Online Bullies

Alright, so people who bully you online think they can hide behind a computer screen but the question is, why do something so low? Why on purpose target people to spitefully hurt them. It's a complete waste of time because the person who is being bullied always get's the last laugh.

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i h8 online bullies

whos bullyin u?

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Alright, so people who bully you online think they can hide behind a computer screen but the question is, why do something so low? Why on purpose target people to spitefully hurt them. It's a complete waste of time because the person who is being bullied always get's the last laugh.

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lmao, now lets be realistic. there's a reason why those who are being bullied are a victim of bullying. if the person being bullied had the last laugh, then they wouldn't be bullied in the first place...

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Originally Posted by dirrty

lmao, now lets be realistic. there's a reason why those who are being bullied are a victim of bullying. if the person being bullied had the last laugh, then they wouldn't be bullied in the first place...

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Those who are bullied are bullied for there looks, how they act and for being different. They have the last laugh because they are the ones who get the best things in life once they have over come the bullying.

They do it because they are confident behind their computer screens. I guess it's how some obnoxious people vent their frustration and pure hatred. People who do it also never take into consideration the effect it has on people mentally.

In many cases, cyber bullies are victims of bullying themselves be it online or not. They feel powerful behind the screen where they can intimidate others. Often by getting together in groups of others to target a specific person.

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Those who are bullied are bullied for there looks, how they act and for being different. They have the last laugh because they are the ones who get the best things in life once they have over come the bullying.

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or their self-esteem is crushed so much that they develop more issues that affect their life (such as social anxieties, BDD, anorexia, etc.) so great that they feel that they're unable to function in society (how society deems they should act) or as a last resort, commit suicide.

we're being real here. not in a theoretical society or in a film where the bullied victim because a successful individual and the bully gets fat, ugly and fails at life. the fact of the matter is that not everyone overcomes bullying - and therefore remains a victim for the rest of their lives, as bullying in the workplace is also a prominent occurrence.

i dunno what this thing is with "oh they'll bully you online but they won't say it irl" lemme tell you, if i say it to you online i would say MUCH WORSE to yr face. just summat the bullied like to protect themselves with tbh.

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Originally Posted by Lee

In many cases, cyber bullies are victims of bullying themselves be it online or not. They feel powerful behind the screen where they can intimidate others. Often by getting together in groups of others to target a specific person.

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well this is rubbish.

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Originally Posted by dirrty

or their self-esteem is crushed so much that they develop more issues that affect their life (such as social anxieties, BDD, anorexia, etc.) so great that they feel that they're unable to function in society (how society deems they should act) or as a last resort, commit suicide.

we're being real here. not in a theoretical society or in a film where the bullied victim because a successful individual and the bully gets fat, ugly and fails at life. the fact of the matter is that not everyone overcomes bullying - and therefore remains a victim for the rest of their lives, as bullying in the workplace is also a prominent occurrence.

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Some people will do the above but most people who become bullied learn to get over it in time and once that happens, that truelly is the last laugh that bully victims get on a bully.

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Originally Posted by bethany

i dunno what this thing is with "oh they'll bully you online but they won't say it irl" lemme tell you, if i say it to you online i would say MUCH WORSE to yr face. just summat the bullied like to protect themselves with tbh.

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well this is rubbish.

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Nope, it's actually quite accurate.

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Originally Posted by Rhw

They do it because they are confident behind their computer screens. I guess it's how some obnoxious people vent their frustration and pure hatred. People who do it also never take into consideration the effect it has on people mentally.

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This pretty much really ^. Half (i'm not saying it's the case for everyone :rolleyes:) the stuff people say online would not be said by them in reality, I've unfortunately been a victim to cyber bullying before and it is a horrific thing for someone to do to another person but I can see why virtual reality makes people so much more confident and at times cruel, it's probably the reason why we have trolls as well. Because it's all done through a screen you can't do anything to the "troll" irl so they have this fake illusion that they're invincible online.

Of course, I've seen cases on other sites where trolls have been "beaten" by "regular people" online, but the methods were very extreme + involved in people getting banned from sites lol. Won't say anymore.

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Oh, also agreeing with what people are saying about the victim getting the last laugh - very untrue lol.

The fantastic thing about cyber bullying is that if someone harasses you then you just ignore them.

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Some people will do the above but most people who become bullied learn to get over it in time and once that happens, that truelly is the last laugh that bully victims get on a bully.

