally Posted by DUBSTEP

I say get back with her

meh.
i wish :(
+rep.