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i still fail to see how the victim is getting the last laugh - they were being bullied and i really doubt the bully cares what the victim is doing in the future. so no, they don't get the last laugh. they may learn from their experiences, but that doesn't mean anything in relation to the bully as they're long gone and living their own lives.

and no, you'd be surprised how many individuals develop embedded issues because of what happened to them when they were younger. overcoming something isn't as mainstream and easy as you make it out to be. those who suffer in silence prolong the issue until it could evolve into something else and manifests further. obviously some victims do get over what occurred in their younger years, but definitely not 'most people' in those situations lmao

@Lee; how was my post pointless? it was on topic and i was just saying my opinion!

i think @dirrty; is probably right here.
usually the victim does not laugh, the are often the one's to comitt suicide. last time i checked, that wasn't having the last laugh.

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Originally Posted by dirrty

i still fail to see how the victim is getting the last laugh - they were being bullied and i really doubt the bully cares what the victim is doing in the future. so no, they don't get the last laugh. they may learn from their experiences, but that doesn't mean anything in relation to the bully as they're long gone and living their own lives.

and no, you'd be surprised how many individuals develop embedded issues because of what happened to them when they were younger. overcoming something isn't as mainstream and easy as you make it out to be. those who suffer in silence prolong the issue until it evolves into something else and manifests. obviously some victims do get what occurred in their younger years, but definitely not 'most people' in those situations lmao

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Lets just agree to disagree :) I do get your point of view.

i am very open about when i was 17 i was kicked out of sixth form for cyber bullying another and:

a) i have never been bullied myself. ever.
b) it didn't make me feel great (it was just a laugh).
c) i said much worse to their face irl.

it's not something i'm proud of (mainly because i got kicked out of sixth form, not really because of the personal issues) but it's part of my life now and people who know me have accepted that.

i'm sure i'll go to hell though guys so no worries.

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Originally Posted by bethany

i am very open about when i was 17 i was kicked out of sixth form for cyber bullying another and:

a) i have never been bullied myself. ever.
b) it didn't make me feel great (it was just a laugh).
c) i said much worse to their face irl.

it's not something i'm proud of (mainly because i got kicked out of sixth form, not really because of the personal issues) but it's part of my life now and people who know me have accepted that.

i'm sure i'll go to hell though guys so no worries.

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ooooh what did you do!?

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Originally Posted by Zedda

ooooh what did you do!?

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used to argue all the time with this guy in my class. made a few fake myspace (lol so old) accounts trolling him about the horrendous state of his teeth, made some gifs. his sister printed out msn logs. hahahah. punched him in the face irl haaaaaa.

BUT IN FAIRNESS, HE STARTED THE PHYSICAL FIGHT SO IT WAS SELF-DEFENCE AIIGHT.

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Originally Posted by bethany

used to argue all the time with this guy in my class. made a few fake myspace (lol so old) accounts trolling him about the horrendous state of his teeth, made some gifs. his sister printed out msn logs. hahahah. punched him in the face irl haaaaaa.

BUT IN FAIRNESS, HE STARTED THE PHYSICAL FIGHT SO IT WAS SELF-DEFENCE AIIGHT.

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OOOH U R NAUGHTY!
you actually went to effort by the sound of it though! hahhaaa

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Originally Posted by Zedda

OOOH U R NAUGHTY!
you actually went to effort by the sound of it though! hahhaaa

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kinda part of life though. i'm more careful now because y'know gotta move forward in life but i'd still ******* punch him if i ever saw him.

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Originally Posted by Chippiewill

The fantastic thing about cyber bullying is that if someone harasses you then you just ignore them.

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lmao innit. it's so easy to block and ignore people online (compared to real situations anyway) that i'm sometimes surprised some people are being bullied online for a prolonged period of time. but i guess some people either don't know how or believe that whatever they do won't stop the bullying.

Most people have took part in some kind of bullying regardless if it's been online or offline, whether you like it or not it's probably true. Most of the time a lot of people don't even realise they are bullying and don't realise the effect they're having an others.

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Originally Posted by bethany

i dunno what this thing is with "oh they'll bully you online but they won't say it irl" lemme tell you, if i say it to you online i would say MUCH WORSE to yr face. just summat the bullied like to protect themselves with tbh.

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well this is rubbish.

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Maybe you're just an exception to the rule as bullies or not, I think people in general are more likely to say what they really think online than they would irl.

As for cyber bullies, lots of reasons why they do it but you're living in a fairytale if you think everything will be sunshine and puppies once it's over. Never really understood cyber bullying tbh, it's a lot easier to avoid someone online (blocking them, ignoring them on Habbo etc etc) than it is in real life.

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Originally Posted by Catchy

Most people have took part in some kind of bullying regardless if it's been online or offline, whether you like it or not it's probably true. Most of the time a lot of people don't even realise they are bullying and don't realise the affect they're having an others.

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this is also very very very true. some people are just more open about it (like myself). bullying is a part of life. online bullying you either get over or make it worse for yrself by sticking around. easy as that.

Oh & btw if this thread is because you think me and @Kasabian; are 'cyber bullying' you then you need to read up on what it is.

I've cyber bullied pretty bad and been cyber bullied pretty bad. I can't really judge anyone for it.

It's not difficult to stand up for yourself online and quite frankly if you keep your personal life under your wraps no one will have any ammo to bully you for in the first place. For instance when I was an active Habbo user there was very little anyone could take the piss out of me for as the reality is, they knew nothing about me. Infact I could say that about people on here too, only a few people know me well on here so no one really stands any chance of "bullying me" as it simply wouldn't be relevant. Of course if they did I could quite easily stand up for myself. It's not difficult to be confident and confrontational online is it?

And if they were to cause me agitation I could simply ignore them, all social networks, forums etc have ignore/delete settings and if worst came to worst, it's not difficult to create a new identity for yourself online.

I don't believe for a minute people in real life get bullied because they deserve it (or at least in most cases) but the people I've seen get bullied on here over the years have all deserved it. It's the pretentious, annoying ones who reveal too much about themselves who have been bullied on here over the years and they've all deserved it. It's not like in real life where the quiet, weird or socially inept ones are picked on.

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Originally Posted by dirrty

lmao, now lets be realistic. there's a reason why those who are being bullied are a victim of bullying. if the person being bullied had the last laugh, then they wouldn't be bullied in the first place...

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yeah but the reason doesn't always stand with the bully victim. i honestly have no idea why i was a victim of bullying irl other than most probably jealousy and i'm doing better than they are so in a sense i'm having the last laugh.

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Originally Posted by dirrty

or their self-esteem is crushed so much that they develop more issues that affect their life (such as social anxieties, BDD, anorexia, etc.) so great that they feel that they're unable to function in society (how society deems they should act) or as a last resort, commit suicide.

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lol hi

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Originally Posted by Jordy

It's not difficult to stand up for yourself online and quite frankly if you keep your personal life under your wraps no one will have any ammo to bully you for in the first place. For instance when I was an active Habbo user there was very little anyone could take the piss out of me for as the reality is, they knew nothing about me. Infact I could say that about people on here too, only a few people know me well on here so no one really stands any chance of "bullying me" as it simply wouldn't be relevant. Of course if they did I could quite easily stand up for myself. It's not difficult to be confident and confrontational online is it?

And if they were to cause me agitation I could simply ignore them, all social networks, forums etc have ignore/delete settings and if worst came to worst, it's not difficult to create a new identity for yourself online.

I don't believe for a minute people in real life get bullied because they deserve it (or at least in most cases) but the people I've seen get bullied on here over the years have all deserved it. It's the pretentious, annoying ones who reveal too much about themselves who have been bullied on here over the years and they've all deserved it. It's not like in real life where the quiet, weird or socially inept ones are picked on.

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i agree with the first part. if you put yourself out there online you're more likely to be bullied. irl people will pick on your appearance even if you haven't said or done anything while online they cant unless you show yourself. when i first posted on here i got the **** ripped out of me for how i looked but i didn't really give a **** as there were plenty other people i could talk to.

i disagree with the last part, people can be nice but post a picture and suddenly they're a bully victim for life. a lot of the annoying, pretentious people are the actual bullies. i'm extremely open about my life both irl and online and i don't get bullied anymore. it's always the quieter ones who keep to themselves who are seen as weird and become victims, not those that tell all about their lives :/ on here pretty much everyone who first starts out will be 'annoying' as they don't know how to act and 'fit in' and thus become bully victims. i don't think it's a simple case of anyone deserving it. no-one really deserves bullying, if they were ******** who 'deserved' it then surely they'd be the bullies or able to handle it and therefore not exactly be bullying....

anyway disagree with O/P i don't particularly like bullying but it's so SIMPLE to make a few remarks here and there (which isn't really bullying unless you specifically and continually target a person who hasn't even provoked you) but like the rest say, you can choose to ignore it and it's up to you to show what you want to the rest. victims don't always get the last laugh, especially not online where you can't actually see their life or future like someone else mentioned.

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

why do something so low?

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Fun

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Why on purpose target people to spitefully hurt them.

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Fun

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

It's a complete waste of time because the person who is being bullied always get's the last laugh.

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Would you like to expand on that? Unless you've been watching She's All That too much (which I wouldn't really fault you for, it's a fab film) I don't see why you'd truly believe that the majority of victims turn out better than the bullies

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Those who are bullied are bullied for there looks, how they act and for being different. They have the last laugh because they are the ones who get the best things in life once they have over come the bullying.

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You mean people who are weird/stupid/ugly have the best things in life, always? Gonna be honest, the people on top usually manage to stay there if they're any good at what they do

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Originally Posted by Lee

In many cases, cyber bullies are victims of bullying themselves be it online or not.

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This is entirely false in all of my experience except for one person

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Some people will do the above but most people who become bullied learn to get over it in time and once that happens, that truelly is the last laugh that bully victims get on a bully.

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Don't get me wrong it's great that some people manage to pick themselves up and get over it, but I really don't think that will really do anything to make the (ex) bully's life any worse. If you said "many bully victims do ok for themselves later in life" that may be true but long-term success doesn't really cause any detriment to short-term amusement

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Originally Posted by Jordy

It's not difficult to stand up for yourself online and quite frankly if you keep your personal life under your wraps no one will have any ammo to bully you for in the first place.

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Totes disagree, for one it's very easy to make things up about people if you want to bully them and then just feed off the reaction, and also if it's somewhat institutionalised (ie: other people join in and make it the thing to do) then it's really not that easy to get past in a small community

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Originally Posted by buttons

when i first posted on here i got the **** ripped out of me for how i looked

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Jen Winehouse*+*

As an ex-bully (and possibly once one of the harshest in these here parts) whose grand total of victim experience is someone chasing me with a glue stick one break time when I was 12 I feel I'm somewhat qualified to talk on this subject without the rubbish "BULIZ R ALWAY BULLED THEMSLEF!" type rhetoric. It's a power and social hierarchical matter based mostly on ignorance and amusement, very seldom anything more

I don't understand how people can say they're being bullied online. Any social networking site / forums have the option to block a user. Fair enough people may see pictures of yourself and insult you but it's your fault for letting them get those pictures. At the end of the day it's the internet, so people thinking they're being bullied should 1) block the user bullying them 2) move onto a different website. I'm just telling you up straight, if someone genuinely gets upset over something side on a website like habbo they really need to sort themselves out.

Thanks for all your comments.

P.S - I wrote this thread not for myself but to see what others think about this topic.

This whole thing angers me. People bully online, in my opinion, to get attention and make themselves look the hard man. I'm not saying that's always the case but 9 out of 10 times people bully to look good in front of their friends. If you're being bullied online there are things you can do to help and prevent this. But the easy way is just to ignore it. Laugh it off and leave the person/people causing you problems see you're not bothered, they'll soon get bored. :)

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Originally Posted by Glitzen

This whole thing angers me. People bully online, in my opinion, to get attention and make themselves look the hard man. I'm not saying that's always the case but 9 out of 10 times people bully to look good in front of their friends. If you're being bullied online there are things you can do to help and prevent this. But the easy way is just to ignore it. Laugh it off and leave the person/people causing you problems see you're not bothered, they'll soon get bored. :)

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I agree so much with what you said.

Also people say oh when you've been bullied it's not always good ect.. But it's not always all doom and gloom either is it.
Yes some people might have problems but people get over them. Its when they get over them and get on with their lives that I am talking about getting the last laugh. Yes bullies might not care that your finally free from them because they'll find another victim to pick on but who cares about the bullies? If any of yous have really been bullied, you'll know that once you accept yourself for who you are, your getting the last laugh on them bullies because you haven't let them ruin your life.

Attention everyone: if you haven't been the one doing it you cannot accurately speculate on the reasons that others act in a certain way. Unsourced pseudopsychology has no place in the real world and no, "it's just my opinion" will not cut it if you're blatantly wrong

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Originally Posted by FlyingJesus

Attention everyone: if you haven't been the one doing it you cannot accurately speculate on the reasons that others act in a certain way. Unsourced pseudopsychology has no place in the real world and no, "it's just my opinion" will not cut it if you're blatantly wrong

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hence why i said "it's just my opinion". i never said i was right, but i never said i was wrong. nobody will know what goes through the minds of the people who feel the need to make other people feel so down about themselves.......

boredom, usually.

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Originally Posted by Glitzen

hence why i said "it's just my opinion".

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Wow you even come out with that point after I specifically said it's not a good one, brilliant. Here's something to think about: if something has hard facts behind it, there is no such thing as opinion concerning it. It's like if you wear green and it's literally just because you think that colour suits you then someone says "nope I think it's because you're dissatisfied with the lack of natural colouring in your surroundings" that is not them having a valid opinion, it is them being wrong.

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Originally Posted by Glitzen

nobody will know what goes through the minds of the people who feel the need to make other people feel so down about themselves.......

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Well actually yeah I think the people who do it will know, which was kinda my point.

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Alright, so people who bully you online think they can hide behind a computer screen but the question is, why do something so low? Why on purpose target people to spitefully hurt them. It's a complete waste of time because the person who is being bullied always get's the last laugh.

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This is hardly ever the case, there are people from Habbox who have been bullied and have left Habbo now yet they're still laughed at by people and jokes are constantly still being made out of them. I don't see how that's getting the last laugh.

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Originally Posted by CaptainAce

Those who are bullied are bullied for there looks, how they act and for being different. They have the last laugh because they are the ones who get the best things in life once they have over come the bullying.

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There's no evidence to support your statement so sorry I consider that to be void.

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Originally Posted by Lee

In many cases, cyber bullies are victims of bullying themselves be it online or not. They feel powerful behind the screen where they can intimidate others. Often by getting together in groups of others to target a specific person.

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Maybe true in some circumstances but I can tell you now it's usually not the case, cyber bullies usually don't do it to make themselves seem 'hard' or good on the internet. They usually just do it because they get a laugh out of it and when everyone is joining in it's not easy to not conform to your friends behaviour. Jumping on the bandwagon shall we say.

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Originally Posted by bethany

i dunno what this thing is with "oh they'll bully you online but they won't say it irl" lemme tell you, if i say it to you online i would say MUCH WORSE to yr face. just summat the bullied like to protect themselves with tbh.

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well this is rubbish.

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Yeah I guess this is true sometimes, it depends really. I do believe it's a lot easier for some people to say things online rather than real life because all you can get back is words on a screen where as if it was real life you never really know what you're going to get back. I guess it depends on the person really.

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Originally Posted by dirrty

lmao innit. it's so easy to block and ignore people online (compared to real situations anyway) that i'm sometimes surprised some people are being bullied online for a prolonged period of time. but i guess some people either don't know how or believe that whatever they do won't stop the bullying.

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Like @FlyingJesus; said it is really easier said than done, when there's a big group of users picking on someone it can seem like they're never going to live it down.

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Originally Posted by Jordy

It's not difficult to stand up for yourself online and quite frankly if you keep your personal life under your wraps no one will have any ammo to bully you for in the first place.[/B] For instance when I was an active Habbo user there was very little anyone could take the piss out of me for as the reality is, they knew nothing about me. Infact I could say that about people on here too, only a few people know me well on here so no one really stands any chance of "bullying me" as it simply wouldn't be relevant. Of course if they did I could quite easily stand up for myself. It's not difficult to be confident and confrontational online is it?

And if they were to cause me agitation I could simply ignore them, all social networks, forums etc have ignore/delete settings and if worst came to worst, it's not difficult to create a new identity for yourself online.

I don't believe for a minute people in real life get bullied because they deserve it (or at least in most cases) but the people I've seen get bullied on here over the years have all deserved it. It's the pretentious, annoying ones who reveal too much about themselves who have been bullied on here over the years and they've all deserved it. It's not like in real life where the quiet, weird or socially inept ones are picked on.

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Depends on the person really, personally I give as good as I get and if someone tries to 'bully' me online or says snide comments about me I either ignore it, laugh it off, or it just doesn't phase me. One of the other. Some people aren't like that though. Oh and the thing about people deserving it well there's been loads of Habbox users who've been picked on because of the way they look, why shouldn't you be able to post a picture of yourself and get nice comments? Even if you're not very good looking or whatever, nobody deserves harsh comments about the way they look so I don't see how they can deserve it? It's not their fault for being ugly. Sure they could not post a picture but they might not think they look bad, they might have no idea? Plus I highly doubt people would go around calling randomers munters to their face and picking out every fault in real life.

Anyways personally I don't think there's a particular reason that online bullies most people are quick to say "yh they must have been bullied" or "they must be an angry kid in real life" usually this isn't the case, sometimes people just get involved with groups who do bully people online (whether they know they do or not) and usually just conform to it.

I'm not no saint or anything and I've done my share of online bullying when I was younger and to be fair I did it because I seen other people doing it and sometimes it'll be funny seeing the reaction I'd get off people. I don't shout it off the rooftops because it's not something I go around raving about but it is a part of my past and I can't change that in anyway.

To the above user, read the post above yours that I have made. Then you will see how it's getting the last laugh.